Why You Should Date an XDresser!

Hello dear readers! It's long overdue that we discuss all the lovely benefits of dating an Xdresser, and what we bring to the table that other men do not. So let's get right into it. 

First of all, it goes without saying that the men who xdress love to shop! This automatically makes us more enjoyable company than the men that just sit on a bench when they go to the mall / clothing stores with their significant other. For me, shopping is not only incredibly fun, it's also a form of stress relief. To unapologetically shop in the women's clothing section, alongside your wife or girlfriend is an experience that could only be described as euphoric. I have done this a number of times with my girlfriend and it is quite simply a very intimate experience to share together, especially when shopping for lingerie. Picking things out for each other, recommending items and just enjoying what is considered to be a feminine activity is something that can strengthen any relationship. 

Next, xdressers are generally more empathetic compared to other men. We understand the amount of effort it takes to look pretty, what it takes to pull off an outfit and the difficulty in wearing heels on a night out. We also tend to be more in tune with our feminine side, which makes us able to convey our emotions in a much more sensitive way. For example, I recall being quite dismissive and having a "it's not a big deal" attitude when discussing problems  before I became an Xdresser. However, my attitude could not be more opposite now when I have discussions. Coming from a place of love, understanding and compassion is my general guideline now. In short, I feel xdressing has made me a much better person for this reason alone. 

Also, xdressers are just more fun to be around! The majority of people live in an all or nothing world, where they follow social constructs and guidelines as if their lives depend on it. The inherent courage it takes to even be a xdresser means we generally look at situations in life with a unique perspective. We are comfortable with standing out and breaking the norms, which takes a serious amount of gumption. One could argue we are more "manly" than your average jeans and t-shirt wearing man, as we do not fear criticism like those who try so hard to fit in. Bold is the perfect term for xdressers, because there is nothing more bold than a man in heels and lipstick that doesn't care if everyone is staring at them. 

Lastly, an xdresser is an amazing lover! They will more often than not, devote more than the average man to a relationship, as we value intimacy and commitment above all else. At least, that's how it is for me. We also love spending time with our significant other doing all sorts of activities other men would scoff at. Such activities include mani/pedis, facials, massages, or any other essential self care activity! I am sure all of us here can attest to how incredible it is sharing these experiences with our SO and not feeling guilty for it. After all, what woman wouldn't want a man they can share almost every part of their lives with? 

All in all, I truly think xdressing is wonderful thing. Embracing femininity is a balancing act that will vastly improve your relationships, as people begin to be drawn to your balanced and harmonious energy. So, what do you think? Has xdressing made you more fun? Have your relationships improved? Let me know in the comments! 



Another very interesting blog. Even more so when I’m on vacation at the beach enjoying the sun and reading your blog! I’m gay who loves to be feminine, I’m with my boyfriend on vacation. We were reading and I asked him what does it feel like dating me a gay Xdresser? He was a sweetheart so I love him. It has been a fantastic experience, he considers me to be excellent company, he loves sharing everything with me from shopping at the supermarket to clothes. He considers that our daily life is super fun and engaging. He finds me a wonderful lover and always available for him. It brought a new meaning to your life. I feel very moved by your words, I love being a woman and as far as possible give my boyfriend the best. Good vacation! Francisca.

Francisca July 31, 2023

Hi so I’m bisexual I guess although it’s 5yrs since I dated a woman and think a cross dresser would be a wonderful lover! She has confidence, style, class, and can take care of business. She would always be the beautiful woman she is to me. I would never see her as anything but the beautiful woman I’m attracted to. Plus I’d like to xdress every now and again and she could play dress up with me. I’ve always been attracted to xdressers and fem boys!! I’m very masculine and dream of dating a beautiful xdresser. I just don’t know where to meet anyone. :(

Michael Shannon July 04, 2022

To cross dress makes me feel so happy and sets me free. To feel female cloths on is so enjoyable most men never feel this enjoyment. To go shopping for new cloths is so much fun and finding something new makes me so happy l cannot wait to get home and wear it.

Tony April 04, 2022

So very true … though I first crossdressed briefly when very young (c’mon what boy doesn’t at least once!), many years before I recommenced and then continued — loving it of course — I loved to shop unlike most men. Then, as my crossdressing bloomed and I eventually discovered the TG gurl that I truly am, I realized it was this feminine core that was playing out in my shopping impulses and love for it! xoxox Taryn Amber

Taryn Amber January 12, 2022

Jason welcome
This is ur spot
We welcome u and love u

Stevie October 11, 2021

OMG. I am so happy to have found your website. I live in the southern USA. X dressing is thought of here as strictly homosexual. Thanks to your blog I can now show others that that is not true I just love how my soul feel in ladies clothes. I am now very excited to purchase clothes from your store as they re mad to fit us men. No more of my package hanging out of the women’s undies Iv’e bought now because of your store I can look and feel even even better than before ….thanks so much.

Jason August 24, 2021

Ams to each their own! I m in the dopamine rush camp lol
I have lots of stuff!
Get ur lingerie on

Stevie July 22, 2021

I’ve been a XDer for probably 46 years out of my 54 I’ve been on this planet (I started when I was about 8, but it was unknowingly, I didn’t know what it meant, all I knew was that it felt good). Shopping in general however, BORES ME TO DEATH. Now the pedi/mani/spa sessions I could totally get into, that seems far less a waste of time to me than shopping does (plus it seems it generates much less waste than shopping does). I’m also not a wire thin narrow framed skinny little waif, so I’ve got that against me, which makes shopping in regular stores almost impossible for XD wear. It can be a little entertaining to see what’s on the rack, but it only lasts a few minutes for me. I’m also very anti-consumerism, anti “stuff”, anti accumulation of stuff just for the sake of accumulating stuff, so when I hear things like “it’s also a form of stress relief”, that to me sounds like the adrenaline or dopamine rush of buying something new, which over the course of a few hours dissipates and you’re back to your pre-rush state of mind, which inevitably leads to needing that next fix or rush again, lather rinse repeat. Maybe misinterpreting the true reason behind these supposed “anti stress properties” of shopping here, what I do know is consumerism is killing this planet. I have 3 pairs of heels, 2 dresses, 2 lingerie outfits. That’s it! Less is more.

AMS July 22, 2021

:le plaisir de porté vos culottes, comment montré vos culottes devant un publique sur Paris ,y a t’il plan exhibe

Gilles July 14, 2021

Geez.. you’d think all this is true but, my boyfriend is the least patient or understanding guy I’ve ever known when it comes to shopping or getting ready. He likes to wear lingerie or at least that’s as much as he’s admitted to me so far and that’s only when we’re intimate. I wish he were more in tune. Lol!

Shelby July 14, 2021

What a story! So cool. You ve taken the conversation in a different but certainly interesting conversation. I d love to hear more but this is not the forum for it

Stevie June 26, 2021

This is a great blog to chat about. Dating another XDresser. Yes, there is nothing better than dating another XDresser, or just having a gurls night out with someone who is into the lifestyle. I can not say that I dated steady with a XDresser, but I have been out many times, to parties and clubs, one on one, with another XD gurl. These dates were some of the best times I have had as a XDresser. But I would like to go one step further, and propose that dating men, or gentlemen callers, as I call them, is another XDresser lifestyle that is so rewarding and fulfilling. Meeting these gentlemen at parties and clubs was very exciting and thrilling. These men, are great admires of gurls like us, and enjoy the company of a sexy and well dressed XDresser. I have dated these men many times and never have I been disappointed. They are courteous, polite and generous. They are respectful and always brought me flowers. Amazing! Yes, it can be a bit challenging at times, doing dinner, movies and out in public, but I have always been confident in my looks, and these men simply enjoy the experience and company of self-confident XDress gurls like us. We can give them something they do not get elsewhere.

Jeffrey June 25, 2021

You should date a XDresser because they are more in tune with their feelings than others. We have more compassion and are better listeners and are not afraid of being vulnerable to others. We share a passion for femininity that helps boost your SO’s confidence as it does your own!

Scott May 05, 2021

The fabrics have a calming effect on me! I often come home take off my male clothes and slip into something more comfortable so to speak. Although i wear panties every day when i get home i may want to relax in a bodysuit or bra panty set with stockings heels and silk robe
Definitely has an effect
My under dressing also gives me confidence during the day and even calms me down during a heated moment when I remember what I wearing underneath and the color of my nail polish on my toes 😉

Get ur lingerie on


So happy for those who can share with SO

Stevie April 23, 2021

I agree very much with your blog. Being able to wear this stunning underwear had quite the effect on me. The soft fabric cannot be compared with my average underwear. I just love the way it fits and the way it lets me feel special. My wife very much appreciates me wearing the Xdress lingerie. For me it is super fun to browse through the website and it very liberating to be able to dress how I feel and to be able to share it with her. I am very happy I discovered Xdress and love all the lingerie I now have in my drawer!

Steven April 22, 2021

Nathan, well done. My girlfriend and I go shopping together and it is incredibly fun. The funny thing is that individually we don’t like shopping, but together makes it a great experience. We enjoy picking things out for each other.
The other thing that I want to mention in your comment, "For example, I recall being quite dismissive and having a “it’s not a big deal” attitude when discussing problems before I became an Xdresser. However, my attitude could not be more opposite now when I have discussions. Coming from a place of love, understanding and compassion is my general guideline now. In short, I feel xdressing has made me a much better person for this reason alone."
This goes to the point of my last blog regarding masculine and feminine energy. Once you shifted your energy, you also shifted your behaviour. Xdress has been such a great place to fulfill that feminine energy. I know that my girlfriend enjoys when that energy comes through, and we connect on a different level, and just enjoy everything together. First pedicure ever!

WB April 20, 2021

Very nice blog and I agree that XDressers have more fun! Shopping is a great way to spend time together but getting home and wearing it with each other is way more fun! We do massages together, waxing together, mani/pedi’s together and it is very liberating and so much fun.

Scott April 19, 2021

Anthony great post, I think u have what we all want. A spouse you can share your passion for life and lingerie with. I too agree with a lot in the post. Lingerie men have a sensitive side for sure. As for sharing this love with your spouse that is the best. It creates such intimacy and closeness! You get to share vs hide the experience.

I think on this often! One of the things I enjoy about wearing lingerie is that it adorns the make frame with pretty sext fabrics which creates an incredible picture and i like beautiful bodies. The masculine adorned in feminine cloth is erotic and naughty to me . I enjoy it

So happy for u

Get ur lingerie on

Stevie April 16, 2021

love cd am a cross dresser myself

philip April 16, 2021

I absolutely agree with your post. I am not a full xdresser but satin and lingerie have long been my pleasure. Having my wife select lingerie for me while I am selecting for her is an amazing experience!! My wife has seen me in panties for years and she love laying in bed and feeling the satin on my select areas. She will select items out for me in the evenings and now even packs her favorites when we travel. In Vegas pre COVID we went to an adult store and purchased matching white panties and bra, needless to say it was a mind blowing evening. She now asks me to go with her for a manicure and pedi before get aways or as part of a date. I was a bit nervous the first time but now I now that it allows me to spend time with her and just relax for an hour. My wife loves to shop, she likes looking at almost everything. She doesn’t have to purchase something but just views it as fun. I enjoy looking through her size and selecting items I want to see on her or just new styles for her to try. It is actually a good time and it makes her feel better about herself as well. My wife is amazing, sexy, funny and the love of my life. We have been married for 24 years and I never have had any thought of flirting with someone else or wanting something more. I am not at all attracted to other men and don’t feel bad dressing in sexy feminine lingerie. We are so close to each other and experience everything together including any style of sex you can imagine. All of this has kept us looking and feeling young. We married young and have continued to grow together. Xdress satin panties and lingerie have been a big part of our life. I wish you would have matching white satin lingerie set for husband and wife. I also have been in search of some pastel or light yellow bra and panty set.

Anthony April 16, 2021

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