Greetings, my dear readers. First I want to express my appreciation for your responses to my blog postings. It is so rewarding to know that there are so many of you that share this common experience with me that we call, loosely, “crossdressing”. Perhaps a better term is “gender fluid.” That pretty much works for me, as we all have a sense of who we are that is much broader than the confining role of the traditional binary male. I can’t imagine going back to being the macho male I once pretended to be (I say “pretended” because that was never who I really was) and wearing those heavy, scratchy underwear. Thinking about this fascinating journey of embracing the inner femme that we know ourselves to be, I started wondering about what got us all started on this journey.
I’ve read a lot of posts on various sites, regarding crossdressing folks like us, and have found there are many starting points. Some have sisters, and got started by exploring their sister’s panty drawer, or closet in search of the perfect skirt or dress. Others went foraging in their mom’s closet and dresser. Others didn’t have a sense of their femme self until later in life and lived, or do live, in fear of discovery by their wives. Others, the most fortunate of all, have a spouse that is totally okay with the feminine side of her husband or significant other, and lives happily in the gender fluid world with him.
So, I have a question for you: what got you started, and at what age? When did you first slip on that luscious pair of panties and know you were hooked – that this was a part of who you are? When did you first try on that first bra, or blouse, or skirt, and know that this was something you just had to do? We all had some starting point that led to where we are now, and I would love to hear your stories. By reading the blogs here at Xdress, surely by now you know you are far from alone in this fascinating world of the gender fluid; you are part of a virtual community here at Xdress. Tell me your story – I would love to hear it!
Fondest regards,
Angie
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The first time I wore panties I was in my early 20’s.
After a very intimate occurrence with my first wife I was hunting around in dark for my underwear and happened upon hers. They were a satin high cut style.
What started as a joke I put them on and I soon realized that I really loved the softness and fit. I showed her and she loved it!
Many times after that we would enjoy a nice evening with me wearing a pair of her panties. She even bought me some of my own.
I’m now remarried and my wife knows of my cross dressing. I wear panties 24/7 and never plan on changing that. My wife says she enjoys my gender fluid clothing choices.
Thank you Stevie for your kind words, and I agree that this site is very liberating (and supportive) for those of us who are courageous enough to accept who we are! Xdress is indeed a safe haven for us!
Fondly,
Angie
Thanks Angie
I love this blog it is therapeutic for me.
The topics a great and the support is liberating.
Hi Robert G,
I am so very sorry you experienced the abuse you did by the hand of your step father. Fortunately, you did not lose your sense of your femme self and remained true to who you know yourself to be. Stevie, as always, you hit the nail on the head when you told Robert G. to be prepared to answer two common questions. I think almost all of us have had to field those questions with our wives or significant others: “Are you gay?” and “Do you want to be a woman?” According to research, the very large majority of us respond with “No” and “No”. We just know that there is more to us than the traditional male as defined by our society. Stevie wisely steered you to some internet resources before talking to your wife. You might also read my blog here at Xdress at https://xdress.com/blogs/news/getting-the-wife-onboard
I would encourage you to do your research on the internet before talking to your wife. There are some very helpful articles. As I said in the blog referenced above, there are some very good articles on the internet and some that are….well, not so good. You’ll be able to tell which is which, I am sure. Good luck to you, dear sister, and welcome to our sorority!
PS. to Stevie: thanks for being a constant reader – you are the best!
Fondly,
Angie
Dear Robert
What a difficult start
First thank you for sharing
do not fear u r not alone
You have friends here
You like me and others are not attracted to men but we live femme clothing
So what some people like biker clothing jeans t shirt suits whatever that’s the FREEDOM of being you
Read good material
This is a great site
Read living with crossdressing
My husband betty
Good luck and go slow with your wife make sure you ate ready to answer the gay question and the transition question
Stevie