The Excitement of Dressing-Up!

The Excitement of Dressing-Up!

In no way do I believe that the way I feel about cross-dressing is the way everyone who cross-dresses feels. And that includes people who are born male but identify as female or those that are on a male to female transition journey – we all have our own feelings. But I find a simple happiness in recognizing, and accepting, that I find it all just so exciting!

And what’s wrong with that?

I don’t ask anyone to accept my preferences for wearing lacy and satin underwear and stay-up stockings. I’m kind of OK that the majority of the world won’t accept my cross-dressing as ‘normal’. To an extent I would feel comfortable going about my daily business dressed ‘en-femme’. Heaven knows, it might even feel less exciting if I got to do it on the daily amongst others!

The excitement of wearing gorgeous lingerie, skirts, tops, heels and make-up (I can’t get used to wigs) began, for me, at an early age – like it did for many of you, I guess. It remains today. I’ve purged, I’ve tried to control my feelings – but it comes back just as strong. And why should I resist?

Our old friend Aristotle thought of a life of pleasure as enough for a good life or a life well-lived – alongside a life of honor, wealth, health, or eminence. Take your pick. Some psychologists suggest a good life is a mixture of pleasurable, meaningful and varied experiences. Others say that hedonic goal pursuits (e.g. having fun) may be just as important for our well-being as long-term goal pursuits (e.g. learning something new to get a better job).

On that basis, a little of what I fancy ought to do me good!

In truth, I wonder if I can even justify - as if I need to – my cross-dressing as something that puts me in touch with my feminine side. After all, what is either feminine or masculine about clothes?

Do I wear women’s clothes? No, I wear my clothes. It’s just that most people probably associate my clothes with those mainly worn by women – whereas Aristotle and his friends probably knew a thing or two about wearing a skirt, or ‘a chiton’ as it might have been called.

Do I feel feminine when I wear my lingerie and dresses? Well, how would I know what feeling feminine feels like? I’m not even sure what feeling masculine feels like. Do women spend their lives feeling feminine any more than I spend my life feeling masculine? Probably not. Although, there seems to be a lot of evidence to suggest that people have a male or female experience of the world, I think that’s probably a little different to feeling either masculine or feminine.

Maybe what I do in cross-dressing is construct my own feminine ideal and find that exciting to occupy for a little space of time. I find it hard to imagine that, in general, women feel as excited as I do when dressed in what they wear on a daily basis. However, I can also imagine that some women might do.

British artist Grayson Perry has said that people accept his cross dressing because he is an artist – he’s “allowed to be weird”. At the same time, he accepts that attitudes towards him might be different if he were a banker. Though in no way should this permit intimidation, aggression and exclusion towards people that harmlessly digress from societal norms.

In day-to-day life I’m probably more banker than artist. My dressing remains hidden, subtle, or in accepting company.

I don’t want to tell you what the reasons for cross-dressing are or should be. It’s good enough for me to be excited by the looks I can create. A creative act or even a delusional one at times – I’m no cat-walk model. Should it matter? Like any craft it takes time, practice, and experimentation to create a satisfying work.

Do you need to find reasons for what you do? Or is it enough discovering the fact that 'It’s All Just So Exciting!'

 

Justin

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34 comments

Justin, thanks for the topic. Have always found sexy under gear exciting be it lace or nylon panties, bras, garter belts and nylons or leather. Appreciate Xdress products designed for the male anatomy…..makes the experience even more fulfilling. Again, thank you for the topic. Mike

Mike

Justin we understand as some of us started this way too. As soon as you can get your own clothes! Undergarments are very private and personal! Using their stuff is like violating their privacy! If you cant buy here several box stores and online outlets have affordable lingerie
Get ur lingerie on I am
Stevie

Stevie

Hello cella’s! I started wearing my mom’s and sis lingerie when I was young!! Although mom caught me in her lingerie many times , I just told her about me being in the closet !! She doesn’t understand, neither do I but I love love crossdressing !!!!! John

John

Dear sean
Cudos to u and ur wife, for u to tell her and for her to accept
Search but do not beat ur self up
Glad ur here! Its great to dress it is taboo and it does feel great
Stevie

Stevie

I am still searching for a reason why I dress. I have been dressing secretly for years. I have binged and purged more than I care to admit. Last year I finally told my wife I like wearing women’s underwear and did so frequently under my male clothes. I thought she would leave me for sure but to my surprise told me that, while she didn’t want to be involved, if it made me feel good keep doing it. She even told me to put my clothes in my dresser and closet instead of the backpack I kept in the trunk of my car! I tell that story because one thing she asked was why I did this. I didn’t, and still don’t have a good answer. The best I can come up with is that it feels good and the taboo is exciting. I’m going to keep searching for a reason because I’m very confused.

Sean

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