The Beautiful Part of Us

The Beautiful Part of Us
None of us decided to be who we are.  We are who we are and we are perfect the way we are.  This part of us is exactly that...its a part of us.  We will not outgrow this.  This is not something we can, or should stop.  Love this part of you, because it is part of you.  

For most of us, we discovered this part of us at a very early age.  And if you're reading this, its because you have accepted and have embraced this part of you.  I'm proud of you.

I don't think many of us were shopping at the mall recently and thought "you know, instead of boxers, I think I'll try those cute, lacy panties instead".  I am also unsure if there were any of us who decided when shopping for shoes for a job interview that rather those boring wingtip dress shoes, we'd wear five inch stiletto heels instead.  

The point is that we don't just wake up and decide to start wearing dresses instead of jeans as adults.  Our dressing begins, for most of us, begins at a young age.  I've written before that the first memory of my dressing was trying on my mother's heels (link to the previous blog 'Giving Yourself Permission to be Fabulous').  My dressing started then, and it continued all throughout my life.  I knew it wasn't something that boys were allowed to do, I knew it wasn't something boys were supposed to do, but those social and gender expectations never made me stop.  I didn't WANT to stop.  I knew I couldn't.  I knew then that this wasn't a was who I was and today it's who I am.  

In school I watched enviously as the girls played dress-up wearing beautiful clothes that looked a little like the Little Miss Muffet Tea Dress and school uniforms.  I so wanted to wear what the girls wore.  Thanks to Xdress' Back to School Uniform, I can make that dream a reality.   

Whenever I meet another girl like me, it''s not uncommon for us to have a conversation about how....all this started.  We were often fascinated and jealous of the pink dresses that our sisters wore.  We were mesmerized by bras and wondered what it would be like to wear one.  We all remember the first time we felt this pull, we all remember the first time we wanted to wear a dress and the first time we made that dream come true.  We all knew that not every boy felt this way and that it should be a secret.  Some of us were caught by our parents or siblings.  Some of us told our family what we wanted to wear.  

Coming out to others is never easy.  We are putting ourselves in a very vulnerable position where we are revealing what is probably the most intimate and secretive...and beautiful part of us.  For some of us, coming out is not a choice, such as when someone "catches" us, such as when we are young.  I've come out to a few people in my life with varying results.  I can't say that I was ever correct at guessing how they would react.  

So, when did you first start wanting to wear lingerie?  What were your first memories of wanting to wear princess dresses, or high heels or makeup?  What were your experiences growing up and coming out to other people?

Love, Hannah

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The curiosity started young, probably in my early teens. Women’s underwear at the time was changing or at least its presence in society. Mtv showcased many female artists in lingerie or scantily dressed clothes and underwear. VS was “new” to the scene. Workout gear had body suits and thongs and leg warmers. All such new “stuff” to the young pubescent man. Society continued down the path of sexuality and the products that came out of it were great. Advance to 2020 and we have had XDress for a few year and men’s panties are available although I do not think they are mainstream, yet!


Hi Hannah

Congratulations on your post. Returning a few years ago, I think that my feminine side started to reveal itself as a boy. Over the years it has grown and around the age of 12 I have tried a few briefs. But it was in my teens and with my boyfriend at the time that I started using only panties he loved it. After that I never stopped!


I was introduced to panties when I was 12 by an older neighbor boy. I loved the look and feel. I am much older now but still love panties and especially garters and stockings which I wear for my bf all the time. I would love to meet other guys who wear in the Seattle area.


I wore my sisters clothes on and off ever since about age 8, and had a brief period of repressing that desire when I got together with my current girlfriend at age 16. About a year after we got together, I started wearing her clothes in secret. I then expressed my liking for pantyhose to her around age 18, which she was okay with. I was afraid to express my desire to wear all kinds of women’s clothes for the next couple of years. My girlfriend is an angel of woman, absolutely gorgeous and sexy, and she loves wearing feminine clothes. Every day she will wear pantyhose, a dress or skirt, and high heels. During the time in which this part of me was kept a secret, I would vent the energy I had within me by shopping for clothes for my girlfriend online. I loved going online and looking at womens clothing. Not only was it exciting for me to imagine my girlfriend in these clothes, but I also had a strong desire to wear the things I would pick out for her. After about a year of this, and finding websites like this which encourage you to come out to your SO, I finally told her everything about a month ago. At first she was hurt from me not telling her, and was somewhat put off by it and didn’t want to see me in female clothes. A week or so later, she adjusted and was then okay with seeing me fully dressed up. Since then, she has evolved more regarding what is tolerable for her. I wear a bra, panties, and pantyhose daily under my work clothes. On the weekends, I will fully dress up for the majority of the day. She even helps me shave my legs. The only times I cannot be dressed up is during intimacy, as my girlfriend is turned off by seeing me in those clothes. I am still allowed to wear pantyhose (crotchless) during intimacy. Perhaps in the future, she will be okay with me wearing lingerie during sex. I am just grateful she is so accepting of it, albeit not completely. I have never felt for relaxed about who I am since I have told her. And thanks to websites like this, I had the courage to tell her. I am looking forward to my future finally being true to who I am.


Like many of us, I started admiring my sisters panties and lingerie when is was in my early teens. Eventually, I’d try things on and run around the house and admire myself in the mirror. When she caught me I was terrified, but she never gave up my secret to our parents and would actually give me a pair of panties and nightie to wear when my folks were out of town and she was watching over me. After I got married I stopped, and never figured out a way to break my desires to my wife. At around forty I got involved with a (male) friend in an affair that lasted for many years. Out of nowhere, I got out of a hotel shower expecting to hop into bed with my boyfriend and there was a note telling me he was going for a bottle of wine and would be back shortly. Lying across the pillows were a pair of black lace panties and a baby doll nightie!! I put them on and when he returned we had an afternoon of fantastic sex. After that, lingerie became a regular part of our sex life. For ten years I wanna treated to lace, satin and toys. Loved every minute of it, until I retired and the wife and I moved to the northwest. Lo and behold, a few years later I met another retired guy online who asked me if I would mind if he wanted me to wear “some lacy stuff”. My hidden collection is growing again, as my lover loves to hand be a bag and then leave the room while I “get ready”. Couldn’t have worked out better.


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