Well at the moment I am living with my girlfriend in her parents house. My nails are always painted in pink, sometimes I use eyes lashes and leggings all the time. Maybe because I work with art people kind of say “whatever he is an artist”. But I am lucky they are easy going… I mean I am still washing my underwear by hand and hang them up to dry in our private toilet and I keep a lot of the crossdresing between me and my partner… but I like to introduce little by little looks that veer from the norm. A nice thing to do is watch movies or series together with them that introduce themes of sexuality, etc. Schitt’s Creek series was a good one, very light and fun, and works as an educational thing as well to open their minds. Talk is always nice, I think we need to be clear with the other. If it’s important to you to let your parents know what you are up to, just introduce the subject… in a natural way. Depending on their reaction I think is not worthy to push the boundaries with them. Different strokes for different folks and everybody can live their lives apart from each other with no problem I guess…
That is very unfortunate. To cut our parents out of our life is something we should never do, what we can do is accept them the way they are. After all they come from an extremely conservative era. My situation went completely down the hill as my wife decided to end our 16 years marriage and took the kids. Why? Obviously I’m a freak. Well, there are those who are able to see the world in full colours and there are those who only see black and white and place themselves to the centre of it all. Unfortunately, the majority of us belong to the black and white side.
Thank you all for your kind words and support. It’s definitely a complicated scenario to be in, but what I do know is being true to myself is the most important. I have accommodated peoples comforts by dressing “normally” for far too long. We have one life to live, and living for others should never be a consideration. If a woman can wear jeans, t shirt and no makeup, then I too should be able to wear something as basic as leggings and foundation without offending anyone. That’s just my take on it.
Ally good point. He could wear less provocative clothes, like womens jeans and shirt light make up ( i wear every day) and no one knows. Question? Who is in those pics ? Beautiful
Get ur lingerie on!
Hi Nathan – well you’re certainly not the first to not meet the criteria for suitability deemed appropriate by your other’s parents. In essence though, what business is it of theirs? Given a little time, I’m sure they’ll come to realise how happy you make their daughter. Far better their daughter is with someone as sensitive as you than someone abusing her. They’ll probably take a little time to get over the shock of the way you presented to them. That’s not necessarily your fault, but the world still has its powerful normative ideals. I’m sure the happy times their daughter spends with you will filter back to them via her and they’ll come to realise how lucky she is. In the meantime, if you are going to see them, why not accommodate them a little? Wear jeans, a T-shirt and no make-up. After all a lot of women dress just like that a lot of the time. It’s just that they wear them over different shaped bodies to ours. How you dress is your business and the whole world thinks differently about different things. What’s important is the loving relationship you have with your other. In time, her parents will come to appreciate that and forgive anything else they might see as a little peculiar. With love Ally x
It’s sad that they are pressuring their daughter to make a choice that goes directly against her happiness. I am happy she chose you and I hope she continues to support you.
I am so sorry to hear that such a terrible thing happened. I can’t imagine how you must have felt afterward but I do want you to know that so many of us out here have been where you have been and I am glad to hear that you don’t let the opinions of some awful people affect who you are and how you live/express yourself. You are beautiful and amazing as you are. You provide guidance and advice to others and allow people to fully express themselves as who they are. You are loved by those close to you and by the members of this community who are so in your debt. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. Please be safe
I am so very sorry that after you put yourself out there to show the true you, her parents shot you down. It must have placed a big strain on your relationship. Crossdressing has been placed into the same categories as gay and trans. Although a number of transwomen start out crossdressing, it’s not what happens to the majority. How you live and dress should be a very personal journey but the world is still controlled by conservative types who got a flat on the road to enlightenment in 1950 and refuse to get out the spare and move on. Keep doing what you do and be happy. As Ricky Nelson sung in Garden Party. " You can’t please everyone, so you gotta please yourself."