Hi Hannah, how do you feel about masculine men who just love the lingerie aspect of this lifestyle? Or, men who wear women's clothing but still may want to keep their facial hair?
Lingerie is for EVERYONE, regardless of your gender identity and/or your physical features. Although lingerie is typically associated with femininity and it often enhances one's feeling of femininity, there's no rule that beautiful bras and stockings are just for people who identify as feminine. I think ANYONE and EVERYONE who wears ANYTHING that makes them feel AMAZING or BEAUTIFUL or SEXY is strong and confident, regardless if it's a nightie or a tuxedo or a little black dress.
And really, confidence is what makes someone sexy. Lingerie can help us with how we feel, but unless it helps us feel confident then the most beautiful bra and panty in the world doesn't really matter. It's the person who wears it that makes it sexy.
One thing I love about XDress is how inclusive their models are when it comes to their bodies. Yes, there are cute guys who have thin, lithe bodies, but there are also beautiful, muscular men who have arms that could crush a Honda Accord while wearing a merrywidow with clear platform heels AND they would look absolutely gorgeous doing it.
Don't think about your body or lingerie as masculine or feminine (unless you want to). Gender isn't and doesn't have to be either. I suppose it's more accurate to say to not let your body or how you feel or identity to limit what you wear. If the bra fits, then the bra was designed for you. Your panties don't care if you have the most amazing beard in the world.
Love, Hannah
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I love mountain biking. I love loud angry gigs in small sweaty venues. I love going to the opera. I love my wearing panties and am childishly excited by the fact that I have a glow thong on order. It is possible to be all these things without contradiction; it is the current idolising of toxic alpha male masculinity worries and depresses me.
My husband asked me to post a comment here to explain my perspective about his choice of underwear. My husband John is a manly man, and I love him that way. When he first told me about his interest in wearing panties and women’s underwear I was certainly taken aback. At that time I wondered if it indicated that he might have doubts about his sexuality or gender identity. I now realise it has no bearing on either. When he first wore panties in front of me I wasn’t keen. It just looked wrong. How can a masculine man look good in something so feminine? It took me a while to get used to it but gradually I realised that if it makes him happy then it’s really not that important, after all he’s still the same man but just happens to be wearing something different. Over time I discovered that when John puts on lingerie he becomes much more attentive. This understanding has helped me move from a position of mere acceptance to one of encouragement. I’ve actually bought things for him and can honestly say that I now enjoy the fact that he wears lingerie. His masculinity is unaffected by his choice of underwear, I still have my manly husband, but we have something other couples don’t have, and I have a more attentive husband. Ultimately, I think it has actually enhanced our relationship. Maybe everyone should try it?!!!
My husband asked me to post a comment here to explain my perspective about his choice of underwear. My husband John is a manly man, and I love him that way. When he first told me about his interest in wearing panties and women’s underwear I was certainly taken aback. At that time I wondered if it indicated that he might have doubts about his sexuality or gender identity. I now realise it has no bearing on either. When he first wore panties in front of me I wasn’t keen. It just looked wrong. How can a masculine man look good in something so feminine? It took me a while to get used to it but gradually I realised that if it makes him happy then it’s really not that important, after all he’s still the same man but just happens to be wearing something different. Over time I discovered that when John puts on lingerie he becomes much more attentive. This understanding has helped me move from a position of mere acceptance to one of encouragement. I’ve actually bought things for him and can honestly say that I now enjoy the fact that he wears lingerie. His masculinity is unaffected by his choice of underwear, I still have my manly husband, but we have something other couples don’t have, and I have a more attentive husband. Ultimately, I think it has actually enhanced our relationship. Maybe everyone should try it?!!!
Hi Stevie. I’ll ask my wife if she will put a comment on here to get her take on things. Although I might be a bit nervous to read it if she agrees!
Andrew and John
How fortunate u are
I d love to hear your wives take on how they got to the point where they accept you lingerie-ing and recognize it doesn’t affect your masculinity
I d love to bevin ur shoes
Stevie
Lingerie for men, its our thing