Given the Opportunity
As a woman, if you had told me a year and a half ago my SO would be wearing sexy satin and lacey bras, panties, and accessories, I would have said you were nuts. Meeting my SO changed all of that. I knew going into this relationship he enjoyed wearing lace and satin and I was fine with exploring what that would be like. In the back of my mind, I did question if this attire would be a simple phase or if it was something that would be ongoing … for both of us.
I wondered if I was ok with it because I really liked him and wanted it to work - would that acceptance and enjoyment fizzle after a short time of being together? Would his ‘exploration’, which was fairly new, last? Or would he realize this wasn’t for him but was in fact a phase? I had no clue how this would go as it was all so new for me. I did, however, hope that it would work the same for both of us!
Just over a year into our relationship, I couldn’t imagine enjoying the look and feel of the satin and lace on his body any more than I do.
A few weeks ago I was in the kitchen making a rhubarb crisp – his favorite summer dessert – when he disappeared. I assumed he was off to work in his home office or read a book. Only minutes later, he reappeared wearing my favorite lingerie - his blue glossy and lace panties with matching bra, garter, stockings, and lipstick and I love the confidence it brings out in him. Depending on what he chooses to wear, I see different energy in him. This was incredibly sexy … and he joined me in completing the crisp!
It’s actually a little strange to see him in briefs when he does wear them! Perhaps when he does it’s a little hint that we need to go shopping. ; )
I absolutely love going shopping with my SO – either online at XDress or in person at the malls. I do wish XDress had an outlet where we live so we could go in and experience the shopping in person. I think we both love the personal attention we receive when the salesperson realizes it’s my SO we’re shopping for and not me! We had an amazing experience with one saleslady who was so supportive and assisted us in finding what we were looking for. She let us know we are not the only people shopping for lingerie ‘for him’ (though that doesn’t matter to us AT ALL!) We love the merchandise from XD because everything fits well.
The most recent purchase added to the collection is matching satin nighties. I like the idea of matching and wearing lingerie for him to enjoy as well. It feels good to have this kind of connection with my SO. I’m grateful he discussed this with me prior to us dating – it gave me time to process the idea and a better understanding of why he does it, and the opportunity to grow with him. It’s really fantastic to go through new experiences with him. We continue to grow and explore in this area and I love every bit of it!
Lots of Satiny Hugs!
TA
24 comments
I agree with AL, a man can be a man but feel sexy wearing sexy lingerie! Lingerie is sexy – why shouldn’t men get to wear it to decorate and enhance their bodies! Every time I go through these blogs I get more and more confident with who I am by knowing how many of us are out here doing what feels good with no shame and being confident and embracing what feels good to us. Long gone are the days of the traditional image of a cross dresser – we are normal guys living our lives and embracing what we love! Wish I had the courage to tell all my friends my little secret, still not quite brave enough yet!
Dan, I too think the XDress models are a bit too femme but I look past it as the selection on the XDress site is fantastic. Besides, they usually only show the face on the opening paste and the display pics are only of the chest and below, no faces. I think the site does a great job. I would like to see a few more skirts offered, like the pink polka dot one they had a month or so ago but overall I am happy with the site. I love to shop and was in VS today buying a garter and some panties and I openly tell the sales clerk they are for me. She spent the time today asking what I liked and I found a few pair. Of course, I always return to XDress and was SO happy to find the satin and lace panty that was just released! I bought all four colors and threw in an icy blue bra for kicks.
Michael/Michelle: Love the fact that you also like color purple in your bras & panties. Wish I could have seen them purple shoes. When you made mention about wearing your bra at Costco, it reminded me of a situation that I experienced there as well. While shopping their, I came upon two gals, one of whom was wearing a black t-shirt that read on the front.“I am no angel”. I quickkly recognized it from Lane Bryant. I know that because I purchased a pair of black panties with the same wording but on the rear of the panties. I didn’t think of it at the time but looking back on it now, I wish I had said to them…" I like that shirt from Lane Bryant because I am wearing the black panties that have the same wording"! Even though Lane Bryant caters to the full figure women (and guy’s) I love their panties as we had three (3) of their stores here in town. Unfortunately for me, I have to settle for their smallest size, which is a 12 and to be assured of getting that size, I have to go on-line. I know this because while shopping at one of their stores here in town, the sales gal informed me of this. She also said to me.." You like panties with lace, don’t you?" When I agreed, she took me over to a drawer where they had most lace/nylon panties. It is a good feeling when a store recalls what it is that you really like.
This is all good and fine but the problem I have is that my wife enjoys me in lingerie but when she looks at the xdress.com site some of the models appear to be too-Fem. She says that they pose like they are gay which might be OK but for her she wants to buy lingerie for “men”. Just like she would rather pick out panties on a male model for me than ones on a female model. It’s hard to explain and not meant to offend but she would rather pick out products from body aware or the old prevail sport site than from xdress.com.
When I go shopping for my femme things I love it when a woman comes over to help me. I tell her that the things are for me and she doesn’t care
Patrick we feel u ! Tread lightly here. If you can’t ask her outright if shes ok with it then try to feel her out on it. Look inside yourself to see why u want to wear stockings and bra because she will. Its better if you have a well thought of answer. I love bra panty sets and skinny jeans and heels and light make up and body hugging dresses Anyway we re here to support you In some of the old posts you can find helpful ways to approach this topic with SO Wear something pretty today I am Stevie
I’ve been wearing panties since I was 14 and I’m 43 now it’s difficult to explain to you partner why you wear them. I have thought about wearing stockings and suspenders and bras but I’m not sure yet I’m married and have a wife who is ok with me wearing panties but it’s taking that best step to wearing bras and suspenders. I admire each and every one of you and ur partners
Thanks for all the comments and feedback! I am grateful we found this community and can be open here – it truly inspires knowing that other people are doing the same or similar things. ❤️ Lots of Satiny Hugs!
Omg I finally built up the nerves to go out fully dressed wife helped me get all dressed up and make up high heels and a dress I cannot believe how much fun I had can’t wait to do it again
Quel plaisir de porter des articles en dentelle soit disant gay pour certains.
Ce n est pas mon cas pour l instant j en met en cachette.. Ce serait mal vu de mon entourage et ma copine n apprécie pas.un simple body en dentelle et elle a été choquée. Dommage j aurais pu vous faire partager une photo de mon plaisir.
Hi Stevie – I love bras too. They must match my panties. I feel so much more feminine when I’m wearing both and I’m wearing both much more everyday now. I’ve discovered the xdress silicone enhancers to be wonderful too. They add a touch more shape without being inappropriately overstated.
On bras I love wearing them because i like matching panties and the masculine body with the lingerie intrigues me. I wear them all the time ! If you are worried about show thru wear a dark tank and looser shirt or sweater If there’s going to be a lot of hugging (shouldn’t be with covid) wear a sports bra Wear something pretty today I am Stevie
So many great people and stories here! Thanks so much TA for sharing. My GF and I have a very similar story as you and your SO do. It’s so much fun to share with each other. My GF uses some of my makeup and I’ll “borrow” her pantyhose when I wear heels to work. And it’s so much fun to go shopping together for jeans, shoes, and of course lingerie. As Ally said, it’s hard to beat brick and mortar shops because sometimes it’s necessary to try things on. And I’ve had nothing but positive experiences shopping, whether with Tiffany or alone. Salespeople are very supportive and helpful which makes the experience all the more enjoyable. I’m amazed at what it’s done for my confidence and she’s noticed it too. I always felt confident in most situations, but this opened up a whole new level of confidence for me, just being unashamed of who I am and what I enjoy. In fact Tiff says she thinks it makes me seem even more masculine than before because I seem so liberated and self-assured. Anyway sorry for rambling but TA’s blog really inspired me to write! Stay safe and enjoy shopping, gurlz! XXOO Kyrstin
I am doing my best to continue to ease my wife into this cd realm of my life. She’s bought me panties for a few years now, we often match! She’s taken me to TJ Maxx dress shopping twice, and shoe shopping 2x also. Last night, the shoe store closed at 7, at 6:20 I dashed into the store, with her in the car finishing up a conversation. I found some purple shoes that made my pants shift in front. I’ve been wearing a bra outside the house on 2 occasions, once was last night. I approached a hot little sales girl and asked what size I would wear in women’s shoes, I mustered up the courage. She told me and I started to shop. My wife joined me after a few minutes and shopped too. The sales girl, Taylor was polite and professional, not affected by my question. Side note, no one seemed to notice or care at costco friday when I had a bra on under my shirt. One couple did notice, they looked like they knew the scoop and maybe he dresses too. Anyway, I cannot wait to slide into my xdress nylons and garter, my purple bra and panties, and my dress tonight. My fantasy is to go out all dressed up. Guess I need a wig and some make up tips first!!! Love my new life. Thanks Xd for having all the gurly stuff a guy would need! Loves, Michael aka Michelle
So many great comments Yes we love lingerie sometimes on us, it is so relaxing; it takes us out our male role and allows us some freedom. For the customers who feel its too expensive maybe just an indulgence on your b day or for Christmas would be in order. I shop every where and the prices are reasonable maybe a tad high. But the quality and fit are worth it too me after years of squeezing into lingerie cut fir women I love that for those of us not transitioning or experiencing gender dysphoria there’s a place for us . And for those that are experiencing GD or transitioning You have accepted us into your world ( at least on this website) The reasons we wear lingerie is so different for each of us, the ability to share here is priceless Edwin Stephan Jim and others great to meet you Wear something pretty today I am Stevie
I also love the personal attention when I shop. There is always the question is this for your wife or girl friend. When I say this is for my self, usually I get suggestions or engage in a conversation. It is surprising how many people are unaware that men actually like to wear lingerie and women’s clothes. Hopefully the day will come when all clothing will be gender neutral.
Absolutely a man can feel and look sexy and not be weird. Occasionally after a rough day at work, construction. I shower, slip into something that feels smooth silky against my body. I don’t look like any of your models nor pretend. This is me spoiling myself. A satin robe, mesh panties. The extreme for me? Nylons and a sports bra.
Bonjour, j’apprécie votre blogue, je suis un homme de 70 ,moi aussi qui adore porter de la lingerie chez moi.et j’achète beaucoup en ligne, beaucoup moins complique que d’aller au magasin,je regarde souvent vos courriel avec vos nouveau produits,vous avez de très beau produit.
I love to wear sexy underwear it feels really nice my wife loves it when I put on stockings and thong on and it spices up our sex lives
This is exactly the same with me and my girlfriend. I told her from the start and we’re still together after 16 years. We sometimes wear the same lingerie while making love. It changed our sexlife for the better. It’s great to see the shop assistant’s look when we buy two of each in different sizes. Most of the time you can see the approval in their eyes.
Hi there
This is a nice story to hear. Each partner can be with who they want to and be who they want to, without the conformist constraints of who wears what.
I’ve found that Xdress always has a winning fit when it comes to lingerie. You can’t quite beat bricks and mortar for being able to try on skirts, dresses and tops though.
I find sales assistants in the major stores really helpful now. It really is a matter of having a little confidence to browse for a bit and then ask, “Do you mind if I try this on?” Most, or a lot of, major stores assistants are trained to be helpful to Trans customers – or whatever label we give ourselves. I’m just a guy who enjoys wearing clothes normally worn by women. I love the shapes, the textures and the colours – and what it does for me. It’s a little like art for me – what look can I achieve.
Nice article. Thanks.
Ally x
Lingerie gives me stress relief! Even at work I’ll ponder my panties for the day and it will give me relief. After a long day i slip into something more comfortable and voila a scotch and stress relieved. I love this blog one of the few places i can talk about my love of lingerie and I love xd products Wear something pretty today i am Stevie
That is super cool. A man can be a man but feel sexy wearing sexy lingerie in your world!
Oh I love the personal attention as well when I shop in person. Many sales people are very supportive and offer ideas for what might match or look better on you. I do wish XDress had brick and mortar despite the death of retail.