Greetings, my dear readers. First I want to express my appreciation for your responses to my blog postings. It is so rewarding to know that there are so many of you that share this common experience with me that we call, loosely, “crossdressing”. Perhaps a better term is “gender fluid.” That pretty much works for me, as we all have a sense of who we are that is much broader than the confining role of the traditional binary male. I can’t imagine going back to being the macho male I once pretended to be (I say “pretended” because that was never who I really was) and wearing those heavy, scratchy underwear. Thinking about this fascinating journey of embracing the inner femme that we know ourselves to be, I started wondering about what got us all started on this journey.
I’ve read a lot of posts on various sites, regarding crossdressing folks like us, and have found there are many starting points. Some have sisters, and got started by exploring their sister’s panty drawer, or closet in search of the perfect skirt or dress. Others went foraging in their mom’s closet and dresser. Others didn’t have a sense of their femme self until later in life and lived, or do live, in fear of discovery by their wives. Others, the most fortunate of all, have a spouse that is totally okay with the feminine side of her husband or significant other, and lives happily in the gender fluid world with him.
So, I have a question for you: what got you started, and at what age? When did you first slip on that luscious pair of panties and know you were hooked – that this was a part of who you are? When did you first try on that first bra, or blouse, or skirt, and know that this was something you just had to do? We all had some starting point that led to where we are now, and I would love to hear your stories. By reading the blogs here at Xdress, surely by now you know you are far from alone in this fascinating world of the gender fluid; you are part of a virtual community here at Xdress. Tell me your story – I would love to hear it!
Fondest regards,
Angie
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For me it started at a younger age like mostly everyone else here. I lived with 2 sisters and my mom for most of my childhood, and although my dad lived with us too, he worked very often. Needless to say I was raised by females. The first time I ever dressed up was around age 8 or 9, a silky blue dress my sister had in a box with a few other clothes she didn’t wear often. I immediately felt excited, and had a strong desire to keep doing it. From then on, I would take every opportunity to wear my sisters clothes whenever they were out of the house. Panties, skirts, dresses, blouses, hosiery, shoes, you name it. I loved the feeling of soft, delicate clothing. For me, it has always been about that feeling, as I never had the desire to be a girl, or wear makeup etc. This continued on through middle and high school. Occasionally dressing up was always a huge relief for me. I always felt like it was wrong, but I couldn’t fight the desire. I got together with my current girlfriend at age 16, and for the first year or so of being together I never would dress up for fear of her finding out. Then I couldn’t repress the urge any longer, and would dress up in her clothes every now and again in secret. Around age 19, I revealed to my girlfriend I enjoyed wearing pantyhose, and explained it as something that was purely exciting to me. She was accepting of this, but that is as far as it went for the next 2 years. I was afraid of revealing that I wasn’t only interested in pantyhose. At age 21, I finally told her everything. This was actually less than a month ago. I plan to marry this woman, and because of websites like this, I had the courage to tell her everything. After all if you marry someone, they should know everything about you. At first she was hesitant, asking the typical questions about whether I’m gay, want to be a woman, etc. After the talk, she told me she is okay with it, but didn’t want to see me in it. However, after about a week she said she was okay with seeing me in those clothes. I now wear panties, pantyhose, and a bra under my work clothes everyday, and fully dress up at least once a week. I started shaving my legs as well, and plan to wax or sugar them in the future. I still feel nervous dressing up in front of her, but that is simply because it is still new. With time, it will only get better. I feel this has brought us closer together, and I am beyond appreciative of websites like this. That not only sell clothes designed to satisfy my needs, but also give a platform to share my experience instead of having to hold it in.
Don, you are so fortunate to have a lady like mine – she’s with your expression of the inner femme, and what a blessing! If she limits you to panties, bra, and camisoles when you go out, you are indeed a fortunate gurl.
Stevie, you touched on something my wife and I do and thoroughly enjoy as girfriends – going to get manicures and pedicures together. We love it. We go to a nail salon that is crossdresser friendly, and they have no problem putting polish on my toenails. (Frost pink is my absolute favorite.) Also, monthly pedicures are great for nail health. One caution – in the winter, it’s best to not wear polish. I got a nail fungus on a big toenail. My nail tech told me that the nails need to be exposed to air when wearing polish, and winter is the time that nail fungus is the biggest problem, due to keeping the feet covered at all times. Thanks to my podiatrist, I got rid of the fungus, but it took 10 months for the medicine to clear it up. Just a word to the wise, one sister to another.
Fond regards,
Angie
In eighth grade when I was at my aunts house I took one of her black bras and panties. It was one of my earliest feelings of sexual liberation. I didn’t do any other crossdressing until almost 25 years later when I tried my girlfriends underwear on. Since then I have tried more and more but it still has taken me a long time to accept that I am a cross dresser, even if it is only in the bedroom.I still have more to explore but figure this is a lifetime journey.
Don
Great story. I too got home early put my moms and sisters clothes on. I too had 4 girls in house
I have expanded my wardrobe
My SO knows but shes not as liberal about my house wear as yours is
I do wear panties and bras sets that i wear under my regular clothes
My SO does tolerate my toes being polished we ve even had pedi together
Stevie
My sister would dress me in her underwear when I was 6ish. I enjoyed the feeling of her satin panties. She also dressed me in here ballet tutu. As a teen, there were more ladies in the house than men. I would get home early and put their clothes on wearing them until they got home. Later, I would sneak my ex’s panties on. I was divorced and while on my own would buy women’s clothes to wear around my house. Over the last few years I introduced my wife to my love of sexy men’s lingerie. I went slowly pushing the envelope little by little. I can wear anything around the house but when we are out she limits me to bras, panties and camisoles which is okay by me. She loves taking my picture as I show off anything new. We have quite a collection!