“Don’t get your panties in a knot,” my girlfriend told me when I told her that I was upset with ads I saw while Googling XDress. When I pulled up the Google search, I saw ads for other sites and products. Ads for men’s lingerie, but what got me upset was the reference to queer, and sissy when describing the products. My immediate reaction to this was “wait a minute, I am not either one of those things,” I am not a queer, or a sissy. Again, she gently reminded me about not getting my panties in a knot.
I happen to be a heterosexual male, who just happens to like some of the finer things in life. I enjoy fine wine, I enjoy great coffee, I wear very colorful shirts, and have some really great shoes. I also happen to like and enjoy beautiful lingerie, satin, lace, and very sexy ways of expressing who I am, such as those items that XDress provides. So, because I like and enjoy these things, why on earth would the words queer and sissy be related? My girlfriend can attest that I am not either. This is not to say that one is right or wrong, but why on earth do we place these labels on people?
I wrote a blog a while back called Am I Gay? to share with the readers that just because we like “feminine” things, doesn’t mean that we are, nor should we think we are gay. In fact, I feel more like myself, and am very confident when donning my bra and panties that my girlfriend picks out for me every morning. The furthest thing I feel like, is a sissy. When I lean into my feminine side, I get to embrace all aspects of myself, and my confidence goes up. So, as I have my “feminine” underwear on underneath my “masculine” outerwear, just as I do when I am leading business meetings, my confidence pays off. It is the balance between these two energies is where my power is. It really is the best of both worlds.
Now, is this really worth getting my panties in a knot? Probably not. But the stereotyping of people really gets me going. I know that I am not the only heterosexual male on this site who appreciates some of the finer things in life. I truly enjoy the look and feel of satin and lace, especially the latest luxe collection, particularly in the peach satin. When I initially put that on, my girlfriend very much enjoyed the look and showed this with a “it looks sexy” and a whistle. I really do enjoy looking and feeling sexy for her. It’s not a one-way street.
I, for one, really appreciate the fact that XDress has created high quality and sexy products in many colors and designs for men. Never have I seen them position it as queer, or sissy, or any sort of label. It’s lingerie for men, period. When I order products, I never have to feel any shame, guilt, or whatever thoughts go through people’s minds. I get to pick what I want, hit send, and look forward to looking and feeling sexy in something I love. Plus, it’s not only for my enjoyment.
I would really like to hear from the heterosexual men on this site. How do you feel about this topic? Does stereotyping men’s lingerie with being a sissy or a queer get your panties in a knot? I would love to hear your thoughts, then go untie your panties, and enjoy.
WB
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When I hear Sissy, I think of men’s sissy pouch panties. Most men into Sissy play are into Chasity cages. Cages don’t work well with most normal panties. So if you search for Sissy panties, you will usually see all types of underwear with a formed big pouch in the front and maybe a lot of lace, etc.
The association with men who wear women’s underwear being gay or a sissy did cause me issues in my younger days. It made me question my sexuality, unnecessarily as became apparent over time, and made me try to deny myself the pleasure I get from dressing up in lingerie. When I put on women’s lingerie I feel great. I don’t feel feminine, nor am I trying to express an inner femininity. I am simply a man who enjoys the feel and look of satin, lace and nylon (particularly stockings!). I’m straight and happily married. My wife accepts my enjoyment of wearing women’s underwear and we have incorporated it into our intimacy with really positive effect. I never feel the need to act effeminately when I’m dressed up and therefore don’t think I fit the definition of being a sissy. I’ve reached a point where I don’t really care about the labels other people might use, but I can agree that it would be better if those labels didn’t exist for someone like me if they’re trying to come to terms with their compulsion to crossdress in lingerie.
Me encanta vuestra ropa interior. Me siento muy feliz cuando la uso. Pero echo mucho de menos la línea más femenina y de seda que teníais antes. Por favor volver a fabricarla . Muchos gracias. I love your underwear. I feel very happy when I use it. But I really miss the more feminine and silk line that you had before. Please remake it. Thank you very much.
Longtime XDress enjoyer here – personally I am queer but I think there’s no reason to think any one kind of person is interested in wearing any one kind of clothing. Heck, I think the more we move away from seeing clothes as being masc or fem or straight or gay “looking”, the closer we get to a world where everyone is equal and respected and treated as individuals.
Thanks to XDress the products they make are for men, fit men, and are not “women’s undergarments.” So I support my choice by reminding myself that these are men’s underwear that are made out of materials that feel better than traditional men’s underwear. Although I would prefer to keep what I wear private, no matter what anyone wears, traditional or non, nobody can classify me by what they cannot even see. All of these items were likely (originally) designed by men, and men like women in lingerie, so men like lingerie. Why not wear what you like? No labels, just accept differences.