The Art of Femininity

Hello dear readers! I would like to start by sincerely wishing you all the very best during these troubling times. Today, let us take the time to discuss the art behind femininity, and how each of us has our own unique style(s). 

So what exactly does it mean to be feminine? The dictionary describes it as "having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women, especially delicacy and prettiness". Even in this definition, it states "traditionally associated with women", which means you certainly do not have to be a woman to be feminine. Femininity can be displayed in various ways, whether it is our clothing, makeup, hair, or personalities. Standard feminine personality traits include gentleness, empathy, humility, and sensitivity. 

Now that we understand the basics, let's discuss further. Of course, I will start with clothing. Typical feminine styles that I adore are lace, frills, ruffles, and ruching. These can all be found in a plethora of colors in all categories; skirts, dresses, blouses, and lingerie. I often am drawn to the most feminine styles because that is at the core of who I am. I usually pass on plain, unimaginative designs in favor of beautiful styles that you can't help but admire constantly. This is very easy to do when you get to wear such exquisite designs, so thank you XDress!

As many of you might know already, I am a goth, and with that comes a whole new subcategory of styles and clothing that is not found as commonly. I would say it is the most beautiful fashion out there, as it specifically revolves around materials that are rich in color and that emphasize romance. Satin, leather, lace, mesh, and fishnet are such materials, typically found in black, or deep reds and purples. My favorite types of gothic clothing are latex skirts, velvet blouses, leather leggings, and lace lingerie. As I mentioned earlier, femininity is an art, and this is my specific style. 

Let's move on from clothing and talk about makeup! Now when it comes to my personal style, I of course wear goth makeup. This usually emphasizes the eyes by making them appear very luscious, with heavy eyeshadow and eyeliner, with gorgeous long lashes. This is all completed with a flawless foundation and lipstick. This look is one that certainly makes me stand out, and I always appreciate the compliments I get on my appearance as I spend hours every day to achieve my femme goth style. 

Personality/ behavior traits is a whole new subject. Since I began dressing completely on a daily basis, I've noticed a shift in my attitude. I am more patient and understanding, while also becoming more empathic and sensitive. This has actually done wonders for my relationship, and I've never been so happy with my girlfriend. I personally think every man needs to get in touch with their feminine side, as it opens up so many wonderful opportunities even excluding clothing.

Beyond personality, femininity is also apparent in the way we move. Men typically are very stiff, with their shoulders being the focal point of their movements. Women are much more graceful, appearing to move in a fluid motion. This is achieved through the legendary hip-swaying and a delicate swing of the arms. Walking this way takes much practice, and I would personally recommend wearing heels accompanied by a corset if you want to practice. This will force you to keep your shoulders immobile while making your hips do all the work. A more in-depth blog on feminine movement can be found here on XDress as well. 

As you might gather, femininity plays a part in so many different aspects of who we are. Our bodies are a unique canvas in which we all portray our personalities through the use of clothes and makeup. I cannot imagine my life without feminity, and I hope one day all men can express themselves in such a beautiful way as we all do here. 

That wraps it up for this blog! So what are your thoughts? In what ways are you creative through clothing/makeup? How has femininity changed your life? I can't wait to hear your stories!

-Nathan

14 comments

I’ve worn stockings and garters under my male business wear for decades. I’m strictly vloset. I wear nude or light beige after stockings with a wide six strap gbelt with the rear strap well to the rear. I love the gentle thigh massage from the stockings and tiny motion of the straps as I move about. I don’t believe I was ever detected. But one day, as I was giving a presentation, I dropped a paper on the floor. As I stood up after retrieving it, a front garter popped open with what seemed to me like a cannon shot. I hurriedly finished my talk and went to the mens’ room for repairs.

angie September 22, 2020

Hola buenas tardes un cordial saludo desde Aguascalientes México solo quiero compartir que ami siempre me gustado mucho usar lencería y siempre e usado me siento cómodo y me encanta usar pero solo es ese gusto o fetiche no soy Gay siempre me angustado las mujeres desde joven fue muy normal con mis novias y igualmente siempre ese gusto por usar lencería hasta el dia de hoy tengo 33 años y 7 años de casado y 2 hermosos hijos y mi esposa siempre lo supo desde fuimos novios de mi gusto por usar lencería y todo bien pero yo siento que ella le molesta,o desconfía de mi por el echo de use lencería tenga otros gustos o que me dejen de interesar las mujeres pero no es así llo siempre esido así y se lo e demostrado por que la Amo pero lo malo es que no medise nada nada eslo que me demuestra ni siquiera se si desde que nosconosimos le molestaba a ella ese gusto que tengo y me ase sentir mal su actitud porque son muchos Años compartiendo y conviviendo porque ella fue la persona que llo escoji como my esposa y la amo pero lo que ella me hace sentir es que nunca me a aceptado tal como soy ,pero también nuestro matrimonio asido muy normal ella y llo formamos los pilares para que allá sido duradero siempre cumpliendo con Responsabilidades y siempre ver por el bienestar de nuestros hijos y a funcionando nuestro hogar solo es eso que no entiendo por qué ella no lo ha podido comprender o de entenderme y aceptarme tal como soy y con disgusto que seria eso my gusto por el uso de lencería siempre he usado como uso diario de Ropa interior siempre femenina y no para hombres nunca etenido ni usado ese tiempo de Ropa interior porque no simplemente no me gusta ,ni quisiera usarla Hojala y ella me comprendiera,ni tiene que dudar de lo que soy o desconfiar por ese simple gusto mío que es solo eso un simple gusto que me ase sentir bien con lo que uso y visto que es solo usar Ropa interior femenina siempre esido así y no podrá hacerme cambiar o de que vista algo con lo que no me sienta bien y solo incómodo seria como el usar una talla de zapatos más chica sabiendo que llo calzo del 8-1/2 y ella me compre del 7 que eso es lo que ella quería que Use . Sería como un ejemplo bueno me despido y que tengan buenas tardes Solo quería compartir mi vida y sin Ofender y con todo Respeto Gracias…

Francisco August 28, 2020

Hello everyone! Apologies for my late response. I have loved reading all your comments and I think we all are on the right track towards a much better (and femme) world. These topics feel more and more natural to discuss every time, and that is a great feeling. You all have great taste, and don’t ever stop exploring this side of you.
-Nathan

Nathan August 24, 2020

On man bags… i have several. I match them with my clothes. I really want a neutral looking female bag. Looking for one.
Lots of guys laughed at me but now they want one too!

Stevie. Wear something pretty today!

Stevie August 22, 2020

Hi Gurls,

I love that men are able to let out their feminine side more than ever. I have let my fem side gradually over the years. Like so many it started with panties and other lingerie. I guess panties were center stage for a long time and I have worn them exclusively for years. Even to doctor appointments. Of course I tone them down to a basic white or black panty. You might get a quick look or glance and yes I was terribly nervous the first few times. That all passes. I don’t know when or how but other feminine things followed. I shaved under my arms and legs. That was a big deal for me when going out in public. Terribly self conscious. That to passed and quite quickly. Today men shave everywhere. The color pink was another goal and I love that color. Shoes, tops, shorts and even sneakers in my attire. By the time you are there people are likely thinking you have a fem side. But do they really know? Originally I bought man bags. My wife was okay with that as it was less I asked her to carry. She has bought me a number of purses or handbags over the years. If my eyebrows went up I pretended they didn’t and have several handbags that I even think are girlie. They are so terribly handy though. Nail care, eye brows (I love having my eyebrows fem), light makeup, selectively women’s tops, shorts and footwear. But only if unisex enough to pass. Those lines move in time if I am honest. I am small so women’s clothes are easy for me.

I love men expressing their feminine side. It seems so much more acceptable these days. I hope it becomes even more acceptable. Why shouldn’t males be able to wear girls school uniforms? Why not wear skirts and dresses? XDress has certainly help make all this more open and acceptable. Thank you.

Keri August 17, 2020

Ally, I love the idea of boys being allowed to wear girls school uniforms, what a wonderful world that would be!

Jamie August 17, 2020

Hi everyone I found a great online article about eyebrow care. Using some of the simple tips from it made a real difference to the femininity of my eyebrows. A little bit of trimming and a little bit of plucking in the right places have given them a subtly more feminine shape and more scope for using eye shadows and mascara to better effect. Really simple but very effective. Have fun Ally x

ally August 17, 2020

Femininity is a great feeling. Masculinity is also a great feeling. Balancing the two is the best and each day affords itself an opportunity to lean one way more than the other or go full tilt in one direction. In my case, I work in different environments daily. Office visits some days. Site visits on others. Some days require hard manual labor so I have to wear a pair of boxer briefs. Some days I’m doing office visits all day and I can wear manties. Some days it’s a hybrid so I usually go with the boxer briefs unless I know that “heavy lifting” time will be minimal. However, at the end of the day, I always feel a little more feminine after I wash off the day and slip into a pair of manties from XDress. I have added a bra to my routine now. So femininity has balance for me and I think I like it.

Scott August 17, 2020

Dear Randy and other bloggers:
Man bag. I started using one five yrs ago when I decided to wear panties full time a push the envelope on my attire. Finally accepted myself. I have several. I co ordinate them with my outfit
I got some ridicule but after awhile some guys wanted one too. Lol.

Stevie August 14, 2020

Great Topic and certainly very appropriate for our community. You are correct—femininity is certainly an art and with all great art it takes practice. Not just with clothing and make-up but also with things like posture, gestures, mannerisms, and talking. It took a lot of practice for me to develop my style and look. After years of practice and experimenting, I find that the career women look is my favorite. As I am writing this I am wearing a silk blouse with a black blazer, pencil skirt and high heels. I usually dress in fem around the house on days off. Really relaxing. The only people who know I dress is my mother—who actually got me started dressing years ago and my boyfriend. When I do go out in male mode I usually use a “man” bag. Comes in handy with all the stuff you have to carry around these days—wallet, keys, cigarettes(I am a smoker), cell phone, and planner. I see man bags are more popular these days. Keep the conversation going. I would be interested in your thoughts and experiences.

Randy August 13, 2020

Hi Ally
Great points
Freedom is the ability to be yourself in any situation
Negative energy needs to be extracted from our lives
Wear what you want when u want
Panties daily for me
Nail polish on my toes all the time
Bras occasionally
Womens jeans and tops
Wear something pretty today i am

Stevie August 09, 2020

Hi Nathan – thank you for writing this blog on such an important topic. Since more openly expressing my femininity in the way I dress and make up, I have also simultaneously adjusted my interactions with people who display more characteristically masculine behaviours. Those people are on the fringes or gone from my life completely now and I feel so much better for it mentally. Being able to outwardly express my femininity in the way I dress and behave and to be around people who accept that makes me feel so much better. The change I feel makes me wonder if choicee of expression of femininity needs to be encouraged at a much earlier age rather than leaving people unhappy and to warily unfold who they are over a long period of their lives. I remember when I was a child and my mother had to dress me in a skirt one afternoon and how different it made me feel. The pressure to ‘behave like a boy’ seemed to fall away and I felt so much more relaxed and happier. School uniform requirements should be much less gender specific. Boys should be allowed to wear skirts if they want to and without fear of bullying. Like Stevie (hi Stevie) there are things that I do that might be thought of as masculine – but girls do those things too. The much more important aspect of my femininity is the way I choose to dress and my more naturally feminine behaviours. Perhaps my appearance is an outward expression of my values and who I see as my clan. By being myself I have found I attract people who appreciate me as myself. Life becomes so much easier. Love to you all Ally x

Ally August 08, 2020

Thanks for all your thoughts. Much appreciated and gave me many useful tips!

Myron August 06, 2020

Thank Nathan
Provocative post
For me I have a feminine side that yearns to be heard. I struggle with my fluidity for at times i wish to portray what is considered “femme”
I love heels and painting my toes
I love short dresses and stockings
Skinny jeans and stillettos
I love pretty lingerie
I m exploring make up. But I m so male too! Lol! Cars football engines Lawn mowers fixing things etc
I guess my femme side expresses itself in my personality as well. I m often called humble , nice , gentle.

I love this blig its a lifeline for me to express my thoughts and share others as well

Wear something pretty today i am
Stevie

Stevie August 06, 2020

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