A Shift in Energy - Part II

A Shift in Energy - Part II

In my last blog, I discussed the feeling of an energy shift when getting dressed.  Wearing certain items of clothing or wearing specific colors can shift you energy from a more masculine energy to more of a feminine one.  At this level, I believe that it is a feeling that we create for ourselves.  We are making a choice on how we want to feel.  In this blog, we are taking this a step further, the part of you that isn’t a conscious choice, but a part of who you are. 

There is quite a bit of information out there regarding masculine and feminine energy, just go to Google and check it out.  As an example, Tony Robbins talks about it, and there is even a quick quiz you can take to evaluate which energy you primarily have: https://core.tonyrobbins.com/gender-quotient-4/ 

Masculine and feminine energy has nothing to do with and is beyond gender.  It is your Yin and Yang.  These energies define and are a part of your values and inner nature.  We all have both masculine and feminine energies in our body, but one will lead or present itself more than another.  You can also show those energies when in different scenarios, for example, you want to dominate a conversation or situation, you will be showing your masculine energy, should you want to bring peace and harmony to the situation, you will bring your feminine energy to the forefront.

Generally speaking, one energy will dominate the other in your day to day world.  Feminine energy feels softer, gentler, kinder, compassionate, and loving, whereas masculine energy feels more focused, determined, logical, leadership and action.  The feminine energy is more creative, flowing, collaborative, with idea creation and attracting the things you want in its own time. It is about sharing, and seeing the big picture, and working with others to create a feeling of community.  The masculine energy is about getting things done within a time frame, setting up the plan and structure to get it done to see an end result. Relying on oneself to problem solve and make sure that things get done.

The thing is, you cannot have one without the other, otherwise you will feel unbalanced.  If your masculine energy is too dominant you may feel undervalued or not appreciated.  If your feminine energy is too dominant you will feel unfocussed, scattered and unstable.  The trick here is to understand and allow the energy that you naturally have to come through, and not try and force or correct it. 

So, how does this play out in accordance with this site and the people that connect within it? You can be the company executive who has to make hard decisions during the workday, and make sure that projects get completed on time, then can’t wait to slip into something soft, sexy, and feminine at night or on the weekends to find that balance and feed that energy, it has nothing to do with gender.  Maybe you wear the suit and tie, but wear panties, bra, and stockings underneath to find that balance.   The other option is to wear a skirt and heels, but make sure that you make your point, win the argument, and GSD (get shit done).  

The interesting thing is, one’s not better than the other, there is no right or wrong, they are part of who we are, and we need to learn to embrace them. Allow them to shine and just be who you are.  These energies are playing themselves out no matter what you are wearing, the question is, are you supporting it? 

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences when playing with these energies.  I know that as a hetero-sexual male that my dominant energy is feminine, and that is why XDress is so great for someone like myself to be able to fulfill that part of my being.   What is your dominant energy, and how do you balance yours? 


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Hello everyone, I hope you are well! This discussion about our dominant energies is very interesting. It was easy for me to realize from an early age that my dominant energy was female. It’s how I feel and in my daily life I always used panties and at home I like to feel very feminine.


Ally you got it gurl! Energy outlook feeling about yourself changed with the heels ! I can come home change my panties to more sexy add a bra a dress heels some heavier make up and i m feeling relaxed sexy and good about myself

Get ur lingerie on


I’m not sure I understand this energy thing. However, I’ve just started wearing heels again and that definitely shifts my whole consciousness of my feminine presentation. When I slip on heels I instantly feel both powerful and vulnerable – especially when wearing panties and hold-ups as well. Ally x


Stevie I agree. I’m XY genetically and heterosexual but gender fluid. I m usually 80:20 masculine energy but I can easily even it out to 50:50 by light makeup i.e. primer, concealer, bronzer (in winter only) mascara and brow filler. I also have several shades of nude lipstick that I wear daily – nothing too drastic- I work in an office full of women and one other guy and no one has ever said anything about it. As Angie once said less is better.
My girlfriend and I regularly get pedicures so my toes are always done. All those things bring out the femme in me which I really like.
And like you I easily flip to 80:20 femme when I get home by sliding into something satiny and sexy.

Get your femme on gurls!!



More on energy, other things I do to facilitate my femme energy is bubble baths, scented lotion over smooth legs tummy and nether lands, adding toenail polish. That creates a soothing femme energy from that point forward

Get ur femme on, and lingerie



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