The Art of Femininity

The Art of Femininity
Hello dear readers! I would like to start by sincerely wishing you all the very best during these troubling times. Today, let us take the time to discuss the art behind femininity, and how each of us has our own unique style(s). 

So what exactly does it mean to be feminine? The dictionary describes it as "having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women, especially delicacy and prettiness". Even in this definition, it states "traditionally associated with women", which means you certainly do not have to be a woman to be feminine. Femininity can be displayed in various ways, whether it is our clothing, makeup, hair, or personalities. Standard feminine personality traits include gentleness, empathy, humility, and sensitivity. 

Now that we understand the basics, let's discuss further. Of course, I will start with clothing. Typical feminine styles that I adore are lace, frills, ruffles, and ruching. These can all be found in a plethora of colors in all categories; skirts, dresses, blouses, and lingerie. I often am drawn to the most feminine styles because that is at the core of who I am. I usually pass on plain, unimaginative designs in favor of beautiful styles that you can't help but admire constantly. This is very easy to do when you get to wear such exquisite designs, so thank you XDress!

As many of you might know already, I am a goth, and with that comes a whole new subcategory of styles and clothing that is not found as commonly. I would say it is the most beautiful fashion out there, as it specifically revolves around materials that are rich in color and that emphasize romance. Satin, leather, lace, mesh, and fishnet are such materials, typically found in black, or deep reds and purples. My favorite types of gothic clothing are latex skirts, velvet blouses, leather leggings, and lace lingerie. As I mentioned earlier, femininity is an art, and this is my specific style. 

Let's move on from clothing and talk about makeup! Now when it comes to my personal style, I of course wear goth makeup. This usually emphasizes the eyes by making them appear very luscious, with heavy eyeshadow and eyeliner, with gorgeous long lashes. This is all completed with a flawless foundation and lipstick. This look is one that certainly makes me stand out, and I always appreciate the compliments I get on my appearance as I spend hours every day to achieve my femme goth style. 

Personality/ behavior traits is a whole new subject. Since I began dressing completely on a daily basis, I've noticed a shift in my attitude. I am more patient and understanding, while also becoming more empathic and sensitive. This has actually done wonders for my relationship, and I've never been so happy with my girlfriend. I personally think every man needs to get in touch with their feminine side, as it opens up so many wonderful opportunities even excluding clothing.

Beyond personality, femininity is also apparent in the way we move. Men typically are very stiff, with their shoulders being the focal point of their movements. Women are much more graceful, appearing to move in a fluid motion. This is achieved through the legendary hip-swaying and a delicate swing of the arms. Walking this way takes much practice, and I would personally recommend wearing heels accompanied by a corset if you want to practice. This will force you to keep your shoulders immobile while making your hips do all the work.

As you might gather, femininity plays a part in so many different aspects of who we are. Our bodies are a unique canvas in which we all portray our personalities through the use of clothes and makeup. I cannot imagine my life without feminity, and I hope one day all men can express themselves in such a beautiful way as we all do here. 

That wraps it up for this blog! So what are your thoughts? In what ways are you creative through clothing/makeup? How has femininity changed your life? I can't wait to hear your stories!


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Hello everyone! Apologies for my late response. I have loved reading all your comments and I think we all are on the right track towards a much better (and femme) world. These topics feel more and more natural to discuss every time, and that is a great feeling. You all have great taste, and don’t ever stop exploring this side of you. -Nathan


On man bags… i have several. I match them with my clothes. I really want a neutral looking female bag. Looking for one. Lots of guys laughed at me but now they want one too! Stevie. Wear something pretty today!


Hi Gurls, I love that men are able to let out their feminine side more than ever. I have let my fem side gradually over the years. Like so many it started with panties and other lingerie. I guess panties were center stage for a long time and I have worn them exclusively for years. Even to doctor appointments. Of course I tone them down to a basic white or black panty. You might get a quick look or glance and yes I was terribly nervous the first few times. That all passes. I don’t know when or how but other feminine things followed. I shaved under my arms and legs. That was a big deal for me when going out in public. Terribly self conscious. That to passed and quite quickly. Today men shave everywhere. The color pink was another goal and I love that color. Shoes, tops, shorts and even sneakers in my attire. By the time you are there people are likely thinking you have a fem side. But do they really know? Originally I bought man bags. My wife was okay with that as it was less I asked her to carry. She has bought me a number of purses or handbags over the years. If my eyebrows went up I pretended they didn’t and have several handbags that I even think are girlie. They are so terribly handy though. Nail care, eye brows (I love having my eyebrows fem), light makeup, selectively women’s tops, shorts and footwear. But only if unisex enough to pass. Those lines move in time if I am honest. I am small so women’s clothes are easy for me. I love men expressing their feminine side. It seems so much more acceptable these days. I hope it becomes even more acceptable. Why shouldn’t males be able to wear girls school uniforms? Why not wear skirts and dresses? XDress has certainly help make all this more open and acceptable. Thank you.


Ally, I love the idea of boys being allowed to wear girls school uniforms, what a wonderful world that would be!


Hi everyone

I found a great online article about eyebrow care. Using some of the simple tips from it made a real difference to the femininity of my eyebrows. A little bit of trimming and a little bit of plucking in the right places have given them a subtly more feminine shape and more scope for using eye shadows and mascara to better effect. Really simple but very effective.

Have fun

Ally x


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