Loving yourself starts with accepting who you truly are. Being a crossdresser is a perfectly normal thing and should never be thought of in disdain or disgust, especially when you are thinking about yourself. This can be a difficult habit to shake due to the conditioning of those around you, or the comments of others. One of the best ways to combat such feelings is by surrounding yourself with those that are supportive. Even if you do not have friends or family to rely on, luckily there are websites like XDress where support is exactly what you will find (as well as amazing lingerie that will fit perfectly).
You will find that loving yourself definitely gets easier with time, just like anything else. One of the most efficient ways for me to feel wholesome within myself is by being consistent with my morning routine. Putting on my makeup in my favorite underwear, then picking out an outfit for the day is just a truly therapeutic experience. Looking in the mirror and seeing your outfit and makeup together brings a sincere feeling of validation, as you know this is you in your purest form. This feeling can be heightened even further if someone compliments you on your outfit or makeup, completely alleviating any prior worry of judgement.
Of course, treating yourself to your deepest desires and buying yourself clothes and lingerie is another fantastic way to love yourself. I personally love anything black as most of you know, and anything satin or silk in particular. If you don't know what your favorite colors or fabrics are, go shopping! Xdress has any and all colors from the more vibrant neons, to the rich romantic shades to suit any individual. There's nothing quite as soul-cleansing as buying yourself new clothes or lingerie, trying them on, and finding how much you love them. Don't stick to just lingerie either! Skirts, dresses, shoes, makeup or whatever else you can think of, just buy it!
Don't just buy it either, wear it all the time! Simply going about your day fully dressed or underdressed has an immediate effect in aiding your confidence, so why not do it everyday? And since you wear it at home, why not wear it out too? The nervous feeling will quickly subside, and you will feel absolute euphoria as you enter your favorite stores/places dressed the way you always wanted to be. I personally dress up fully everyday and my feminine clothing and lifestyle has simply become second nature, I no longer even feel the slightest guilt for it. This is something you must train your mind to do; to just be yourself unapologetically. Once you start fully dressing, you will not imagine living life any other way.
After all, wearing a beautiful dress or lingerie is something that makes women feel sexy, and there's certainly nothing wrong with it making men feel the same way. I personally adore the moments I spend with my girlfriend where we are both dolled up and go out together, only to end the night in intimate embrace as our souls connect on the deepest level. Embracing your femininity will lead to many amazing places, but there is none better than the arms of someone who loves you for who you are. And if you're single, loving yourself will soon lead to others loving you as they cannot resist your confident energy.
So, do you love yourself? What methods do you use to further build your confidence? I would love for us all to lift each other up and share any experiences that have helped you love yourself.
-Nathan
22 comments
Great topic
Love yourself, so simple yet so hard. Especially if you are a crossdresser; as other groups gain there acceptance and more importantly an understanding of who they are, we xdressers remain misunderstood and not accepted. So we have to support each other and understand ourselves. Like u said there is nothing wrong with us. Crossdressing is a normal activity by a small percentage of men.
I had to read and research to finally understand there was nothing wrong with me. I finally accepted that and then i was able to love me for me. Xdressing is part of who i am not all of who i am
I so agree that we should b able to wear clothing that makes us feel sexy and good about ourselves. So i wear what i want to underneath and some of what i want to on the outside. It is thrilling invigorating and builds confidence and relaxes me
Get ur lingerie on
And love it
Stevie
Another great blog Nathan! I agree that time does help with the confidence to dress up and it does take a supporting community, like, XDress, to pull it all together. However, it does start with self confidence and the ability to do what makes YOU happy, regardless of what people think. Our world is too judgmental to begin with. I love the feeling of satin panties and a bra/garter set under my dress clothes. My little secret is know only by me and a select few others. However, when I am “out” I love it even more and embrace the femininity that XDress undergarments bring when combined with skirts/dresses/or other women’s clothes, especially yoga pants! Stay sexy and thanks for th blog!