Greetings Dear Readers!
I hope you are well and wearing something pretty. First, a shout out to Nathan, who suggested a blog topic about lingerie. Thanks, Nathan. What a fun topic! Because the word “lingerie” covers such a large array of clothing, I’m going to limit this blog to the topic of panties – a topic I know you are all totally into, as am I.
The great majority of us got our start in cross-dressing with panties. A good number of us started by exploring mom’s or sister’s panty drawer and then progressed to buying our own. Some folks, once they are adults, limit themselves to underdressing under their everyday male clothing, while others of us progressed on to bras, hosiery, and finally outer clothing.
I was a late starter, having begun with underdressing in middle age. Do you remember the thrill of that first time you slipped into a pair of panties? I was so amazed by the choices. With men’s underwear, you have a choice of tighty whities or boxers. Of course, you could expand that to uh, tighty whities or boxers. Of course, you can also find male thongs, usually in, of all places, swimwear. With panties, you’ve got this amazing variety of styles, colors, and fabrics. Xdress/Body Aware has a huge selection, ranging from pretty grannies to bikinis, thongs, G-strings, tap pants, tangas – ah the list goes on! And the fabrics! Lace, satin, cotton, polyester. I’m all about comfort, and men’s underwear does not begin to measure up to the comfortable styles and fabrics of panties.
It’s interesting to me that, although I’ve been underdressing for many years now (I have one pair of men’s underwear that I wear for my annual physical with my very conservative doctor) that it is still a treat every morning to pick out the day’s panties. When I wore men’s underwear, I didn’t give a thought to the selection of underwear, as they all looked the same. Not so with panties. Every day it is fun to decide on what panties to wear. Is it like that for you?
Online panty shopping is the safest way to go, and Xdress/Body Aware panties are designed with the male physique in mind, in terms of the width of the gusset, which gives a very comfortable fit. It is also fun to go to the “other side of the store” and explore the panty section. I am very fortunate to have a very supportive wife, and we go panty shopping together. I find that shopping in stores appeals to my feminine side, plus it is just a bit risky, making it all the more fun. Part of the fun for me is wearing a very sexy pair of panties under my women’s jeans and nobody has a clue how hot I look under it all. Speaking of jeans, if you try on a pair of women’s skinny jeans, you’ll never go back to men’s jeans. I know, that’s off topic, but I just had to throw that in there.
Okay, so there are my thoughts on the topic. How about you? Are you a full-time panty wearer or limit it to weekends or special occasions? How old were you when you started underdressing? What are your favorite styles/fabrics? What is your preferred style of shopping – online or brick and mortar? Warm up those keyboards guys/gurls. You know I love hearing your stories.
Thank you all for the support. It is definitely helping. I actually went out the other night for dinner in a thong and a sports bra, first time wearing a bra out, and had a good time. Nervous but it was fun.I’m looking forward to my first pair of XD panties. I’ve tried thongs by iKingsky and jockey, but each have focused on a compression front that actually causes me some pain, funny considering I wear compression styled boxers. How have y’all’s experience been with the front of these?
Thank you again,
There is undeniably a cultural shift going on where female empowerment is no longer defined by women’s sexuality, and as a result women are no longer feeling the need to dress for men, but rather for themselves. As a result, there are new women’s u/wear brands coming along that are very basic in color and shape, designed purely for comfort. You see the decline in VS and the rise of companies like Spanx and Pansy. Its almost like there has been a switch where women are choosing the plain styles that men have been stuck with for decades as it makes them feel more confident, while more and more men are choosing to wear the feminine styles that make us feel more sexy and in touch with our true selves, shrugging off the need to portray a 100% macho image that starts with wearing tough ugly underwear. I think Xdress was way ahead of its time when it started (I believe 20 yrs ago), and I love the current speed of this change where men can wear what they like. I look forward to the day when I can go in a regular department store and head for the men’s lingerie department without any embarrassment. Perhaps Xdress will open a lingerie store, here’s hoping!
To John and G:
Your hesitation to wear panties full time seems to be as G stated, you are hardwired to think about what is and isn’t acceptable. This is most likely because you grew up in a very black and white society, one which dictated what certain groups are allowed to do.
However, the existence of websites such as this are indicative of a world which has gray areas. Specifically in this case, men that wear lingerie.
I want to wholeheartedly assure anyone here who is having second thoughts about wearing panties full time, or any other feminine clothing for that matter, that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are allowed to wear what you prefer, just as women do.
Do not let social stigmas and the opinions of others affect your choices. Once you truly accept this side of yourself, the world becomes a better place. You have just one life on this Earth, do not spend it limiting yourself.
Hello everyone. I have been a long time Panty wearer since my teens. Transitioned to everyday almost 20 years ago now. I still buy many pairs from department stores with my wife as that allows us to buy matching sets for which we love to do together. However, when buying online it is exclusively from XD in fact my everyday Panties are from XD. I have started recently with bras but cannot see that everyday but instead more with playtime.
I agree that you must go slow and talk with your wife. I have always done this with my past relationships and my wife. This allows her to comprehend your needs and wants without feeling threaten about your relationship or a piece of clothing. This could be the very first time she has ever come across someone who doesn’t subscribe to the typical boxer male norm and might have further questions or apprehensions. But communication is the key … just don’t overload all at once. My experience has been positive and most have been overwhelmingly accepting and even enjoying their man in panties. It’s creates such a closeness and bond with your wife that only men who wear panties can relate too and understand. So yes the benefits far exceed the risks. Besides who want to live their life as someone else’s expectation.
Anyway, be yourself and buy some new panties today.
Hi there John and G
It’s not necessarily an issue. You can wear what you like either way. Let’s face it, few women put on high heels and a sexy skirt if they are just chillin around the house or going shopping for groceries.
I love xdress panties because they are so pretty and so comfortable – girls’ panties just don’t fit in the right places. I like tangas best as they are barely there yet don’t cut me up the wrong place like a thong. Making sure you have panties that are comfortable is key. That might not be the case if you find you are wearing boxers or Ys. Have a drawer full of comfy undies of different styles and put on what feels best. A satin tanga does for me quite nicely.
To John and G
Don’t worry about posting to much. I dont think u can find a better place to openly and cleanly discuss issues with panty wearing and lingerie
As for full time panty wear, dont worry about it. If you want to go ahead ( i simply took my male undies out of the drawer and replaced them with panties save a few for doctor visits)
Either panties or male undies is ok its whatever you want
Same mental anguish John. I think it has a lot to do with how we can be hardwired to think what is and isn’t acceptable.
Sorry if posting too much. Just a conversation close to home at this current time. Trying to explore a little and it feels nice to have a group you can openly talk with about this
I have worn panties on and off for years. My favorite by far is the thong but I also like wearing bikinis (especially if they frame the butt nicely). I’m not a huge fan of lace (I find it irritating and not stretchy enough). Love satin / lycra / nylon materials. It’s fantastic that more online retailers seem to be catering to us gurls who like to wear panties. It’s also great to see just how many of us gurls are out there. We have to break the stereotype in society that it is somehow wrong for men to enjoy feminine clothing. It’s a preference, it’s not “wrong”. Like everything else some people will really dig it and others won’t but we have to stop telling men there is something wrong with it. I still slip and go back to male underwear often unfortunately. Sometimes I’m not in the mood to wear panties even though I want to on some level. I want to get over the mental hump and wear panties full time but I always seem to take one step forward and two steps backward. Anyone else have this conflict where you want to be a full time panty gurl but sometimes you just aren’t in the mood and throw on the boxers? Were you able to get past this plateau and if so how did you do it?
Nathan Ally and G great advice
I agree with all of your advice. A MAN in panties can be Hott! For a lot of women… there is something erotic and naughty about it… like you shouldn’t be wearing them. Samuel She may like it. From there playing in the bedroom eventually begs for stockings a bra or both then of course stockings need heels and so it goes on. Now sometimes she may only be into panties and if so thats her limit( hope not!)
Ally you and i are definitely on the same page nothing allows a pretty panty and bra set with stockings and garter better than a suit! I wear that a lot in fall and winter. For me my toes must be painted which fortunately she allows
Thanks to everyone for all the support
Lovely to see how everyone is sharing their enjoyment of wearing beautiful panties and lingerie. It’s wonderful to know that we allhave this in common and support each other. I can’t help feeling such warmth and happiness when I read your stories. I love stepping out in my panties and hold ups. Xdress pink satin summer rose panties with matching bra and small breast form inserts is my favourite – usually under my nicely cut suit and increasingly teamed with modest heels and a borderline unisex handbag and light make-up.
It’s such a lovely feeling to know you all feel the same.
Samuel, just like G and Stevie said, you really do need to start slowly and approach your wife with one thing at a time. If you suddenly reveal that you want to cross-dress daily, wear makeup, and shave your body hair etc, then her brain will be overloaded and confused. So start with small things.
Say you start with underwear. Explain your reasoning for wanting to wear panties, whether it be for comfort, or just the pure fact you enjoy the styles more. You can also mention there are options made for men, which may make it easier for her to accept. You can also offer to model some for her, and your woman may be surprised about how much she enjoys seeing you in them.
Her reaction to this alone should give you a pretty good idea as to how she will react to the other things. Just be patient, and remember to still be sure to remind her that despite your feminine desires, you are still her man.
Good stuff Stevie and thank you for the welcome. Samuel I have nothing more to add besides the old cheesy line of being patient and breaking the honesty up into pieces. The way I had gone about it, which was definitely not perfect, and this is not meant as a brag, was that I first admitted it was a fetish of mine, after time I admitted that I liked wearing them a lot and would like to do so regularly, and slowly have gotten to the point where I told all, in so many words. That being said, if she sees me in panties she’s prefers them in more masculine styles and colors and admitted it is okay to wear bras but not in her presence. This has gone down over the course of years and even saw me going through some pretty heavy personal anxiety, I was a bit of a bonehead and went 0-100 in a minute and wore them out in public a lot. I wasn’t ready for it and am even still taking it slow. I’m now happy to say I got my first bras, sports style, and am currently purchasing my first 2 pairs of XD panties. Hope my personal situation helps in any way. Enjoy the reading and wish you all the best.
Samuel, I feel your pain! But you can wear a blank tank over the bra with a sports jacket and stockings in winter wont be seen
As for your wife look at it from her point of view: its hard for them to understand that 1. We r not gay and 2. That we dont want to transition 3. That they are losing their man…
so like you i dress in private and to work. My wife knows I wear panties and i did confess to her that i am a crossdresser. Shes tolerant but not participatory.
Hang around here where you are welcome
We love all right gurlz!
Ah Angie, Another great topic. I wear panties most days to work, mostly purchased from here, although I have a couple from another online store. I love choosing each day which ones I am going to wear. I would love to extend to wearing a matching bra too, but under my office shirt, it would show unfortunately as I don’t wear anything over my shirt. I have occasionally worn a camisole as that doesn’t notice and the feel of the satin gliding over my nipples is very erotic. How do others manage to disguise this?
I first started when I was probably around 12 years of age and just love the feel. Many years ago, shortly after I was married, I bought my wife some lovely panties that were lace in the front and silky at the back – she wouldn’t wear them, so unbeknown to her, I did! I loved them.
As I have mentioned before, my wife is not aware, so I can’t share this part of me with her. I have tried talking about it to her in general terms such, but she wasn’t happy! I occasionally work from home and am alone in the house. Then I can wear matching bra and panties along with stockings and suspenders. Then I love seeing them on, so won’t wear clothes over them, unless I am going out, then a polo shirt and trousers will be worn over the top.
Thanks again Angie.
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Another great topic and one that is very appropriate for our community. I have been wearing panties for years. Usually on the weekend or on my days off and also when I am on vacation. I like the smooth satin feel and small or no seams. Started wearing panties in my 20’s for the reason that I thought they would be more comfortable than men’s briefs. I do wear a bra sometimes—especially like a sports bra as they tend to be a better fit. I finally convinced my boyfriend to try panties and he now finds them more comfortable than men’s briefs.
A great topic that will produce a lot of discussion. Looking forward to more topics covering subjects like gloves, shoes, panty hose, and purses—all favorites of mine!
First time commenter. I’ve always wanted to say something and appreciate everyone’s acceptance here.
I grew up mostly around my mother and sister with a father that worked a lot and a brother too old to hang out with a younger brother. I first started wearing panties when I would sneak in and grab some of my sister’s underwear and bras. There was always a thrill and feminine sensation to it all. That went on up until when I finished college.
I then purchased a couple of my own pairs from VS but each time I feared what my now wife and others would think and got rid of them.
Fast forward a couple years and I’ve again purchased some more, the sensation too much to resist. I’ve also had several talks with my wife and she has come to accept what I like to wear and does not mind seeing me in them.
My struggle has always been the anxiety that has come with sometimes wearing panties and bras. There has been a fear of what someone would think. Now I’m learning that I don’t care as much because I like the way they feel and that it’s part of who I am.
I mostly purchase from aerie and stores from amazon and recently bought a couple sports bras from fruit of the loom. I would like to get something from XD soon, your styles and fits look amazing. I just simply need to work on being more comfortable with wearing what I ultimately want.
Hopefully this wasn’t too long. Thank you to those who read and for the blog.
What a wonderful topic! I too love going shopping with my wife and looking at all the pretty panties in the stores like Marks & Spencers, seeing the wide range of colors and fabrics. We often do this on my birthday or Christmas when she promises to buy me something pretty I go with a slight feeling of trepidation, but also excitement, as I know she will be testing the stretch of the front of the panties for fit and maybe holding them up against me and asking me if I like them, while I pretend disinterest when other women are nearby! I am in my 40’s and clearly not as brave as Nathan, but I am really happy that the younger people in their 20’s are so accepting and even think its cool to be non gender conforming.
I love what my wife chooses for me, but for everyday wear, they are often not the best fit and can become uncomfortable at the front crotch area where the legs cut into my male areas. I have had the most success with bigger store bought panties like boy shorts and sometimes hipsters if the fabric is really stretchy, but anything like bikinis,tangas and thongs are always too narrow at the front. So for my wearable panties I buy Xdress as I can be sure they will fit comfortably in the crotch and won’t have loads of excess fabric in the back. I probably have about 15-20 XD pairs that I have bought in the last couple of years, AT the moment I am wearing the satin brazil panty, I have 3 colors of these and hope they will bring out more. I also love the ribbed picot panties and camisoles with contrasting elastic, as the fabric is super soft and stretchy. What do other readers like best from XD? Thank you XD for hosting this great blog and thank you Angie for writing about my all time favourite topic!
Hello Angie, and thank you for the shout out on this topic!
I definitely wear panties daily, and currently own about 30 pairs or so. I primarily get them from either Frederick’s or VS, but also have a decent amount from XD/BA. I am a Goth so they are primarily black, but I do have a few pairs in beautiful reds and purples as well. I typically am attracted to satin, lace & mesh styles, since they are just simply alluring. I also have two bras tailored for the male physique, and a garter belt. I plan to buy many, many more in the future. I do have 2 pairs of men’s briefs, and I wear these at the gym or for security for other occasions that call for it.
Panties are in fact at the genesis of my cross-dressing, as I started wearing my sisters’ at a young age of 8. The second I tried them on for the first time, I knew that it was a part of who I am. I progressed from panties, to pantyhose, to high heels, and finally to outerwear. I never really was into bras, though. My dressing remained incognito from ages 7-21, and I only indulged in my desires on the rare occasions I was home alone. Every time I did so however, I experienced a euphoria unlike any other.
Currently, I have only purchased lingerie online. I have purchased blouses, skirts, dresses, and heels in physical stores with my girlfriend, however. It is quite coincidental this blog was posted this week though, as my girlfriend and I plan to go to VS this Friday to get ourselves some new panties. I am definitely excited, and not at all nervous to do it.
I want to touch on a comment of Keri’s, regarding the future of young men being bright. I can wholeheartedly attest to this fact, at the age of 22. The reason being that every single day, I am cross-dressed head to toe in public and my place of work, and never receive any flak from neither strangers nor my wonderful GF. This is especially surprising to me, since I present myself very femininely (mini skirts, lace tops, 4"+ heels, pantyhose, lipstick, painted nails). The only time I receive comments, are compliments from other women on either my shoes or outfit in general. What a lovely feeling that is!
I hope to be an inspiration to those younger (or older) than myself that see me in public, to let go of their inhibitions and just be themselves. The world is indeed becoming more accepting, and what better feeling is there to be yourself?
Thank you to all who have read this far, and I wish you all well on this journey we share!
Ooohh one of my favorite things. I LUV panties of all kinds but my faves are the smooth satin or cotton blends as I find the lace ones a bit scratchy, although I do think they look sexy. I started in college by “borrowing”my then GFs panties – with her permission and approval of course- and haven’t stopped since! I do online and brick and mortar shopping, usually with my GF who lets me know what she likes or what she thinks looks good on me. We’ve never had any problems with VS or other stores including the big department stores as far as getting stares or other strange reactions from the sales associates. Thankfully they’ve all been very polite and even supportive.
One bonus is that most places have unisex fitting rooms so we’ve not had any issues trying on panties or other clothes
Anyway, we always have a great time shopping and usually it turns into an expensive trip because we find it hard to stop just with panties and lingerie, so we have bags of shoes, jeans etc.!!
My GF says it’s as much fun going shopping with me as with her female friends haha.
You gurlz have a blast with your panties and as Angie says, wear something pretty today!!!
What a great blog topic! I concur with the description of the emotion every morning when I get up, and choose my daily pair. Moods are different every day, depending on what I’m doing at work. If presenting, I’m usually have to be dressed in slacks, button down and a blazer. What a perfect opportunity for my best garter, thigh highs, and panties! I’ve also collected some friends, male and female, that love daily pictures of what I’m wearing in the morning before I head off to work. Some even shop for me, and before I knew it, my collection is way more than my girlfriend’s!
For convenience, I enjoy Xdress/Bodyaware, VS, and Soma. But every once in awhile, I do enjoy walking into VS, and asking to use the dressing rooms. Staff never quite knows what to say to me and I live for their reactions. Having lost a significant amount of weight, I love taking an afternoon to add to my collection.
Thank you again for this blog and medium to discuss all of this. It’s always fascinating to me how many men there are out there that love the undressing of their intimates.
Angie; I must tell this lace panty experience. First I just LOVE wearing lace. A few years ago, before XD BA had an all lace brief. I just had to have it.
I wore it all the time. Well, I knew my Doc was gay so I took a chance and wore the lace to my next appointment. He went nuts ! Couldn’t keep
his hands off them. Now every time I see him I try to find something special he will like. We both enjoy the experience!
Now I get my lace from XD. But I have started getting my printed panties from Lane Bryant in the mall or on line. There clerks are helpful and a little older. They are accustomed to men buying their panties. They help with sizing and styles. Not like those young girls at VS who giggle every time a man sets a panty on the counter. Now I must shop for more lace. ;))
Like Stevie said, another winning topic.
I started with my older sisters panties at an early age. Maybe 12 or 13. That first time I slipped into panties was exquisite. In those days all girls wore nylon briefs and my sister had some really cute panties. I have no idea if the teenage girl next door had anything to do with my desire to wear girls clothes but she didn’t hurt my desire. When she took care of my sister and I she would dress me up as a girl with my sisters help. I protested but inwardly I loved it. The very first time didn’t include my sisters panties but subsequent visits did. I remember protesting more strongly when that happened but I knew then that panties were better than boys undies. When I was alone as a young teen I would completely dress and began wearing my sisters bras.
By my twenties and having my own place my desire to dress blossomed. OMG, I had so many panties, bras, garter belts and more. In those days there was no internet so my only real choice was to shop local stores away from home. I did the grab and dash thing and that resulted in buying the wrong size, style or whatever. Today I am very comfortable shopping in lingerie.
When I got married I temporarily stopped wearing women’s panties and bought some mens nylon undies that were available at the time. Pricey and not as feminine. My wife didn’t really like them and thought they were ridiculously expensive. One day she unexpectedly picked up a pair of Vanity Fair white nylon briefs and said “what about these”? Oh my I became an instant pantyboy once again. I don’t remember the time frame but I eventually added colors, florals, lace, other brands. Pink is my favorite color. Eventually my panties were prettier and more colorful than hers. Initially she put up a fuss but decided that there were just underwear. Today I own no mens undies. I even wear panties to doctors appointments now. That change began by wearing Jockey Elance cotton panties in black or white.
Over the years she has accepted more and usually we agree or she suggests. I started carrying man bags and now carry women’s. Most of my shorts are women’s. Some tops are women’s. I always look for styles that are unisex looking. My sneakers are mostly women’s. I wear a woman’s size 9. That started because I wanted more pink and pastels in my sneakers. She helped. Today many men have pink in their sneakers. She put her foot down on bras. I can wear nighties because they are at home and no one will see. Camisoles are only acceptable if they are plain with no lace or lingerie straps. All of my bath and toiletries are female. I shave my legs and under my arms.
I still get excited picking out panties and slipping into them. My fem side has become stronger over the years. Outwardly I still play the male role. However, today with the internet, sites like XDress and many others, a more open society with acceptance the LBGT I think of myself as a GURL.
I think the future for young men is good. More men will wear panties and other lingerie. I think even wearing so called girls clothes will become more acceptable. Same sex dating will be even more acceptable. XDress should enjoy the business benefits.
Thank you Angie, Keri
You’ve hit another winning topic!
I started with my moms shoes of all things and still have a strong fetish for heels and pretty feet
But I digress. It wasn’t long before i was in stockings and panties at the age of 8.
Fast forward 45 yrs. i m a full time panty person. I love all the styles and fabrics. I choose what to wear depending on my day and my mood. I have stealth panties for doctor visits and the gym.
I shop mainly on line but occasionally in person at SOMA or VS for the thrill and the joy of pushing the gender envelope.
You struck a chord when u described women’s jeans which i wear frequently with panties and painted toes. I will wear a bra if i m wearing layers like in fall and winter or at formal gatherings if i have on suit
As I ve said before if the panties are made for men and designed for men is it crossdressing? Just a thought
I love panties and matching bras! So xdress keep em coming!