When I read the responses to the blogs that I, or others write, I am looking to see if there are trends, or commonalities in those responses. One of the trends that I have seen come up fairly often is the question of “am I gay”? Now, to be clear, and get this out of the way, I am writing this with zero judgement. If you are gay, and purchase lingerie from X-Dress, great, enjoy it. If you are heterosexual and you purchase lingerie from X-Dress, great, enjoy it. The point that I want to discuss is the fact that, most men, myself included, who enjoy wearing lingerie, have questioned their sexuality. If I enjoy wearing bra’s and panties, and other sexy lingerie, that must mean that I am gay. Well, I for one, can tell you that I am a heterosexual male who loves wearing lingerie. In fact, so much so, that I have more than my girlfriend, and I wear it daily.
As I have written in previous blogs, such as What would she say? or What's wrong with feeling pretty? I bring up the point of, what would happen if you told your spouse or your significant other of your secret obsession. Victoria isn’t the only one with a secret. So, if you did “break the news”, or have “broke the news”, was the first question that you got asked, “Are you gay’? As I have read, many have asked themselves that very question, and they have also been on the receiving end of it.
As I write this blog, I am at home, and am wearing the Glow Lace Brazil Panty with the matching black Glow Lace Popover Bra, and Sexy Lace Garter with stockings underneath my skirt and blouse. I love how it makes me feel, and I love to look pretty and sexy for when my girlfriend gets home from work. She will give me “the look” for sure, and then a big grin, and I know that there will be a sparkle in her eye when she see’s the garter. So, when I wear what I enjoy wearing, what does that have to do with my sexuality? Why do our and other’s minds go directly to sexual orientation when it comes to what we wear? So, because I am wearing satin and lace panties, I should automatically then be attracted to men? Or the reverse, if you are gay, and do not wear lingerie, and don your tighty whity’s, should you then be attracted to women? I think that this is such an interesting issue.
Society sure likes to place rules and labels to things. If a women decides to put on work boots and her boyfriends t-shirt and heads out on the town, no one would even look twice. No comment, no questioning of sexuality internally or externally, and all would be well. Now, I put on lingerie, and wear a dress or a skirt, and have my nails painted, BAM, can you imagine the looks, the comments, and well, the shame. Interesting, isn’t it? For this reason, I do not dress and go out in public. I do it in the comfort and safety of my home. Although, I do underdress everyday. I am so thankful to XDress to provide a great product that not only fits great, made well, but also lets me feel pretty and sexy on the inside and the outside.
I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. I find it incredibly powerful to read these blogs and know that I am not alone. It took my quite a while to embrace the self-acceptance of my feminine side, and to really enjoy the XDress products without feeling shame. As I mentioned, I did go through a period of self-questioning about my sexuality. But then quickly came to the conclusion, that, it’s just who I am a heterosexual man who love the finer things in life such as satin and lace. I am also very fortunate to have a girlfriend who loves me for me, and encourages me to be myself. We both win.
I would love to hear your thoughts, stories, struggles, and outcomes of your XDress journey.
WB
27 comments
Having been married for 32 years and now widowed for 6 years, I get much enjoyment from wearing satin, lace and other items from yourselves and Bodyaware. They make me feel so good and sensual. I wish your range could be extended to t shirts and thigh length shorts in satin !! Gender doesn’t matter to me. Keep up the good work.
Wow! What a topic! The always underlying question for us and those who we tell of find out about us! The question we don’t want asked, the one we will defend to the death
The reason is that society has until recently frowned on gay men! Thats just the truth. But now that there is more acceptance of gay men, straight men wearing what’s considered feminine clothing is still not acceptable
No surprise! We don’t march and elect candidates who promote crossdressing. There’s no push for equal rights for crossdressers
Now as far as struggles i questioned myself but my answers were always no. My mantra is u be u and respect everyone. I didn’t want to tell my wife! I didn’t want her to ask me! Especially before I knew the answer
Now I m very comfortable in my own skin, very comfortable with myself and my clothing choices. I wear under every day! I have stealth panties for doctor visits and the gym
I don’t wear dresses or heels out but I do inside though not in front of my wife. She doesn’t like it! So we have come to an agreement and it works for us! I m happy with it
I can’t wait to hear the responses