A Shift in Energy - Part II

A Shift in Energy - Part II

In my last blog, I discussed the feeling of an energy shift when getting dressed.  Wearing certain items of clothing or wearing specific colors can shift you energy from a more masculine energy to more of a feminine one.  At this level, I believe that it is a feeling that we create for ourselves.  We are making a choice on how we want to feel.  In this blog, we are taking this a step further, the part of you that isn’t a conscious choice, but a part of who you are. 

There is quite a bit of information out there regarding masculine and feminine energy, just go to Google and check it out.  As an example, Tony Robbins talks about it, and there is even a quick quiz you can take to evaluate which energy you primarily have: https://core.tonyrobbins.com/gender-quotient-4/ 

Masculine and feminine energy has nothing to do with and is beyond gender.  It is your Yin and Yang.  These energies define and are a part of your values and inner nature.  We all have both masculine and feminine energies in our body, but one will lead or present itself more than another.  You can also show those energies when in different scenarios, for example, you want to dominate a conversation or situation, you will be showing your masculine energy, should you want to bring peace and harmony to the situation, you will bring your feminine energy to the forefront.

Generally speaking, one energy will dominate the other in your day to day world.  Feminine energy feels softer, gentler, kinder, compassionate, and loving, whereas masculine energy feels more focused, determined, logical, leadership and action.  The feminine energy is more creative, flowing, collaborative, with idea creation and attracting the things you want in its own time. It is about sharing, and seeing the big picture, and working with others to create a feeling of community.  The masculine energy is about getting things done within a time frame, setting up the plan and structure to get it done to see an end result. Relying on oneself to problem solve and make sure that things get done.

The thing is, you cannot have one without the other, otherwise you will feel unbalanced.  If your masculine energy is too dominant you may feel undervalued or not appreciated.  If your feminine energy is too dominant you will feel unfocussed, scattered and unstable.  The trick here is to understand and allow the energy that you naturally have to come through, and not try and force or correct it. 

So, how does this play out in accordance with this site and the people that connect within it? You can be the company executive who has to make hard decisions during the workday, and make sure that projects get completed on time, then can’t wait to slip into something soft, sexy, and feminine at night or on the weekends to find that balance and feed that energy, it has nothing to do with gender.  Maybe you wear the suit and tie, but wear panties, bra, and stockings underneath to find that balance.   The other option is to wear a skirt and heels, but make sure that you make your point, win the argument, and GSD (get shit done).  

The interesting thing is, one’s not better than the other, there is no right or wrong, they are part of who we are, and we need to learn to embrace them. Allow them to shine and just be who you are.  These energies are playing themselves out no matter what you are wearing, the question is, are you supporting it? 

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences when playing with these energies.  I know that as a hetero-sexual male that my dominant energy is feminine, and that is why XDress is so great for someone like myself to be able to fulfill that part of my being.   What is your dominant energy, and how do you balance yours? 


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TA I agree gender has little to do with it. I m genetically male xy
My gender is male but fluid
My sexuality is hetero, but i love sexy clothes both wearing and admiring on others
Sensuality is my weakness! Fabrics do a lot for me! Thanks to XD i can find made for male pretty lingerie

Get ur lingerie on



This is wonderful – For so long I thought it was all about gender. I’m grateful my mind has been opened to see that gender truly has little to do with it!
I’m glad you embrace your feminine energy!
Lotsa Satiny Hugs!


My dominant energy is definitely femme. Love to wear panties and bras and garters and get made up. Not able to do it all the time which is a bummer. I do feel more confident in my femme mode.


Energy huh! I feel mostly masculine energy 70:30. Now i can shift it by dressing more femme. Now i will push it 50:50 by wearing full black underdress panties bra stockings toes painted and then all femme outer garments jeans and femm sweater with make up : light foundation concealer mascara and brows filled . However i look put together fresh but masculine

When like that its prob 60:40 femme!
I can get it to 80 20 by full lingerie and make up lip gloss and silk robe and heels

I must admit the latter turns on a certain sexuality that is lets say different

Get ur lingerie on


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