A Girlfriend's Perspective

A Girlfriend's Perspective


Having grown up a good Catholic girl and experienced mostly traditional sexual encounters throughout my adulthood, I knew it would be taboo for me to be enjoying the sinful behaviors of shows like RuPaul’s Drag Race.  I simply wanted to see the transformations – the makeup, the undies and dresses, and absolute sex appeal. Never in a million years did I think my interest in men wearing women’s clothing would lead to anything but thoughts and video viewing.

When I let my male massage therapist know I was interested in him, long nights of texting and phone conversations ensued.  During one of our lengthy conversations, he felt safe enough to ask me if I had ever seen a guy wearing panties. After much discussion and a lot of brevity on his part, I received a couple of sexy photos of him in satin and lace bottoms.  I wasn’t sure at first what to think about it. Sexy panty selfies are difficult to take … and the Catholic school girl (turned Teacher) was shouting at me at the top of her lungs to STOP! I needed time to process the pics but I also knew I needed to see them on him in person to actually be able to decide if this was something I would be ok with.  

As my mind started to process what life would be like with a man who enjoyed wearing lingerie more than I did, I began to embrace it.  Instead of thinking of it as negative, I began to look at it in a different light. If it makes him feel sexy, who am I to say it’s wrong? Who am I to judge how he feels in it?  I liked the way RuPaul’s gurls looked, why would this be any different? 



Knowing he was going to be away on a 10 day holiday and it was my busy time at work, I wouldn’t see him for close to 3 weeks.  It was at this time he sent me a link to XDress. I did end up placing an order for Royal Blue Lace Cheeky Shorts and had it sent to his address with hopes that I would be the lucky girl to see what they looked like on him!

During his trip, we spoke via Face Time for at least an hour every night and I got to see more than just the pictures of him.  Via video I got to see his 6’1”, 220 lb frame wearing satin and lace panties. It was definitely different than seeing stills but I knew I had to see (and quite frankly, feel) this side of him in person.  Even though I wasn’t judging his fetish, I still wasn’t quite sure if I would be able to enjoy it as part of my life.

When he returned from his holiday, we finally made plans for me to go to a football game with him.  After the game, we went back to his place where he made an incredible meal for me. We enjoyed great conversation, fantastic food, and wine.  He invited me to stay the night and after the 3 weeks of texting and long phone and face time conversations, I felt comfy doing so. (The thought of being able to see him in his panties had excited me all week – I wasn’t passing up this chance!)  



The telltale moment of whether I would be able to accept this in my life came when he stood at the end of the bed in just his panties… I breathed a sigh of relief as I was finally able to see him in person, for the person that he is. I saw a softer side of him and the energy felt good.  Did I mention he looked fricken SEXY as hell!! I think the slow introduction really helped me let go of any inhibitions I may have previously had.  

Since that night, our lingerie collections have both grown a great deal and though we live two hours apart, we see each other every moment we’re able.  We text each other every morning and evening and throughout the day when possible. Our conversations often go to what we’re wearing underneath our clothing and what we want to do with each other the next time we’re together.  

Enjoying this together is incredibly freeing for both of us.  It has helped bring out some of the masculine sides of me I tend to hide and I feel it will only continue to bring us closer together.  

I look forward to hearing any comments you may have!

Lots of satiny hugs!  


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TA thank you for your open opinion of men who love to feel comfortable in lingerie. It was several years in to my marriage before I let my wife know how much I enjoyed wearing panties, pantyhose, or garter belts with stockings. Like someone else posted she wanted to know if I was gay. No I just love the feeling of soft comfortable underwear and not the rough cotton male underwear. She started buying opposite colors of lingerie for us to wear. What a pleasure it has been to feel welcome to wearing lingerie!


Yes I love reading a woman’s perspective!! I was very nervous at first revealing myself wearing my girlfriend knickers as I thought the normal fears of ‘will she find me less masculine and therefore less attractive, or will she think I’m secretly gay or bi or that I’m just a freak!’ it’s really a big thing to do to open yourself up like that, I was so delighted with her reaction, she was instantly impressed with my confidence and how good I looked in them, and the novelty and exciting element she found really arousing, there was no shock or judgement from her whatsoever she just thought it was great and has enjoyed me in them ever since and I think she has seen and loves the confidence I have and she has found that really attractive, so it’s had a really lovely positive effect on our relationship. We love that it’s a private thing we enjoy together :) I just wished she loved lingerie as much as me, she doesn’t even wear knickers and never bras!


Such a great story! I applaud your openness. For years it took a one that understood a few that didn’t and another who understood to get it. Embrace the human body and all the idiosyncrasies we have. Celebrate the sexuality! We were raised in culturally dark times but have grown into a better society with more openness. Xdress products are new to me as of this weekend but I have ordered a few items and can’t wait for them to arrive.


Mary, its Valentines day thurs! Why not tell him you d love to see his hott body in a pair of sexy panties….and see what he says
Just a thought
I wearing a pretty blue satin bra/ panty set from xdress today . Wear something pretty today I am


I mentioned to a friend that my husband might be secretly wearing my panties. And, maybe more. He suggested sending a link to xdress.com. To see if it might prompt him to order, wear and hopefully share it with me.
We shall see.


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