Greetings, my dear readers. First I want to express my appreciation for your responses to my blog postings. It is so rewarding to know that there are so many of you that share this common experience with me that we call, loosely, “crossdressing”. Perhaps a better term is “gender fluid.” That pretty much works for me, as we all have a sense of who we are that is much broader than the confining role of the traditional binary male. I can’t imagine going back to being the macho male I once pretended to be (I say “pretended” because that was never who I really was) and wearing those heavy, scratchy underwear. Thinking about this fascinating journey of embracing the inner femme that we know ourselves to be, I started wondering about what got us all started on this journey.
I’ve read a lot of posts on various sites, regarding crossdressing folks like us, and have found there are many starting points. Some have sisters, and got started by exploring their sister’s panty drawer, or closet in search of the perfect skirt or dress. Others went foraging in their mom’s closet and dresser. Others didn’t have a sense of their femme self until later in life and lived, or do live, in fear of discovery by their wives. Others, the most fortunate of all, have a spouse that is totally okay with the feminine side of her husband or significant other, and lives happily in the gender fluid world with him.
So, I have a question for you: what got you started, and at what age? When did you first slip on that luscious pair of panties and know you were hooked – that this was a part of who you are? When did you first try on that first bra, or blouse, or skirt, and know that this was something you just had to do? We all had some starting point that led to where we are now, and I would love to hear your stories. By reading the blogs here at Xdress, surely by now you know you are far from alone in this fascinating world of the gender fluid; you are part of a virtual community here at Xdress. Tell me your story – I would love to hear it!
Fondest regards,
Angie
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I started crossdressing when I was in the 4th grade when I had to wear my sister’s panties cuz I had no clean underwear. I remember she deliberately picked a pair that had bows and lace and pink I remember how much I liked wearing them. So after I continued getting her panties then bra’s by the time I was in 6th grade I was starting to mess with make up and fully dressing up.
But then I got caught by my step dad and I will never forget the beating I received. He pulled his belt and beat me till I was bleeding. I had to stay in my room for several days. He searched my room and took anything he felt was feminine so I didn’t dress up for about the next year and a half.
When my mom left him I started sneaking again little at a time and by the time I was a teenager and in High School I was buying my own stuff and by then I was shaving my legs. I know I do not prefer to be with men but I do enjoy dressing up. For a year-and-a-half I did live as a female. However I decided that really wasn’t what I wanted and I preferred dressing up just once in a while. I love my wife with all my heart so now I need to start breaking it to her about what I like. I have not dressed up since we have been together but I know I am desiring it very much, but scared, and not sure what to do.
Once again great job Angie
I love this site
Like i ve always said if its made for us its not xdressing
Thank you all for your wonderful stories. It is fascinating to hear how you all got started. Stevie – thanks for your comment – shame should not be a part of our vocabulary, regarding our gender fluid selves. It is simply who we are, and we harm no one by having the courage to be honest with ourselves about who we truly are.
Fond regards,
Angie
At about six years old or so I remember liking to look at catalogs we had Sears JCPenny etc. I liked looking at the panties and I remember at about age twelve i tried on my older sisters panties and I was immediately aroused. That was the last time trying panties on for fear of getting caught (very religious family). That was until about eight years ago I came across bodyaware.com website and bought the TLC Brief, the closest thing to a panty I dare wear being married with older kids. My wife didn’t think anything about them other than she liked them so I replaced all my fruit of the loom briefs. Six months ago I went back to their website to find out they’ve been discontinued. That’s when I came across xdress.com and saw all the sexy panties for men and couldn’t resist buying a few pairs and wearing them in private without my wife knowing and it felt so great so I bought more and a couple of bras. One night shortly after, I told my wife that I have always been fascinated with women’s panties and bras and bought some that were made for men and since the panties are made for men I think I feel it’s ok for me to wear them. In fact I was wearing a pair of panties and a bra under my sweatshirt and sweatpants.and she wasn’t to sure what to think. I assured her that I wasn’t gay and that a lot of straight men have the same fetish. She needed time to think she said and I said ok, I need to go to bed so I laid up there pretending to sleep when she came to bed and she started to feel the front of my T-shirt and she knew i was wearing a bra then she put her hand under my sweatpants and could feel my panties. She than put her hand up my shirt and couldn’t stop playing with my bra and started kissing me and that’s when I took my T-shirt and sweatpants off and she was all over me and we all know what happened after that. Since then she’s been just fine with me wearing panties. However I don’t wear a bra that often since its summer and I don’t want someone to see a bra line under my T-shirt. I feel so much better nowadays to be open with her and myself about my fetish, and for any other guy reading this that hasn’t wanted to tell there girl, just wait till the right time and and be upfront and honest. And tell her THEY’RE MADE FOR MEN SO SHE CANT WEAR THEM!😊😊😊
Amber
DO NOT BE ASHAMED!
Look at all of us who xdress
It’s different its NOT something to be ashamed
Some people like feet breasts butts etc some like being tied up
You like crossdressing AND you feel complete doint it
Its not wrong ITS you!
Also read book Living with Crossdressing it talks about balance of male and female