Given the Opportunity

As a woman, if you had told me a year and a half ago my SO would be wearing sexy satin and lacey bras, panties, and accessories, I would have said you were nuts. Meeting my SO changed all of that.  I knew going into this relationship he enjoyed wearing lace and satin and I was fine with exploring what that would be like.  In the back of my mind, I did question if this attire would be a simple phase or if it was something that would be ongoing … for both of us.  

I wondered if I was ok with it because I really liked him and wanted it to work - would that acceptance and enjoyment fizzle after a short time of being together?  Would his ‘exploration’, which was fairly new, last?  Or would he realize this wasn’t for him but was in fact a phase?  I had no clue how this would go as it was all so new for me. I did, however, hope that it would work the same for both of us!

Just over a year into our relationship, I couldn’t imagine enjoying the look and feel of the satin and lace on his body any more than I do.  

A few weeks ago I was in the kitchen making a rhubarb crisp – his favorite summer dessert – when he disappeared.  I assumed he was off to work in his home office or read a book.  Only minutes later, he reappeared wearing my favorite lingerie - his blue glossy and lace panties with matching bra, garter, stockings, and lipstick and I love the confidence it brings out in him.  Depending on what he chooses to wear, I see different energy in him.  This was incredibly sexy … and he joined me in completing the crisp!

It’s actually a little strange to see him in briefs when he does wear them!  Perhaps when he does it’s a little hint that we need to go shopping. ; )

I absolutely love going shopping with my SO – either online at XDress or in person at the malls.  I do wish XDress had an outlet where we live so we could go in and experience the shopping in person.  I think we both love the personal attention we receive when the salesperson realizes it’s my SO we’re shopping for and not me!  We had an amazing experience with one saleslady who was so supportive and assisted us in finding what we were looking for.  She let us know we are not the only people shopping for lingerie ‘for him’ (though that doesn’t matter to us AT ALL!)  We love the merchandise from XD because everything fits well.

The most recent purchase added to the collection is matching satin nighties.  I like the idea of matching and wearing lingerie for him to enjoy as well.  It feels good to have this kind of connection with my SO.  I’m grateful he discussed this with me prior to us dating – it gave me time to process the idea and a better understanding of why he does it, and the opportunity to grow with him.  It’s really fantastic to go through new experiences with him.  We continue to grow and explore in this area and I love every bit of it!

Lots of Satiny Hugs!



Patrick we feel u ! Tread lightly here. If you can’t ask her outright if shes ok with it then try to feel her out on it. Look inside yourself to see why u want to wear stockings and bra because she will. Its better if you have a well thought of answer.

I love bra panty sets and skinny jeans and heels and light make up and body hugging dresses

Anyway we re here to support you
In some of the old posts you can find helpful ways to approach this topic with SO

Wear something pretty today I am

Stevie October 09, 2020

Addicted to the way panties feel against my lower body

Patrick October 06, 2020

I’ve been wearing panties since I was 14 and I’m 43 now it’s difficult to explain to you partner why you wear them. I have thought about wearing stockings and suspenders and bras but I’m not sure yet I’m married and have a wife who is ok with me wearing panties but it’s taking that best step to wearing bras and suspenders. I admire each and every one of you and ur partners

Richard October 05, 2020

“They’re not women’s clothes. They’re my clothes. I bought them.”

― Eddie Izzard

RJ September 30, 2020

Thanks for all the comments and feedback!
I am grateful we found this community and can be open here – it truly inspires knowing that other people are doing the same or similar things. ❤️
Lots of Satiny Hugs!

TA September 27, 2020

Omg I finally built up the nerves to go out fully dressed wife helped me get all dressed up and make up high heels and a dress I cannot believe how much fun I had can’t wait to do it again

Samantha September 21, 2020

Quel plaisir de porter des articles en dentelle soit disant gay pour certains. Ce n est pas mon cas pour l instant j en met en cachette.. Ce serait mal vu de mon entourage et ma copine n apprécie pas.un simple body en dentelle et elle a été choquée. Dommage j aurais pu vous faire partager une photo de mon plaisir.

Christophe September 20, 2020

Hi Stevie – I love bras too. They must match my panties. I feel so much more feminine when I’m wearing both and I’m wearing both much more everyday now. I’ve discovered the xdress silicone enhancers to be wonderful too. They add a touch more shape without being inappropriately overstated. Ally x

Ally September 19, 2020

On bras
I love wearing them because i like matching panties and the masculine body with the lingerie intrigues me.
I wear them all the time ! If you are worried about show thru wear a dark tank and looser shirt or sweater
If theres going to be a lot of hugging (shouldnt be with covid) wear a sports bra
Wear something pretty today
I am

Stevie September 09, 2020

So many great people and stories here! Thanks so much TA for sharing. My GF and I have a very similar story as you and your SO do. It’s so much fun to share with each other. My GF uses some of my makeup and I’ll “borrow” her pantyhose when I wear heels to work. And it’s so much fun to go shopping together for jeans, shoes, and of course lingerie. As Ally said, it’s hard to beat brick and mortar shops because sometimes it’s necessary to try things on. And I’ve had nothing but positive experiences shopping, whether with Tiffany or alone. Salespeople are very supportive and helpful which makes the experience all the more enjoyable. I’m amazed at what it’s done for my confidence and she’s noticed it too. I always felt confident in most situations, but this opened up a whole new level of confidence for me, just being unashamed of who I am and what I enjoy. In fact Tiff says she thinks it makes me seem even more masculine than before because I seem so liberated and self-assured.

Anyway sorry for rambling but TA’s blog really inspired me to write! Stay safe and enjoy shopping, gurlz!


Kyrstin September 09, 2020

I am doing my best to continue to ease my wife into this cd realm of my life. She’s bought me panties for a few years now, we often match! She’s taken me to TJ Maxx dress shopping twice, and shoe shopping 2x also. Last night, the shoe store closed at 7, at 6:20 I dashed into the store, with her in the car finishing up a conversation. I found some purple shoes that made my pants shift in front. I’ve been wearing a bra outside the house on 2 occasions, once was last night. I approached a hot little sales girl and asked what size I would wear in women’s shoes, I mustered up the courage. She told me and I started to shop. My wife joined me after a few minutes and shopped too. The sales girl, Taylor was polite and professional, not affected by my question. Side note, no one seemed to notice or care at costco friday when I had a bra on under my shirt. One couple did notice, they looked like they knew the scoop and maybe he dresses too. Anyway, I cannot wait to slide into my xdress nylons and garter, my purple bra and panties, and my dress tonight. My fantasy is to go out all dressed up. Guess I need a wig and some make up tips first!!! Love my new life. Thanks Xd for having all the gurly stuff a guy would need! Loves, Michael aka Michelle

Michael September 08, 2020

So many great comments

Yes we love lingerie sometimes on us, it is so relaxing; it takes us out our male role and allows us some freedom. For the customers who feel its too expensive maybe just an indulgence on your b day or for Christmas would be in order. I shop every where and the prices are reasonable maybe a tad high. But the quality and fit are worth it too me after years of squeezing into lingerie cut fir women

I love that for those of us not transitioning or experiencing gender dysphoria theres aplace for us . And for those that are experiencing GD or transitioning You have accepted us into your world ( at least on this website)

The reasons we wear lingerie is so different for each of us, the ability to share here is priceless

Edwin Stephan Jim and others great to meet you

Wear something pretty today
I am


Stevie September 06, 2020

Hi there This is a nice story to hear. Each partner can be with who they want to and be who they want to, without the conformist constraints of who wears what. I’ve found that Xdress always has a winning fit when it comes to lingerie. You can’t quite beat bricks and mortar for being able to try on skirts, dresses and tops though. I find sales assistants in the major stores really helpful now. It really is a matter of having a little confidence to browse for a bit and then ask, “Do you mind if I try this on?” Most, or a lot of, major stores assistants are trained to be helpful to Trans customers – or whatever label we give ourselves. I’m just a guy who enjoys wearing clothes normally worn by women. I love the shapes, the textures and the colours – and what it does for me. It’s a little like art for me – what look can I achieve. Nice article. Thanks. Ally x

Ally September 04, 2020

This is exactly the same with me and my girlfriend. I told her from the start and we’re still together after 16 years. We sometimes wear the same lingerie while making love. It changed our sexlife for the better. It’s great to see the shop assistant’s look when we buy two of each in different sizes. Most of the time you can see the approval in their eyes.

Edwin September 04, 2020

I love to wear sexy underwear it feels really nice my wife loves it when I put on stockings and thong on and it spices up our sex lives

Stephen September 04, 2020

Bonjour, j’apprécie votre blogue, je suis un homme de 70 ,moi aussi qui adore porter de la lingerie chez j’achète beaucoup en ligne, beaucoup moins complique que d’aller au magasin,je regarde souvent vos courriel avec vos nouveau produits,vous avez de très beau produit.

F........ September 04, 2020

Also meant to add. Prices are a bit much. Seldom shop, wish you would pair more, with reduced Prices. Beautiful combo’s in today’s email. But not about to spend $52 for matched bra and panty, I’ll put on for a few hours every couple weeks.

Jim September 04, 2020

Absolutely a man can feel and look sexy and not be weird. Occasionally after a rough day at work, construction. I shower, slip into something that feels smooth silky against my body. I don’t look like any of your models nor pretend. This is me spoiling myself. A satin robe, mesh panties. The extreme for me? Nylons and a sports bra.

Jim September 04, 2020

I also love the personal attention when I shop. There is always the question is this for your wife or girl friend. When I say this is for my self, usually I get suggestions or engage in a conversation. It is surprising how many people are unaware that men actually like to wear lingerie and women’s clothes. Hopefully the day will come when all clothing will be gender neutral.

Randy September 04, 2020

That is super cool. A man can be a man but feel sexy wearing sexy lingerie in your world!

Al September 03, 2020

Oh I love the personal attention as well when I shop in person. Many sales people are very supportive and offer ideas for what might match or look better on you. I do wish XDress had brick and mortar despite the death of retail.

Scott September 03, 2020

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