Loving yourself starts with accepting who you truly are. Being a crossdresser is a perfectly normal thing and should never be thought of in disdain or disgust, especially when you are thinking about yourself. This can be a difficult habit to shake due to the conditioning of those around you, or the comments of others. One of the best ways to combat such feelings is by surrounding yourself with those that are supportive. Even if you do not have friends or family to rely on, luckily there are websites like XDress where support is exactly what you will find (as well as amazing lingerie that will fit perfectly).
You will find that loving yourself definitely gets easier with time, just like anything else. One of the most efficient ways for me to feel wholesome within myself is by being consistent with my morning routine. Putting on my makeup in my favorite underwear, then picking out an outfit for the day is just a truly therapeutic experience. Looking in the mirror and seeing your outfit and makeup together brings a sincere feeling of validation, as you know this is you in your purest form. This feeling can be heightened even further if someone compliments you on your outfit or makeup, completely alleviating any prior worry of judgement.
Of course, treating yourself to your deepest desires and buying yourself clothes and lingerie is another fantastic way to love yourself. I personally love anything black as most of you know, and anything satin or silk in particular. If you don't know what your favorite colors or fabrics are, go shopping! Xdress has any and all colors from the more vibrant neons, to the rich romantic shades to suit any individual. There's nothing quite as soul-cleansing as buying yourself new clothes or lingerie, trying them on, and finding how much you love them. Don't stick to just lingerie either! Skirts, dresses, shoes, makeup or whatever else you can think of, just buy it!
Don't just buy it either, wear it all the time! Simply going about your day fully dressed or underdressed has an immediate effect in aiding your confidence, so why not do it everyday? And since you wear it at home, why not wear it out too? The nervous feeling will quickly subside, and you will feel absolute euphoria as you enter your favorite stores/places dressed the way you always wanted to be. I personally dress up fully everyday and my feminine clothing and lifestyle has simply become second nature, I no longer even feel the slightest guilt for it. This is something you must train your mind to do; to just be yourself unapologetically. Once you start fully dressing, you will not imagine living life any other way.
After all, wearing a beautiful dress or lingerie is something that makes women feel sexy, and there's certainly nothing wrong with it making men feel the same way. I personally adore the moments I spend with my girlfriend where we are both dolled up and go out together, only to end the night in intimate embrace as our souls connect on the deepest level. Embracing your femininity will lead to many amazing places, but there is none better than the arms of someone who loves you for who you are. And if you're single, loving yourself will soon lead to others loving you as they cannot resist your confident energy.
So, do you love yourself? What methods do you use to further build your confidence? I would love for us all to lift each other up and share any experiences that have helped you love yourself.
Can I ask how many guys in this thread (or any other thread) are straight with a female partner? When I look into male lingerie, men who love lace underwear, men who wear stockings and make up etc. it definitely seems to be mainly the gay community who embrace it with confidence and lack of judgement and to be fair they always look amazing, I am interested in how many hetero and traditionally ‘masculine’ men are out there who are into this and how they navigate through fear of judgement and being open about loving wearing these items. I would love to just be open and confident without fear of my friends and families judgement (as at the end of the day it’s just material!) But I really worry that people would find it ‘weird’ and be uncomfortable!! I wish I could just be confident and fly the flag for clothes having no gender but I guess I’m scared. Would love some feedback ☺️
great comments and I do get it
think about this, who ever knows what underwear u are wearing
dont worry about that , did u ever wonder before
i also am like if she doesnt like the sexy undies i sure do
Its so comforting to read these comments and to hear from other men who have the same passion for beautiful silk and lacy underwear. I’ve always been drawn to women’s lingerie but my partner has no interest in wearing sexy lingerie, she doesn’t even bother with underwear at all so one day I figured if I can’t enjoy seeing it on her I’ll see how it feels to wear it myself. My god what a feeling! I am obsessed with lace underwear and wearing it in secret makes me feel incredible!! Luckily my partner reacted in the best way possible when I revealed what I’d discovered and she absolutely loves seeing me and feeling me in knickers 😃 she is very passionate about fighting gender stereotypes which helps but its been amazing having her be so supportive and enthusiastic about me wearing lace knickers. I am still miles away from being comfortable enough for others to find out, when I go out in lace panties i am terrified of someone seeing them, I have a lot of traditional masculine friends who I feel would react badly and assume I must be gay or a pervert! I’m not scared of people thinking I’m gay, who cares, I’m not but so what if I was! Its more a fear of my friends feeling awkward around me. Anyone else get what I mean? So far it’s just knickers I love, never really considered a bra as got no boobs (or moobs!) But I have one pair of stocking I love! I just wish I had the confidence to be open about wearing lace undies because at the end of the day clothes have no gender and lingerie is sexy – whatever body it is on!!
What are we doing today to get our lingerie on?
I changed my nail polish on my toes! Took some pics of me in my new orange skirt and cami from xdress and wore some mascara concealer and did my eyebrows
What r u doing?
Hi Stevie and Kyrstin – it’s so nice to hear we’re in tune with this. Hearing your support gives me that little bit more freedom to be the way I like. Thank you both! Keep dressin’ Ally x
Hey gurlz hope everyone is well. Ally and Stevie are right, do what you can when you can and freely enjoy every minute of it! My GF and I get pedicures regularly and it’s always fun for both of us. I’m lucky to work in a place where I can have a little freedom to dress as I like but I do it in moderation with low or medium heels, tight slacks or jeans and light makeup. And always panties underneath of course!
Rock your best outfits!!
You got it all right! If u r not in a situation where u can dress as you like there are some things u can do to satisfy your cravings. Underdress! Panties bras camis women’s tanks
Nail polish on those toes! A pedi with clear polish! Women’s jeans! Stockings in the winter
Women s sweaters in the fall
A man bag
Clear finger nail polish
Lingerie at night
Get ur lingerie on
Hi there crossdress lovers! Great article and comments. So true. Even if you have to keep your dressing secret, love yourself by making time for it. What you do, doesn’t have to be approved of by others for you to love yourself. Find times or places where you can dress and feel good. I’ve recently found the time and the place for a walk where I can wear one of my favourite skirts and shoulder bags and enjoy the fresh air around my legs whilst walking on paths through long grass. It makes me feel so free and is what I owe to myself. Not everyone is in a situation where they feel able to dress how they would like to from morning until night. Think about where and when you can do something though, and start from there. You owe it to yourself to love yourself and claim the right to be how you want to be. Love dressin’ Ally x
Chris yes u r right! We should live for ourselves and b true to ourselves! Panties make us feel good look good and satisfy an inner craving!
Get ur lingerie on
Haven’t we learned from the last 18 mos. that life is short. Do what makes you happy…..wear pretty panties, put on a lacy bra, feel the yummy material under your work clothes and smile!!
The best way to start the day off right is to open your panty drawer, choose some feminine panties, slip them on and then go “give em hell!”
Good luck from a true panty lover ❤️
Jose this is THE BEST support site you will find. Not creepy pics and sex stuff but real people in real situations real struggles and good advice .
Chime in to the topics and welcome
Get ur lingerie on
Yes I agree 100%. For some of us it’s a bit more difficult because my wife doesn’t really accept my cross dressing but is fully aware of it. I told her about this sight and she isn’t on board. I’m hoping she will be one day. I’m so comfortable in feminine clothes but I think I’m going through stages because we use toys and I wear panties and thongs (sometimes because she’s trying to get use to it) but I can’t wait to go out in a dress and heels again. I see there may be a positive support system here. Thank you for letting me know I’m not the only one here into these beautiful feminine clothing🥰
Love yourself, so simple yet so hard. Especially if you are a crossdresser; as other groups gain there acceptance and more importantly an understanding of who they are, we xdressers remain misunderstood and not accepted. So we have to support each other and understand ourselves. Like u said there is nothing wrong with us. Crossdressing is a normal activity by a small percentage of men.
I had to read and research to finally understand there was nothing wrong with me. I finally accepted that and then i was able to love me for me. Xdressing is part of who i am not all of who i am
I so agree that we should b able to wear clothing that makes us feel sexy and good about ourselves. So i wear what i want to underneath and some of what i want to on the outside. It is thrilling invigorating and builds confidence and relaxes me
Get ur lingerie on
And love it
Another great blog Nathan! I agree that time does help with the confidence to dress up and it does take a supporting community, like, XDress, to pull it all together. However, it does start with self confidence and the ability to do what makes YOU happy, regardless of what people think. Our world is too judgmental to begin with. I love the feeling of satin panties and a bra/garter set under my dress clothes. My little secret is know only by me and a select few others. However, when I am “out” I love it even more and embrace the femininity that XDress undergarments bring when combined with skirts/dresses/or other women’s clothes, especially yoga pants! Stay sexy and thanks for th blog!