Greetings Dear Readers!
I hope you are well and wearing something pretty. First, a shout out to Nathan, who suggested a blog topic about lingerie. Thanks, Nathan. What a fun topic! Because the word “lingerie” covers such a large array of clothing, I’m going to limit this blog to the topic of panties – a topic I know you are all totally into, as am I.
The great majority of us got our start in cross-dressing with panties. A good number of us started by exploring mom’s or sister’s panty drawer and then progressed to buying our own. Some folks, once they are adults, limit themselves to underdressing under their everyday male clothing, while others of us progressed on to bras, hosiery, and finally outer clothing.
I was a late starter, having begun with underdressing in middle age. Do you remember the thrill of that first time you slipped into a pair of panties? I was so amazed by the choices. With men’s underwear, you have a choice of tighty whities or boxers. Of course, you could expand that to uh, tighty whities or boxers. Of course, you can also find male thongs, usually in, of all places, swimwear. With panties, you’ve got this amazing variety of styles, colors, and fabrics. Xdress/Body Aware has a huge selection, ranging from pretty grannies to bikinis, thongs, G-strings, tap pants, tangas – ah the list goes on! And the fabrics! Lace, satin, cotton, polyester. I’m all about comfort, and men’s underwear does not begin to measure up to the comfortable styles and fabrics of panties.
It’s interesting to me that, although I’ve been underdressing for many years now (I have one pair of men’s underwear that I wear for my annual physical with my very conservative doctor) that it is still a treat every morning to pick out the day’s panties. When I wore men’s underwear, I didn’t give a thought to the selection of underwear, as they all looked the same. Not so with panties. Every day it is fun to decide on what panties to wear. Is it like that for you?
Online panty shopping is the safest way to go, and Xdress/Body Aware panties are designed with the male physique in mind, in terms of the width of the gusset, which gives a very comfortable fit. It is also fun to go to the “other side of the store” and explore the panty section. I am very fortunate to have a very supportive wife, and we go panty shopping together. I find that shopping in stores appeals to my feminine side, plus it is just a bit risky, making it all the more fun. Part of the fun for me is wearing a very sexy pair of panties under my women’s jeans and nobody has a clue how hot I look under it all. Speaking of jeans, if you try on a pair of women’s skinny jeans, you’ll never go back to men’s jeans. I know, that’s off topic, but I just had to throw that in there.
Okay, so there are my thoughts on the topic. How about you? Are you a full-time panty wearer or limit it to weekends or special occasions? How old were you when you started underdressing? What are your favorite styles/fabrics? What is your preferred style of shopping – online or brick and mortar? Warm up those keyboards guys/gurls. You know I love hearing your stories.
Fond regards,
Angie
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Thank you Keri for all the tips and tricks. Now I just have to work up the gumption to go into the women’s section in Kohls. I’m definitely going through a feeling out period right now and appreciate all the support and advice. Hope all is well with all of you.
G
Hi G,
Good questions. I had been thinking that Angie should do a blog on bras.
I have some suggestions and tips if you will regarding buying and wearing bras. The big issue, for me at least, is not wanting them to show through my shirt. Years ago I was outed wearing a bra when I bent forward to do something and a co worker actually asked if I was wearing a bra. It seems the strap at the point of connection showed through. Oops. So there is a risk.
First thought is figuring out your size. A simple tape measure around the body and over your nipples will give you the numerical bra size. Cup size is another story. Most men would be an A or B and even that isn’t completely accurate. Trouble is large bra dimensions do not typically come in an A cup. The second step is to try them on. Every bra fits differently and runs differently. Trying on can be a challenge. Take a deep breath and go to Kohls or Wal Mart. They have a good selection and the fitting rooms are easily accessible. Wal Mart is unisex dressing rooms and Kohls is separated. Years ago I found a few bras in the mens fitting room and realized we are not the only ones and someone had the extra nerve to bring in bras. I generally carry a shirt or some item of mens clothing, cover the bras and just walk in. Leave the bras behind if you don’t purchase if you want. Another idea is to get fitted. I have been told some guys have done this. I never have had the nerve. My sister in law worked in a woman’s store and now and then men came in and asked or called the store. The store she worked in did offer fittings and measurements. The girls in her store actually got a kick out of it. Although I am sure some stores wouldn’t be friendly about the idea. Ask first.
More recently I have personally found that bralettes are not only cute but quite practical for men. You can buy the styles that slip over your head or hook in the back. I definitely prefer the back hook as it feel much more feminine when you are hooking your bra, Plus if we are going to wear them then we need to learn and get used to hooking a bra in the back. By the way, many women actually bring the hooks around to their front, hook their bra and then just pull the bra around. Much easier if you just can not get your arms to hook in the back. The bralettes I look at and like have no cup per se. The lack of a distinct cup or the extra material solves the problem of the bra showing though from the front. Bralettes are fun, lacey, colorful and certainly very feminine. Perfect for us gurls. One more thing. Buy the bralettes with separate shoulder straps versus the over and around the neck style. UNLESS, you just must have your bra strap showing. LOL. They are cute and fun but will likely out you quickly.
These blogs are wonderful. They help all of us become more comfortable with our sexuality and feminine feelings. Thank you Angie and XDress for having these. It is a “Wonderful World Of Panties” and Bras.
Hugs, Keri
Hey everyone,
Looking for advice on bras: where to get them(besides xdress), sizes to look for, and other tips. I see some stuff say add 4” to the band measure for what you need, others don’t. My band measure was 40” with bust of 42”. Any help is much appreciated. Currently too nervous for a personal fitting
G
Samuel you should definitely learn to put on a bra by hooking it in the back. It’s the ultimate girly thing to do. I find it helps if you pull the straps down towards your butt before bringing them together. In other words try to hook them lower on your back rather than straight across where they normally sit. That way you don’t need as much flexibility in your arms to hook the straps together.
Very interesting comments about being hardwired to think wearing lingerie is wrong. I agree with this and need to find a way to remove the programming. I think maybe just committing to wearing nothing but panties and a bra (when I can get away with it) might result in a behavior change if done for long enough but I don’t know. Fun finding out though.
Hi Stevie and Nathan – thanks for your comments. When I say I mentioned it to her in general terms, I meant that there is such a thing as male lingerie designed just for men. She wasn’t interested in knowing anything any further! She wouldn’t wear lingerie herself, so doesn’t appreciate the feel and sexiness of it. I haven’t given up hope – I’ll just bide my time. Regarding wearing a jacket, it’s just too hot in our small office. On the very odd occasion when I have the office all to myself, then I can wear a bra too.
G – thanks for your thoughts too and sharing your personal experience. I haven’t given up, just waiting patiently!
John – I know what you mean about lace panties – just not comfy. Silkiness/satin wins every time for me – it looks and feels so feminine. Oh, and I’m no good at trying to hook up a bra from behind my back – just can’t get my arms to get in the right position!!
Thank you all for taking the time to reply to my post and giving me advice – I really appreciate it.
Samuel