Given the Opportunity

Given the Opportunity

As a woman, if you had told me a year and a half ago my SO would be wearing sexy satin and lacey bras, panties, and accessories, I would have said you were nuts. Meeting my SO changed all of that.  I knew going into this relationship he enjoyed wearing lace and satin and I was fine with exploring what that would be like.  In the back of my mind, I did question if this attire would be a simple phase or if it was something that would be ongoing … for both of us.  

I wondered if I was ok with it because I really liked him and wanted it to work - would that acceptance and enjoyment fizzle after a short time of being together?  Would his ‘exploration’, which was fairly new, last?  Or would he realize this wasn’t for him but was in fact a phase?  I had no clue how this would go as it was all so new for me. I did, however, hope that it would work the same for both of us!

Just over a year into our relationship, I couldn’t imagine enjoying the look and feel of the satin and lace on his body any more than I do.  

A few weeks ago I was in the kitchen making a rhubarb crisp – his favorite summer dessert – when he disappeared.  I assumed he was off to work in his home office or read a book.  Only minutes later, he reappeared wearing my favorite lingerie - his blue glossy and lace panties with matching bra, garter, stockings, and lipstick and I love the confidence it brings out in him.  Depending on what he chooses to wear, I see different energy in him.  This was incredibly sexy … and he joined me in completing the crisp!

It’s actually a little strange to see him in briefs when he does wear them!  Perhaps when he does it’s a little hint that we need to go shopping. ; )

I absolutely love going shopping with my SO – either online at XDress or in person at the malls.  I do wish XDress had an outlet where we live so we could go in and experience the shopping in person.  I think we both love the personal attention we receive when the salesperson realizes it’s my SO we’re shopping for and not me!  We had an amazing experience with one saleslady who was so supportive and assisted us in finding what we were looking for.  She let us know we are not the only people shopping for lingerie ‘for him’ (though that doesn’t matter to us AT ALL!)  We love the merchandise from XD because everything fits well.

The most recent purchase added to the collection is matching satin nighties.  I like the idea of matching and wearing lingerie for him to enjoy as well.  It feels good to have this kind of connection with my SO.  I’m grateful he discussed this with me prior to us dating – it gave me time to process the idea and a better understanding of why he does it, and the opportunity to grow with him.  It’s really fantastic to go through new experiences with him.  We continue to grow and explore in this area and I love every bit of it!

Lots of Satiny Hugs!


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I agree with AL, a man can be a man but feel sexy wearing sexy lingerie! Lingerie is sexy – why shouldn’t men get to wear it to decorate and enhance their bodies! Every time I go through these blogs I get more and more confident with who I am by knowing how many of us are out here doing what feels good with no shame and being confident and embracing what feels good to us. Long gone are the days of the traditional image of a cross dresser – we are normal guys living our lives and embracing what we love! Wish I had the courage to tell all my friends my little secret, still not quite brave enough yet!


Dan, I too think the XDress models are a bit too femme but I look past it as the selection on the XDress site is fantastic. Besides, they usually only show the face on the opening paste and the display pics are only of the chest and below, no faces. I think the site does a great job. I would like to see a few more skirts offered, like the pink polka dot one they had a month or so ago but overall I am happy with the site. I love to shop and was in VS today buying a garter and some panties and I openly tell the sales clerk they are for me. She spent the time today asking what I liked and I found a few pair. Of course, I always return to XDress and was SO happy to find the satin and lace panty that was just released! I bought all four colors and threw in an icy blue bra for kicks.


Michael/Michelle: Love the fact that you also like color purple in your bras & panties. Wish I could have seen them purple shoes. When you made mention about wearing your bra at Costco, it reminded me of a situation that I experienced there as well. While shopping their, I came upon two gals, one of whom was wearing a black t-shirt that read on the front.“I am no angel”. I quickkly recognized it from Lane Bryant. I know that because I purchased a pair of black panties with the same wording but on the rear of the panties. I didn’t think of it at the time but looking back on it now, I wish I had said to them…" I like that shirt from Lane Bryant because I am wearing the black panties that have the same wording"! Even though Lane Bryant caters to the full figure women (and guy’s) I love their panties as we had three (3) of their stores here in town. Unfortunately for me, I have to settle for their smallest size, which is a 12 and to be assured of getting that size, I have to go on-line. I know this because while shopping at one of their stores here in town, the sales gal informed me of this. She also said to me.." You like panties with lace, don’t you?" When I agreed, she took me over to a drawer where they had most lace/nylon panties. It is a good feeling when a store recalls what it is that you really like.


This is all good and fine but the problem I have is that my wife enjoys me in lingerie but when she looks at the site some of the models appear to be too-Fem. She says that they pose like they are gay which might be OK but for her she wants to buy lingerie for “men”. Just like she would rather pick out panties on a male model for me than ones on a female model. It’s hard to explain and not meant to offend but she would rather pick out products from body aware or the old prevail sport site than from


When I go shopping for my femme things I love it when a woman comes over to help me. I tell her that the things are for me and she doesn’t care


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