When I read the responses to the blogs that I, or others write, I am looking to see if there are trends, or commonalities in those responses. One of the trends that I have seen come up fairly often is the question of “am I gay”? Now, to be clear, and get this out of the way, I am writing this with zero judgement. If you are gay, and purchase lingerie from X-Dress, great, enjoy it. If you are heterosexual and you purchase lingerie from X-Dress, great, enjoy it. The point that I want to discuss is the fact that, most men, myself included, who enjoy wearing lingerie, have questioned their sexuality. If I enjoy wearing bra’s and panties, and other sexy lingerie, that must mean that I am gay. Well, I for one, can tell you that I am a heterosexual male who loves wearing lingerie. In fact, so much so, that I have more than my girlfriend, and I wear it daily.
As I have written in previous blogs, such as What would she say? or What's wrong with feeling pretty? I bring up the point of, what would happen if you told your spouse or your significant other of your secret obsession. Victoria isn’t the only one with a secret. So, if you did “break the news”, or have “broke the news”, was the first question that you got asked, “Are you gay’? As I have read, many have asked themselves that very question, and they have also been on the receiving end of it.
As I write this blog, I am at home, and am wearing the Glow Lace Brazil Panty with the matching black Glow Lace Popover Bra, and Sexy Lace Garter with stockings underneath my skirt and blouse. I love how it makes me feel, and I love to look pretty and sexy for when my girlfriend gets home from work. She will give me “the look” for sure, and then a big grin, and I know that there will be a sparkle in her eye when she see’s the garter. So, when I wear what I enjoy wearing, what does that have to do with my sexuality? Why do our and other’s minds go directly to sexual orientation when it comes to what we wear? So, because I am wearing satin and lace panties, I should automatically then be attracted to men? Or the reverse, if you are gay, and do not wear lingerie, and don your tighty whity’s, should you then be attracted to women? I think that this is such an interesting issue.
Society sure likes to place rules and labels to things. If a women decides to put on work boots and her boyfriends t-shirt and heads out on the town, no one would even look twice. No comment, no questioning of sexuality internally or externally, and all would be well. Now, I put on lingerie, and wear a dress or a skirt, and have my nails painted, BAM, can you imagine the looks, the comments, and well, the shame. Interesting, isn’t it? For this reason, I do not dress and go out in public. I do it in the comfort and safety of my home. Although, I do underdress everyday. I am so thankful to XDress to provide a great product that not only fits great, made well, but also lets me feel pretty and sexy on the inside and the outside.
I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. I find it incredibly powerful to read these blogs and know that I am not alone. It took my quite a while to embrace the self-acceptance of my feminine side, and to really enjoy the XDress products without feeling shame. As I mentioned, I did go through a period of self-questioning about my sexuality. But then quickly came to the conclusion, that, it’s just who I am a heterosexual man who love the finer things in life such as satin and lace. I am also very fortunate to have a girlfriend who loves me for me, and encourages me to be myself. We both win.
I would love to hear your thoughts, stories, struggles, and outcomes of your XDress journey.
WB
30 comments
Wow, an interesting question. I do not consider myself gay but I know I have a feminine side to which your wonderful lingerie caters. As I look back to pre-hiv, I see that I did go through a phase of questioning my sexuality. I would sneak into my sister’s room and put onher bra and panties. I really was wondering but societal norms kept me away from any experimental behavior. There were several times I could have had a gay experience but I really think I was afraid I was going to enjoy it! Now I am married for many years and enjoy being a heterosexual who loves wearing bras, panties and nighties. But a part of me way deep inside still wonders.
While I have been a regular buyer and wearer of lingerie from both Xdress and what I could find on my own on EBAY and other sites. I find the most difficult part is reassuring myself that what I am doing is completely normal for a straight guy. I first started back in the day with just wearing thongs for guys, then I found this site when it was still called Bodyaware, I was intrigued so I bought a couple of satin thongs because I liked the cut, styles and colors, after a while wearing these I was hooked and have never looked back. Since I have only exclusively worn panties, I don’t worry about stealth too much as I don’t care what other people think. But if you prefer other people didn’t know what you have underneath stick with blacks and whites and save the more louder colors for private or wear regular mens boxers over the top until you feel confident enough to wear normally. (This is how I originally started wearing my panties) Lastly, as others have mentioned you are not Gay if you wear panties but these are made especially for guys, and also if you are Gay that’s OK too. Life is short, enjoy what you can while you can, and Live Your own Life.
I like xdress lingerie it feels so sexy on me, I love taking pictures of me and hanging out in my place. On I’ am also a bi gay
This is so great the article that you wrote in the paper. I have enjoyed lingerie just about my whole life Vanity Fair very nice and your product. I have been lucky, I have some women friends that didn’t care and years ago would help me buy things my wife with 50 years has always known I told before we got married, which was the best idea, keep up the good work it’s nice to know there’s so many other men out there
I love wearing my Xdress lingerie it makes me feel sexy and hot and they look good on me too I love hanging out in them at my place and taking pics of myself with them
On I am also a bi guy