When I read the responses to the blogs that I, or others write, I am looking to see if there are trends, or commonalities in those responses. One of the trends that I have seen come up fairly often is the question of “am I gay”? Now, to be clear, and get this out of the way, I am writing this with zero judgement. If you are gay, and purchase lingerie from X-Dress, great, enjoy it. If you are heterosexual and you purchase lingerie from X-Dress, great, enjoy it. The point that I want to discuss is the fact that, most men, myself included, who enjoy wearing lingerie, have questioned their sexuality. If I enjoy wearing bra’s and panties, and other sexy lingerie, that must mean that I am gay. Well, I for one, can tell you that I am a heterosexual male who loves wearing lingerie. In fact, so much so, that I have more than my girlfriend, and I wear it daily.
As I have written in previous blogs, such as What would she say? or What's wrong with feeling pretty? I bring up the point of, what would happen if you told your spouse or your significant other of your secret obsession. Victoria isn’t the only one with a secret. So, if you did “break the news”, or have “broke the news”, was the first question that you got asked, “Are you gay’? As I have read, many have asked themselves that very question, and they have also been on the receiving end of it.
As I write this blog, I am at home, and am wearing the Glow Lace Brazil Panty with the matching black Glow Lace Popover Bra, and Sexy Lace Garter with stockings underneath my skirt and blouse. I love how it makes me feel, and I love to look pretty and sexy for when my girlfriend gets home from work. She will give me “the look” for sure, and then a big grin, and I know that there will be a sparkle in her eye when she see’s the garter. So, when I wear what I enjoy wearing, what does that have to do with my sexuality? Why do our and other’s minds go directly to sexual orientation when it comes to what we wear? So, because I am wearing satin and lace panties, I should automatically then be attracted to men? Or the reverse, if you are gay, and do not wear lingerie, and don your tighty whity’s, should you then be attracted to women? I think that this is such an interesting issue.
Society sure likes to place rules and labels to things. If a women decides to put on work boots and her boyfriends t-shirt and heads out on the town, no one would even look twice. No comment, no questioning of sexuality internally or externally, and all would be well. Now, I put on lingerie, and wear a dress or a skirt, and have my nails painted, BAM, can you imagine the looks, the comments, and well, the shame. Interesting, isn’t it? For this reason, I do not dress and go out in public. I do it in the comfort and safety of my home. Although, I do underdress everyday. I am so thankful to XDress to provide a great product that not only fits great, made well, but also lets me feel pretty and sexy on the inside and the outside.
I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. I find it incredibly powerful to read these blogs and know that I am not alone. It took my quite a while to embrace the self-acceptance of my feminine side, and to really enjoy the XDress products without feeling shame. As I mentioned, I did go through a period of self-questioning about my sexuality. But then quickly came to the conclusion, that, it’s just who I am a heterosexual man who love the finer things in life such as satin and lace. I am also very fortunate to have a girlfriend who loves me for me, and encourages me to be myself. We both win.
I would love to hear your thoughts, stories, struggles, and outcomes of your XDress journey.
WB
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I am a polysexual man and I underwear every single day, I don’t own any “men’s” underwear and I wear a sexy gown to bed each night and my toes are always painted and my fingers get painted often but I am also in the Marine Corps, I don’t like how women can wear ANYTHING, but men cannot but I am too lucky to have a gf that LOVES to see me pretty and helps me with everything to include shopping for clothes and items. I am so grateful for xdress for giving me such confidence and for surrounding myself with great people. My previous marriage was not fully happy because I was having to hid myself behind a closed door alone. But as long as we always push the issue and make it known that men can look sexy in a red lace thong or a cute blue bralette or in a spaghetti strap top with capris and cute heels and still go hunting on the weekends or do anything the same then we will be able to live TRULY free. I am so lucky to finally be at the point that I can shave all the hair from my body, pierce my belly button (my gf actually did it for me and it’s super cute) and wear what makes me feel sexy and confident. I can’t wait to see what more this site comes out with, it’s not fair that women get all the cute stuff and we don’t!! I wish I could find some nice flat open toed shoes (hint hint) and not all just heels or stuff from these sites that seem to think that the only way you (as a man) can be pretty is if you adopt the persona if “sissy”
Hi yes , great blog . It is interesting , my xdress story started as a satin fetish and included full straight sex . I’ve always wanted to be aware of most sexual kinks etc but found myself enjoying dressing with my wife at 40plus and role reversal which inevitably led to strap on games . I’m now single and believe I can be a distant convincing “ lady” and very much fancy ladies , other Tgirls and feminine men . I could easily have a relationship with a tv or lady but I don’t really fancy manly men ! So am I gay ? No am I bisexual absolutely ! Am I confused ? No . Am I out ? Yes as bisexual and some know about my xdressing . Am I happy ? Yes and no . Do I wear lingerie more than just as a sexual fetish ? Absolutely . What label do I require from woke society ? Don’t know don’t care . One thing I do know slipping into a satin nightdress makes me feel good whether I’m alone or not , so does satin boxer shorts . Enjoy the moment everyone whether it’s alone same sex different sex group partners . I have bought from Bodyaware and or course Xdress . The products are all brilliant so far . More satin please !!!!! Xx Kind regards Paul xxxx
Brendan
I feel u
At 50+ I m just getting started! Wear more lingerie this year
Jackson the more I think about it the more I feel gay men don’t routinely wear lingerie! I think it’s mainly heterosexual men
My initial response on reading this blog was that sexuality has nothing much to do with whether anyone loves the look and feel of pretty lingerie, its more to do with the individual sensitivity and perhaps appreciation of beautiful things. But on reflection, I think of my gay friends and I don’t know anyone who wears panties, they express preference for the traditional branded boxer briefs like Calvin Kline’s. So maybe lingerie is more appealing to heterosexual men, especially if they are regularly exposed to seeing their wives and girlfriends wearing nice underwear, and are therefore more likely to try it themselves. What do you think?
I have just received my Valentina lace Bra and matching panties and they are amazing. The built in pouch fits my package perfectly.This is my first time wearing lingerie and I now will never look back.I will certainly be buying more sexy items in the near future. Iam 61 years old and should of started wearing Xdress lingerie sooner.