Let's Femme it Up!

Happy New Year everyone! We all watch the ball drop and kiss our SO and make resolutions for the New Year!  It’s often that these resolutions include a weight loss goal or an exercise regiment or a dry our period after the inebriated Holiday Season. Of course there are many other resolutions that we may come up with as well and they will, of course, vary from person to person.

So to begin 2023, I thought it would be nice to share my resolution: Femme it up more often!  And this leads me to what I have done in the past, what I do in the present and what I will do in the future.

The past has been mostly hiding my femme side. Sure, I would wear the Satin Polka Dot panties from XDress under my work clothes. Or wear the Couture Satin Romper with hosiery under my work clothes. Maybe even a Blossom Underwire Bra underneath it all. The point is, it was always hidden and always discreet.  And that is okay for all of us as we all have a different comfort level with what we wear and when.  Do what makes you happy is what I tell myself.

Now, with 2023 here and a new year upon us, I decided to make my femme a little more intense and expressive.  My SO likes my choice of undergarments and supports me in what I do.  In 2023, she offered to help select various items that she would like to see me in.  Having always been the panty wearing type, or at least for the past 15 years, I was happy she accepted my desire to wear panties and bra’s and am happier now that she is game to go further.

For starters, she likes the “down time” like a Netflix binge or sports game to be super flirty and casual.  She bought me the Couture Satin Lounge Pants and a Strapping Bra Harness.  I wear them lounging around and feel super sexy in them, especially with the Panty Strap Harness.  A great way to lounge in the afternoon! 

Of course, that is for lounging but she also wants me to venture out all dolled up.  I am not ordinarily a passable femme but when she does my make up and puts me in my Couture Satin Merrywidow, matching Couture Satin & Lace Cheeksters, white nylons, black pumps and the Satin Wrap Dress, I am super femme and actually passable. She of course is likely getting all the looks as she is drop dead gorgeous but I love the way I look and now that I am “out” in femme clothes, I am liberated!

Of course you can always do this in private and I am sure some of you do as this desire to wear panties is not new and certainly not uncommon in this audience.  So whatever your resolutions are, I hope they include XDress and their wonderful product offering!

Stay sexy!



Barry! This is the group, lol. I think we all thought men couldn’t wear bold colors or look pretty! Well guess what? We can!! I love feeling pretty. I thought he made me gay. Nothing wrong with that but it was confusing to me when I wasn’t attracted to women. Well now i m not worried about that! I wear what I like! And thats bra and panty sets! Mmmm! Thank u xdress! I also keep my feet pedicured and manicured!
Get ur lingerie on!
I did

Stevie March 26, 2023

My femme side is something that has always been deeply repressed, and growing up in a rural area made it something to keep hidden. As a masculine gay man this was never encouraged, to say the least. Over the years I have worn colored nylon underwear, but nothing on the frilly side. I love the prettiness of pastel colors, and shiny nylon sports clothing are gorgeous on sexy men. I love men in bright skin-tight wrestling singlets also. Finally, I have decided to buy and wear the sexy men’s lingerie that I have been afraid of for so many years. Yes, afraid. Younger gay men are so lucky today not knowing the horrors of homophobia in years past. There is still plenty of that still, but society is more accepting today. So, I have made the plunge and bought some very pretty and sexy men’s lingerie for myself to wear, and I love it! Xdress makes such awesome men’s wear to be as pretty as as woman yet styled to fit a man. I love wearing my panties, and I look forward to the bras and chemise I ordered. It brings out my femme side, and I love looking pretty, even though it may be done descreetly at home. Though I am not into full drag, I am now happy and comfortable wearing real men’s lingerie. I makes me happy, so who should care? I wonder what may come next. There must be groups for gay men to share their love of pretty men’s lingerie out there to join and follow.

Barry March 11, 2023

Ian- I shave my legs and pits and just said I hated the hair. It’s gross. My SO accepted it pretty easily.

Scott February 27, 2023

Anon go slow! Introduce neutral styles first! Or sit her down and tell her! It depends on ur relationship
Wish u luck 🍀

Stevie February 27, 2023

I want to femme it up more often. I dress up secretively but really want to be open with my wife about it. I’ve just ordered the pink satin Merrywidow with matching panties and can’t wait to get them on. I was prompted to buy the outfit because of your customer John, who was kind enough to share his pictures and show us that normal guys can look great in such feminine lingerie. I’d like to see Xdress use more customer photos so we can see what ‘real’ men look like in your wonderful underwear – in my opinion John looks even better than your model wearing the pink Merrywidow and I’m hoping to look even half as good when my parcel arrives.

Anon February 25, 2023

This afternoon I decided to shave my legs to see how much more femme they might look in nylon stockings. It took longer than I thought but I was thrilled with the result, and also with the feeling of nylon against my smooth legs. One problem at the moment however, my girlfriend doesn’t know that I crossdress and I’m at a loss with how to explain why I’ve now got smooth, hairless legs! Any advice will be greatly appreciated!

Ian February 25, 2023

So agree with Sierra and Stevie-trying to make 2023 a real coming out year. Good luck to both of you! I’m divorced but have my adult daughter living in, so full dressing opportunities are limited, at home at least, although I have been to a fetish event in Birmingham (UK) where I could fully dress. It was a terrific experience, but in a "safe " enclosed environment. Since teenage times I’ve loved wearing lingerie, initially just panties, then adding stockings and suspenders; a bra followed later. Now I can wear lingerie all the time, and when my daughter is out or away, I have a couple of outfits to change into, together with a blond wig and heels. Last year I bought a pair of silicone breast forms, and wearing them has really changed how I feel about getting out. It feels just wonderful having a properly filled out bra, and feeling the breasts warm to your body; there’s a lovely jiggle too when moving about! I thought it would make me even more cautious about getting out, but actually the reverse has happened! I really want people to see me fully en femme, but I’m so scared at the same time. The furthest I’ve got so far is wearing my lingerie and forms under male outerwear at a Costa last week-it would be so nice to have my skirt and heels on too, but that’s the big hurdle. One way or another I’m determined to make 2023 my break-out year-hoping that the new lingerie I’ve just ordered from XD will help to push me over the edge! I’ll report if/how it happens. Good luck guys!

Georgina February 18, 2023

WB i so agree! Why would anyone tell someone what intimates they wear ? Unless of course u are being intimate!
Have a great V day

Stevie February 11, 2023

For Valentines, it’s a game time call of red satin panties and bra with inserts and a garter and stockings, or the new full blossom collection as that is new new favourite. Having dinner ready with a nice red wine and good music. I’ll leave out the details that will follow.
I agree with Scott about coming out to your friends. What you wear is what you wear, and because you make that decision, what is the intent behind sharing it? Did you share it before when you didn’t wear panties? None of my friends ever shared their underwear choices with me. My two cents.

WB February 09, 2023

Great feedback all! Happy you are all in support and moving forward! As for Valentine’s, I plan to wear the red satin dress, heels, satin panties, bra (with inserts) and be ready for when my SO comes home! How about you?’

As for coming out to your friends: If they are your friends they will understand and likely not care but in my lifetime, i don’t recall too many conversations on what underwear I wear: briefs, boxers or panties. I don’;t think it has come up! But do what makes you comfortable!

Scott February 07, 2023

How are we femming it up for Valentines Day?

Stevie February 05, 2023

I’m. a very straight husband who has come out to my wife of many years about wearing panties secretly. Now she accepts and only wants me in panties. It has been so nice because I love wearing panties all the time now and don’t have to hide it. . Also I’m glad I’m not alone and there are other husbands /straight guy’s out there that were in the same situation. My wife enjoys me in panties she got rid of all my other male underwear so I don’t have a choice anymore. She thinks of me as her panty boy and I’m perfectly ok with that. Also she gave me my fem name which I love . It’s still awkward changing in front of other guys but I’m sure it will get easier. As far as my male friends I don’t think they know yet . Any advice or help on that ?

Carlie January 29, 2023

Kiera wow, thats as good as it gets. So happy for u! It would be great for us to be able to wear dresses as they wear pants or heel as they wear work boots.
Boy shorts / panties etc

Stevie January 29, 2023

At 51 all of our kids are finally moving out of the house and the wife and I have a lot more alone time. Although I am not passable at all, I have shaved my entire body for years, have gotten pedicures with my wife (clear only) and worn only panties for about 15 years. I even wear boyshort panties to the doctor. Whenever the house is empty or the wife and I go away I am always fully under dressed and if possible I wear woman’s clothing that is more gender neutral if I can fit that into our plans and wearing lingerie to bed. I wish that it was as acceptable for a man to be feminine as it is for a woman to be masculine. My wife fully supports me in fact she enjoys that I take so much effort to make myself look good for her and she has also become comfortable with not having to be as girly as I am.

Kiera January 28, 2023


Sounds like we are in the same shoes, but not high heels. It is so liberating to have your SO support you in who you are, and what you like. My SO picks out my bra and panties for the day, as I do for her. We do go out shopping together, and buy pretty things for each other. I love the weekends where we get up and stay in our lingerie and have coffee and hang out together. She has gently nudged me to go out en femme. Not sure i’m up for it, as I honestly don’t think that I could ever pull it off. Although I do have a feminine energy, the physical side trumps that card.
My goal for 2023 is to wear more lingerie, feel the energy of that feminine energy, and embrace every part of me, no excuses, no apologies.
X-Dress has been a godsend through these blogs and a fantastic product.

WB January 24, 2023

My resolution, since discovering Xdress, is to throw out my old men’s underwear, and replace it all with panties and camis. Life is to short to not enjoy every aspect of good living which for me includes the happiness I feel when I know I am wearing pretty undies. I have always had a few pairs of panties, mainly from M&S, but didn’t wear them regularly as honestly, women’s panties just do not fit, they uncomfortably cut into the junk even if they can contain it with the lack of any sort of pouch. As a result, although women’s panties look very sexy in the store, they are inevitably disappointing when I try them on. I should mention that I am just a regular guy, and enjoy being a man, but also enjoy the look and feel of feminine styles of panties and other lingerie The fabrics are so much nicer and the attention to feminine detail I get from Xdress are incredible, hence my desire to only wear their panties from now on. I will surely chicken out when going to the doctor’s, but that is the only occasion I will wear men’s briefs!

John January 21, 2023

I also resolved to ‘femme it up’ in lingerie more often this year. I’ve figured that I will be happier and more relaxed if I can unashamedly wear feminine underwear more than just in private when the opportunity arises. I’ve made a good start with my resolution by wearing panties under my work clothes on several occasions and have also been wearing some jeans that I bought in a women’s clothes store. But, to be able to femme it up as often as I want to, and fulfil my resolution, I’ve realised that this is the year I finally need to tell my wife about my secret. I’m hoping that she’ll be accepting and that this year becomes my most femme yet! K

K January 21, 2023

John cudos to you, I always smile when a man can come out to his wife and smile even more when the wife is on board
The level of intimacy is going to skyrocket
Once you are vulnerable enough to reveal your true self to a loved one u r free!
If they accept u as u are u are fre and loved
You feel me ?
Lingerie for me how about u?

Stevie January 21, 2023

Like everyone else, I too have made the decision that I will be honest to myself and to my wife this year. I finally came clean to my wife, when she saw me taking off my bra. I explained to her that I have always crossed dressed since the age of 11. I have crossed dressed on and off over the years, always buying women’s clothing and eventually throwing them away. No more, my wife said she had no problem with me wearing women’s clothing and it didn’t bother her. Not telling her, is what she had a problem with and hiding it. I showed my wife what I wanted to buy and had her support. It made me feel so good that I do not have to hide my cross dressing anymore. I love being very feminine and love to cross dress. I have purchased several items on xdress and love how they feel and look on me. I now only wear women’s underwear under my office clothes to work and one day hope to go out in public as a woman. I love women’s lingerie, garter belts, thigh highs and high heels. I can’t wait until my next order with xdress, in picking out my next outfit!!!

John January 19, 2023

This is my resolution to a T. Yes I have already been venturing out like everyday and I am passable when all dolled up and yes it is very liberating to just be out in the world.

Eric January 19, 2023

I really want to dress more as well, although I am completely non passable letting my femme side out more often leads to a better mood and happier me from day to day.

Sierra January 19, 2023

I agree! I look foreword to whatever surprises Xdress has for Valentine’s Day!❤️ I hope it’s some new red lingerie. Red panties would be fabulous. Let’s stay femme boys!

XX – Addison

Addison January 19, 2023

Yes i made a resolution very similar to this one. To be myself more. So no more hiding my salon trips for mani pedis- putting on socks destroying my beautiful painted nails

No more keeping my shoulder bag in the car. No more not wearing make up

I not a full pass transformer
I m a male with a femme side

So this year bras and panties when i want
Stay up stockings
Pretty nails
Yoga pants

2023 the real me


Lingerie for me how about you 😉

Stevie January 18, 2023

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