What's All the Fuss?

March 01, 2019 58 Comments

What's All the Fuss?

Good day, dear readers. I hope this blog finds you doing well and enjoying your pretties. I got to thinking about the difference between men’s underwear and women’s panties. Even the very name suggests a sharp distinction – for men it is underwear and for women it is panties. Everyone knows men wear underwear, not panties. Although, women can refer to their underclothing as underwear instead of panties. It smacks at that same double standard that allows little girls to do typically guy things, like climbing trees and playing ball, but a little boy can’t play with dolls.


Men’s underwear is a rather boring topic – you can wear tighty-whities, or boxers. Hmm, not much variation there. I don’t know the reasoning behind the design of tighty-whities, but they look like a medieval torture device to me. I haven’t worn any in the last 35 years or so. I tried boxers a few years ago, just out of curiosity. I found the lack of support unsettling, and at the end of the day I took them off, only to discover that my skin was puckered around the waist line from the elastic waist band. I donated them to a charity thrift shop.

 


I suspect the reason men’s underwear is so limited can be summed up in one word; stereotyping. If a man wants to wear women’s panties, the almost immediate response I get is 'obviously he’s not straight' The reality is that the large majority of cross dressers are straight and in a relationship with a woman, according to every survey I have read.  To have a feminine side is not an issue of sexual preference. It is an issue of sensing oneself as more than a binary male.


In recent years, the men’s underwear industry has experimented a bit with design and type of material, but you won’t find lace or bows on those “underwear”. Oh no, that would be as bad as a little boy playing with dolls! So, while they have experimented a bit, onward still they trudge with very limited choice.

 


Contrast the boring sameness of male underclothing to the amazing world of women’s panties. The colors, styles, type of material – what fun! Until I discovered XDress and Body Aware, I wore women’s panties and enjoyed discovering all the styles to find out what worked and what didn’t for my particular form. The only drawback is that the gusset is cut for a woman’s physique and is too narrow to support the needs of a man. It was a good day when I stumbled across a men’s lingerie boutique called XDress. Wow! Panties actually designed for men! I’m sure by now I qualify for the status of Preferred Customer.  Why, they even have bras designed for men. Who would ever have thunk it? Many years past, I had a choice of tighty-whities or….thighty-whities. Now, for many years, every morning is fun – what pair of panties shall I wear today. It is fun every day!

In years past, before the advent of the internet, I thought I was alone in this. If you are in my age group (as in cross dressing before the internet) I’ll bet you thought you were the only one too. If anyone discovered I was wearing panties, they probably would have hidden their children from me.

 


Well, we do have an internet now, and the fact that there are boutiques such as XDress and Body Aware certainly does away with the notion that there are only a few of us strange men who like to wear panties and bras. They wouldn’t have been in business for over 20 years if that weren't true. No, we aren’t just a few. We are the folks that like lace and bows and satin. I have an idea – remember when the feminists had bra burning parties? Why don’t we have a tighty-whitie and boxer burning party?


So much for my thoughts. I’d love to hear what thoughts this article might have stirred up for you. Let me hear from you. In the meanwhile, enjoy those panties!


Fond regards,

Angie


58 Responses

Cutie Drew (ex Andrew)
Cutie Drew (ex Andrew)

April 17, 2019

Hello cuties! We are changing the world! We wear our beautiful lingerie! We are talking about it! I ordered a nice lace old-fashioned garter belt! I have been studying a new line of my life! Every morning I stand in front of my mirror. I think about myself – How cute! You wear your bra, panties and stockings as a real lady! You such a feminine! I am so happy!
Be happy every day my friends!
Cutie Drew.

Angie
Angie

April 04, 2019

Andrew and Stevie, you are so much fun! I love your enthusiasm for what we all love. White lace panties, Andrew? I love it! Stevie, wearing a jacket and panties and bra! Awesome! You both make me smile. I’m sitting here wearing lacy black panties and bra (from Xdress of course) and have loved feeling both all day. Like Stevie said, “wear something pretty.”

Fond regards,
Angie

Stevie
Stevie

April 01, 2019

Hi Andrew (and Angie and everyone)
Todayi work aspirts jacket so i was able to wear a bra and panty set thats see thru and oh so sexy
I ve felt all day with “our” little secret!
Wear something pretty today

Andrew
Andrew

April 01, 2019

Hi Angie and everyone!Thanks for your kind words!I’m at work now and I’m wearing my cute white lace panties!I absolutely agree that my panties make me happy! Have a nice day every day with your amazing and magnificent lingerie!

Angie
Angie

March 31, 2019

Welcome to our little sorority, Andrew. Andrew and Stevie, I love your exuberance and enthusiasm for our difference from the boring norm of men’s underdress. Every day is an adventure when you get dressed in the morning! Hmm, what panties to wear? Hmm, what bra to wear? Hmm, maybe a cami too today? What fun it is! As Stevie said, wear something pretty today!

Fond regards,
Angie

Stevie
Stevie

March 28, 2019

Well, the comments are flowing and the blog is active which is great; kudos to Angie again and XD and BA.
What I am learning from all of you is that we are not weird perverts or disgusting! We are different from the so called norm BUT we are ourselves and there is nothing wrong with being yourself and liking what you like.
Freedom to be yourself feels so good and this site helps promote that which is sooooo cool
Wear something pretty today- I am !

Andrew
Andrew

March 28, 2019

Hello, my new friends! I love you all! We are the best! We wear such nice panties! Thanks God and BA/XD! It’s our choice! It’s normal to be in the lace panties and bra! I wear it every day! I’m so happy because I found myself! I’m not interested in another opinion! We have to be ourselves! Someone’s wearing their terrible ordinary men’s underwear! They do not know about our pleasant feelings!

Angie
Angie

March 28, 2019

Nicely said, K. I’ll join you in that toast to David and Kristina. Glad you mentioned that strange contraption on the front of tighty whities. I never did figure out what the purpose of that fly was. Doesn’t matter now, thankfully.

Angie

K
K

March 27, 2019

Ugh, tighty-whities!! What a god awfully horrible punishment they were and that fly on the front, who are the psychopaths that were using that to go to the bathroom? I’d have wet myself before being able to navigate that maze to tinkletown.

If I still owned a pair I’d gladly burn them in solidarity with the rest of you, however I’m going to take a wild guess and say that there isn’t a person in here that still owns a pair so instead let’s just pop the cork on a bottle of Prosecco, raise a glass to David and his wife and toast to their forward thinking, impeccable fashion sense and inability to be beat down by American prudishness.

Our “drawers” will never be the same.

Sláinte!

K

Angie
Angie

March 24, 2019

Kimmi, my dear, how lovely to hear from you. Yes, we have been internet friends for so long, and I am so fond of you. What a pity it is that your wife is not onboard enthusiastically with you about your inner femme. I know, from our long friendship, that your inner girl is very important to you. Please know, dear friend, that I celebrate that about you. Perhaps your wife will soften up about the whole issue with time. Give her time, dear sister, and be patient with her.

Fondly,
Angie

Kimmi
Kimmi

March 23, 2019

Hi Everyone!
I have known Angie now for over six years- early January 2013, just a few months after breaking out of Internet “stealth” after many years. It’s great to read Angie’s postings and perspective on this blog.
Like so many, I am married and have my wife as my only love. Unlike others, I have always known I came wired with a (lot of?) girl inside. It’s simply me and part of my balance.
I have always been a panties girl. Over time, my wife became less enthused with me in panties or other lingerie. it takes two to tango and bless her heart, she accepts that I will dress when she is not around- and she is ok as long as this is in private.
I love panties and always have. It’s not simply that panties are wonderful in my case. For me, panties signify my femininity and inner girl.
Thanks for making us all reflect, Angie. It’s heartening to see such an engaged readership!
Kimmi

Angie
Angie

March 23, 2019

Christine and Pauley, I find your comments very interesting, in terms of labels. What then shall we call ourselves? I came across a quote just today which seems to nicely reply to this whole issue: “Ten labels or a thousand labels, they may describe what we are, but not who we are.” Indeed labels do not describe us as human beings. In fairness to labeling, we have a human need to categorize things, in order to bring a sense of order to our world. I quite agree with you, Christine, that “Hairy panty wearer” is a most disgusting term, and certainly is pejorative to all of us that embrace the softer side of ourselves. Still, we label and categorize our world. Objections to labels do not remove that basic human need to organize our sense of order in the world. For some time now I have referred to myself as “gender fluid.” That describes not only what I am, but also who I am. I am indeed fluid in gender identity, as is my dear wife. Neither of us prescribe to the rather strict and binary definitions of male and female, although our biological assignment is certainly binary. I really don’t think a debate (or the attack) of the evils of labels gets to the core of what we should be concerned with. The core issue is that we have a fuller sense of who we are, and we struggle with a society that insists that we must be one or the other, when in fact we are both. How we dress, is simply and outward expression of an inner knowledge of who we truly are. Thank you, Xdress and Body Aware, that you give us that outlet – to outwardly what we experience inwardly. The issue of labels is hardly of concern when we seek acceptance for, not what we are, but who we are.

Fond regards,
Angie

Pauley
Pauley

March 19, 2019

I agree with Christine’s comment. I also do not like labels or be called gurls or crosdresser or whatever. I am just a guy who likes to wear sexy and comfortable undergarments. I don’t think that automatically places you into some label or category. Just enjoy yourself and be yourself without having to be called anything. Maybe if we stopped labeling everyone in this world it would be a kinder place to live.

Stevie
Stevie

March 19, 2019

Hi Christine
You seem to be further along the spectrum than most which is cool. Whats even better is that you wife approves and is involved. That gives you a tremendous advantage as you dont have to hide.
So glad that you can share with your spouse and dresd as you want to
You really can say Whats all the fuss? Lol
Wear something pretty today
Stevie!

Christine
Christine

March 18, 2019

I don’t like tags so it goes without saying that, I don’t refer to myself as a crossdresser, a transvestite or a Hairy panty wearer (HPW), the latter a derogatory term that is occasionally used by some transvestites / Crossdressers to describe those of us who have body hair. The prejudices and discrimination that used to be rampant in this country has diminished substantially over the past ten years. I am just a normal guy who prefers to wear absolutely anything that a woman might wear and in recent years I spend more time in feminine clothing than in my Male clothing, in fact the only time I wear Male clothing is when I’m at work or if I go into town with my wife on a Saturday for a coffee.

I have actually lost count the number of times that I have been on shopping trips or over night stays fully en femm and I have never experienced any negative comments or reactions from anyone, or at least not that I am aware of. No doubt some might snigger or pass comment behind my back but, I honestly don’t care as it’s them who has a problem and not me. I have a very extensive wardrobe collection that would be the envy of many women, a fact that my wife often comments upon. When I go out dressed I like to make a really good effort to coordinate my outfit, I like to dress appropriately for my age and whatever venue or location I am visiting. On the whole I tend to buy good quality clothing from well known fashion retailers, I complete my outfits by wearing coordinating accessories which includes jewellery, gloves, handbags and scarves.

It is essential when going out en femme that you make a serious effort to really look the part, it is always a good idea to really study what other women are wearing and how they act, the more time, effort and money you put into dressing will ultimately determine how successful and satisfying your en femme outings will be. My biggest regret is that it has only been in the last ten years that I have chosen to go out fully en femme, that said, prior to this there was still quite a fair bit of prejudice around so I suppose I just have to enjoy my current outings. One of the most annoying and frustrating things that I encounter is the fact that, it is almost impossible to find good quality, on trend leather shoes, boots and sandals that fit my size 9 slightly wide feet. I have a good few hundred pairs of shoes & boots but most are just that little bit too narrow and years of squeezing my feet into high heeled shoes that I knew were too tight have left me with constant pain in both feet.

I am probably a bit OCD when it comes to my en femme dressing but, the fact is that it doesn’t matter what you choose to wear or to what extent, the only thing that matters is that you get some pleasure out of it. If anyone has an objection, makes a derogatory comment or mocks you in any way they are merely showing how ignorant and intolerant they are. I personally love everything about being a woman, I am utterly passionate about handbags, scarves, gloves footwear and silky soft feminine materials. I am not what some might refer to as “convincing” when dressed en femme, by that I mean that, I couldn’t pass facially as a woman, very few men can and I wouldn’t kid myself or anyone else into thinking differently. I do however have a vast choice of clothing to choose from so when I do go out, I definitely look the part (my wife has even commented on how good I look even in comparison to her).

I wouldn’t want anyone to think that, I am being big headed about how nice I look when I go out en femme (I have in fact made many faux pas over the years with my choice of outfits) however, these days my ability to coordinate has definitely improved and I also take into account the comments that I receive from others about my dress style, I have often been complimented on my efforts by other men, some of whom have even snogged me as a result so as they say, the proof of the pudding is in the eating.

Angie
Angie

March 18, 2019

HI all. What great responses you all have contributed to this blog. Thank you so much for taking time to share your thoughts. Stevie, I think you are absolutely on to something. If someone is trying figure out how to out himself to his SO, having her read these blogs might help, in terms of helping her see that her SO is far from alone in his love for his femme side. As you said Stevie, these blogs are very clean and decent and also reflect a good level of intelligence in the responses. My sincere thanks to Xdress for monitoring the site and ensuring nothing sordid ever makes it to print.

Fond regards,
Angie

Ken
Ken

March 18, 2019

why is it that women are turned off by guys liking and wearing panties nylons bras & nighties??
My 1st wife started it as a bet,( I LOST) she had it planed. She had an outfit of ice blue lingerie set . see through robe garter , nylons. bra & panties
we had fun .She would come home with some thing new 3 times & week . She passed , So new wife I kinda hinted but she dead against it. So I’m back in the shadows .waiting for when she goes out to dress

Stevie
Stevie

March 17, 2019

Hi all
Greatblog! This one really stimulated a lot of discussion and support! Kudosto Angie for running this blog!
Great thing about this site and blog is that its clean and brings to life those of us who live inthe shadows of various levels or places along the gendef spectrum. It brings light to the fact that we are just regular guys gurls girls that are right among everydaypeople. Its a great reference for SOs if and when you finally tell them

Wear something pretty today!

Stevie

Alex
Alex

March 17, 2019

Loved reading all those blogs!

Personally I have more fem clothes than my faience I have two full drawers of sexy panties half have a pouch made for men the others are ladies underwear I bought before I found pouch panties, victorias secret are my favourite and most cumfy by far, my partner doesn’t mind me wearing panties or a silky nighty to bed even if it is more fem than her oversized mens t shirt she wears to bed. she doesn’t like the idea of me wearing skirts dresses or a ladies blouse even though I have worn a few on nights out and asked her opinion on weather or not she likes it on me after and when she said it’s cute I’d tell her it’s actually a ladies blouse 😊 and she didn’t notice! I’m hoping in the future I’ll get to wear skirts and dresses around the house and not just when I’m home alone I can’t wait for the day when I can go out in public and not be judged! We should all wear what ever we feel most comfortable in!

Nathan
Nathan

March 17, 2019

I would also like to thank you Keri, as well as everyone else who has commented for sharing your experiences. Keri’s mention of the “self conscious mode” is precisely what I am trying to get out of. I only started dressing femininely in public a few weeks ago. That includes all kinds of skirts, tops, boots, hosiery, and occasionally makeup. It is very difficult to simply be in a relaxed state of mind, one free from self-conscious and anxious thoughts about what others are thinking.

What brings me closer to being free of my inhibitions is people such as my girlfriend, who encourages me to dress how I want and not care what others think. Then there is the people I meet online like all of you, who have lived through the same experiences and overcame their anxieties. You have inspired me in knowing that it can and will get better.

Dressing femininely already feels more natural for me, as I feel generally happier when doing so. I even feel slightly off and out of place when I am wearing my drab male clothes (of course I still wear lingerie underneath), which only happens a couple times a week at most. This is just another reason I know dressing how I desire will not cause me to be self-conscious for much longer.

Everyone’s experiences here truly do warm my heart as I know we are not alone. Like Angie said, a family does indeed seem to be forming here. Thank you all.

Nathan

Nathan
Nathan

March 16, 2019

It’s great to see so much conversation flowing here, as we share and discuss something that would fry the brain of the “general” population. David, your perspective on the difference in acceptance between the UK and US is very eye opening. I haven’t traveled to a different country yet, but I can still say that the US typically progresses slower in accepting new ideas compared to other countries from what I’ve seen in media.

Even if some of us are comfortable enough to go out publically fully dressed up with makeup and accessories, there will still always be that one neuron in our brain that is still active. You know, the one that reminds us what we do is unnatural to some, and that we need to be cautious when and where we do it. My dream is to be as comfortable as any other woman is when she dresses up publically in a skirt, blouse, hosiery, heels, and makeup.

With the amount of people I see commenting here, as well as the fact that businesses such as XD and BA are flourishing, I believe my dream is not so far fetched.

We are all are quite brave to do what we do. Hopefully, we can be the spark that ignites a revolution.

Have a great day everyone.

Nathan

Kyrstin
Kyrstin

March 16, 2019

I’ve been busy the past couple of weeks and am just now catching up with the blog and wow, there are some great comments. So interesting to hear about the beginnings of xdress, thanks David for sharing the story. I’m enjoying my panties and my GF got me some skinny jeans so we’re shopping for heels this weekend! Have fun gurls!!

Keri
Keri

March 16, 2019

Back again,

Handbags or purses have received considerable mention in this Blog. Stevie mentioned a Coach bag and my eyebrows went up as that is the brand my wife bought me for Valentine Day. A woman’s Coach Saddle Bag. Stevie made me think is this bag to femme? Have I become conditioned to the point where I can’t tell anymore? Maybe. I only felt slightly aware of this purse because of size. I love it though and you can carry a lot. Perhaps it helps to be older and have some grey hair when carrying a purse. I have never received a negative comment. I have received, usually from women, that they like that I carry a purse or bag. The number one reason I get is that women don’t like to be the dumping ground for keys, phones etc. That was how my wife purchased my first ladies purse.

That first purse by the way was my break in. It was small. Slightly larger than a clutch. Shoulder strap. Here was the killer though. A very pale blue silk lining which was so visible when you opened it. Making it even tougher was the makeup mirror on the flap. It took several outings before I stopped being really self conscious. Like everything else I have done (on the feminine side) you get past the self conscious mode. Unisex looking women’s tops, shorts, sox, sneakers etc. Eventually they become second nature.

Thanks guys and gurls.
John
John

March 15, 2019

Great blog, I would just like to add that we have to come a long way for us all to be accepted and comfortable about our choices, I personal love to shop for underwear with my wife or on my own, it’s funny how different people look at you if you are a guy going through lingerie on your own, personally I really don’t mind and find it amusing especially if you ask for help, I love to wear lace, silk fishnet and find it not only comfortable but very sexy, my wife doesn’t mind at all and encourages it especially for our nights of fun together but I think the problem is deeper.

I am a European now living in the USA, before we go to lingerie have you been to the beach? look at European men, most wear speedos, trunks, thongs etc made from lightweight spandex materials and very comfortable for swimming, but jump to most USA beaches, all the men wearing board shorts down below their knees and a lot with boxers underneath that, ?? I don’t get it, they stay wet for hours collect sand and are heavy and uncomfortable but that is what most guys believe is beach dress. Screw that, lets get sexy on the beach and get comfortable.

Anyway one of my rants but I am definitely in with the whole lets wear what we like, for most guys most of it would never be revealed but it sure does make the day better and our outer clothes fit better. A nice pair of silky panties under your dress pants is way better than a whole bunch of cotton wrinkled up with large waistbands etc, I know you’ll all agree that wearing a dress or skirt is amazing and very free and sexy too, I quite often in the evening wear a lightweight nightdress around the house just because it feels good after a day in the office constrained in my man gear, if we are all honest men were wearing skirts a long time ago in Scotland and Ireland but they just called them kilts and those guys were tougher than tough, also going back in history men wore nightshirts to bed as well and no one thought anything of it!

Thanks for reading my thoughts and I hope you all enjoy sexy clothes and feminine products for a long long time

Dani
Dani

March 15, 2019

My. First-ever panty experience i was 5 or 6. I was out playing and soiled my undies. My grandma had me put on a pair of my cousins nylon panties to wear home. I immediately noticed a very likable difference. I am now 72 years old and only wear panties as opposed to men’s undies. I also love wearing other women’s silky things like nighties and such. My wife of 30 years approves and even buys some girly things for me to wear. I’m a happy man.

John
John

March 15, 2019

I feel the same way, why is it that a woman can walk into a mans closet and put on his things from underwear to his suit and tie, walk out and go to work, but if a man walks into the women’s closet and puts her things on he is labeled as gay or transgender, it is changing but not fast enough for me.

Angie
Angie

March 15, 2019

Greetings, my dear friend David, and thank you for weighing in, and please know it is an honor to have you post on this blog. You and Kristina have contributed so much to us who embrace our feminine side. (Please give Kristina my fond regards.) Because of your courage to step out and offer what so many of us desire, we now have a society where we can freely express ourselves, both in clothing and in conversations such as this. Yes, American society is very slow to accept us, but it seems we are gaining acceptance in a very slow fashion. It is good people like you and Kristina that is helping to gain that acceptance.

It’s interesting that the subject of purses came into this conversation. I’ve openly worn a purse for many years now, and have never had a negative comment about it, even in the very conservative part of the country in which I live. I have a male friend who uses one as well, although he calls it a murse. I don’t call it a murse or a man bag – I call it what it is – a purse. That actually is the grammatically correct name for it. Wearing women’s skinny jeans, I don’t have the pockets necessary to carry everything, so a purse is a necessary accessory.

Again, thanks for weighing in, David. You and Kristina are so appreciated for what you do!

Fond regards,
Angie

Grady
Grady

March 15, 2019

I’m going to keep mine more fun, than serious. My perspective is this directly: “. . .for many years, every morning is fun – what pair of panties shall I wear today. It is fun every day!” Exactly! I love BA and XDress, and have most recently found another new satin manufacturer that gears their intimates to women, but have accepted that there’s a close male customer that’s enjoying their products. For me years ago, it was a fetish. Today, its who I am. I look at what I’m wearing for the day, and put together the sexiest of panties, bras, and thigh highs that make me feel like a million bucks for the day! I’ve raised a few eyebrows at the gym over the years also! Of course, I revel in the shock factor when I get undressed in the men’s locker room, and my brightest pink or red satin panties are seen. It’s even gone as far as wearing some female workout gear, blended with male shirts and such.

All I can say is, do what feels the best, and the most natural to each and every one of you! I’m older, and have embraced my inner feminine, and love it! Thank you, Angie, for this forum!

Grady

peter
peter

March 15, 2019

Looking at the panty drawer and deciding which panty to wear today is indeed fun.Whether to wear a Satin, Lace or something athletic or a sluttier thong to let my buttocks feel my pants is an awesome part of the day. When a woman sees me, she doesn’t know that probably I’m wearing sluttier underwear than she does, lol.

Stevie
Stevie

March 14, 2019

Man bag murse purse
I use my man bag every day
I get a lot of pushback but also get statements lije I d love to carry one
They r very functional
For dress up times i d like a coach bag or nice bag from the girls side of the store but haven’t had the guts mainly because i want to stay manly for my wife
I ll keep using my man bag i have several
One of my fav things to do
Wear a nice sexy bra panty set
Skinny jeans fromthe womens side
A white blouse (black tank over the bra to cover it)
When home i put on my suede pumps, in public i wear boots

David
David

March 14, 2019

I would like to throw in my two cents (or pence) worth, as the co-founder of Xdress with my wife Kristina, back around 1990. I can attest that in the USA progress has been slow in gaining acceptance that men be as free as women to wear what they want. We started the company just outside of Bath in UK, as a side business to Body Aware, our European styled underwear for men. At the time we were experimenting with using different fabrics for men’s briefs and we tried stretch lace, and it proved so popular that a whole range that came to be known as Xdress (originally we called it Apres Noir) was born. There was tremendous publicity for our “outrageous” concept, that we had national press and television coverage throughout the early nineties until we moved the business to California.

The publicity was not necessarily all positive, but mostly it covered us in a light, humerus way. Showing male models wearing lingerie on the BBC and national newspapers seemed like a major step forward. We even won a “Best new business” competition on TV. It all came to a screeching halt when we moved to USA, and a very negative appearance on the Sally Jessy Raphael chat show was enough for us to realize America was not ready for men in lingerie and we declined any further TV appearances. So while the UK acceptance of men’s lingerie was almost instantaneous, it took a decade in the USA to reach a market of similar size to that of the UK. We persevered, and with the support of our many regular customers, the business is now on a firm footing, and growing each year.

Fortunately the tide is now changing quickly, and especially among the younger generation, there is considerable acceptance of brands like ours, and those who wear our lingerie. We have occasionally supplied lingerie for TV and theater productions, but so far had no famous actor or sports star offer to be the face of Xdress, but we are still hoping!

We recently opened a UK distribution center again and it has been amazing to see so many old and new customers coming to buy from us. We hope more UK and European customers will join in the blog discussions, to make it truly international.

Best wishes,
David
Xdress.com

Andrew
Andrew

March 14, 2019

Hi guys! Let’s make an “International day of men in the panties”! In my opinion, a lot of men from different countries will join to us. We will celebrate this day every year!

Keri
Keri

March 14, 2019

Hi Guys and Gurls,

Great rant Nathan. Long but well worth reading your comments and thoughts. I am one of those pre 80’s born pantyboys. Thought I was the odd duck and guys would never dare wear PINK in those days. The good news things have changed considerably. I actually think things will change even faster now that we have so many ways of reaching out and communicating. Just look around. Perhaps it depends where you live but I see young men wearing very feminine attire, even women’s dresses and skirts, in public here in the Phoenix area. Makeup is becoming so much more acceptable. Ten plus years ago I was carrying a purse (called man bag then). Today many of us carry them. Recently my wife purchased me a woman’s purse for Valentines day. Fairly large and very fem but I can and will get used to carrying it in public. That would have never worked 20 years or more ago.

PS. I love all the things us gurls can stuff into a larger purse.

Keri

Randy
Randy

March 14, 2019

I agree with your comments Nathan. You are 100% correct. We have been victims of stereotyping and societal norms for too long. Maybe this will change, but the change is coming very slowly. An example-now it is common for men to wear earrings—myself included on that one. Also another way I have seen norms change is that there seems to be more men—myself included also on this one—carrying purses aka man bags. With all the stuff we have to carry around—wallet, car keys, cell phone, cigarettes(I am a smoker)—etc it just does not fit into pockets anymore. I will admit that I do wear make-up sometimes—usually on the weekends-and see other men buying it as well. Also, I have been getting my nails manicured for years.

I think these are some ways that society and the norms are changing albeit slowly. All it will take is some high profile male celebrity to start talking about wearing lingerie or a scene from a movie or television program to start a change in thinking. Who knows, maybe in a few years it will be normal for a guy to touch up his lipstick after a meal?!

A forum like this is great to share ideas and thoughts. In reality—What really is all the fuss about? It is my life and I am going to wear what I want that makes me feel comfortable and happy—even if that means wearing lingerie, wearing high heels and a skirt, carrying a purse, putting on eye make-up, touching up my lipstick, and getting a manicure. My mother did not mind me doing this—she actually encouraged me—and my boyfriend is cool with it also!

Just a few thoughts Looking forward to more discussion!

Stevie
Stevie

March 13, 2019

Nathan
You nailed it
Your comments should be our Anthem!

Angie
Angie

March 13, 2019

Thank you all for your wonderful contributions to this thread. Nathan, thank your for your well-developed thoughts on the topic. You are correct in saying that we are still a long way off from being acceptable to general society, thanks to a lot of stereotypes that cast us as a weird bunch of perverts. That is so unfortunate, but it is the reality with which we must deal. The media hasn’t helped us at all, and celebrities (whom I will not name) who come out as cross dressers or transsexuals only create sensationalism and do us no credit at all. All of that prejudice is not going to rob me of the pleasure of dressing as I please. A nice pair of matching panties and bra is something that brightens up even a rainy day! For all of you other dear readers, thanks for your responses. I feel like we are forming a little family here.

Fond regards,
Angie

Andrew
Andrew

March 13, 2019

Hi, everyone! I want to say! Thanks God! I love panties!

Ally
Ally

March 13, 2019

Hi there Lovelies

You have to admit that Eddie Izzard has done a pretty good job for gaining acceptance of guys going femme. There are always going to be few idiots around who just can’t handle it – probably challenges their sense of masculinity – but I think things are changing for the better. Well done Conchita Wurst too. And James Charles. And have you seen the menswear fashions from Palomo of Spain? The world is turning guys. Wear those panties with pride and be your feminine selves! Step out!

Nathan
Nathan

March 13, 2019

Another great topic as per usual, Angie. I’m a little late to this one, but I will still share my perspective nonetheless.

I certainly agree in that the very word “panties” draws a sharp distinction to underwear that is soft and evokes femininity. The very definition of them are underwear worn by girls/women. By contrast, boxers are defined as “men’s loose underpants”. However, women would not be shamed, laughed at, or assumed to be gay if they said they wore them. This is not the case for a man who admits to or is seen wearing them. Now the reason for this is simple. Most men never correct these ridiculous assumptions!. Instead, most men say something like “Oh, I lost a bet” when their panties are noticed.

My question is: Why not simply say that they are your panties, and that you wear them for comfort and breathability (or whatever other reason)? Then if they question you further (probably not going to happen very often unless you live in the deep south), you can politely state the have no correlation to your sexual orientation, in the same way it doesn’t for a woman wearing boxers. You can even add they are made specifically for men, if you’re wearing a pair from XD/BA. Hopefully, your girlfriend/wife will be there with you, and they can back you up as well!

The reason that there are still stereotypes is because too many men who prefer wearing women’s clothing, do not do it commonly enough in the world for it to be seen as conventional. In order for it to get to that point, more men need to NOT leave their clothing preferences hidden away from their significant others, and the world in general. It is loosely related to being gay or bisexual in the sense that it is part of who you are, and should not be repressed or rejected, especially by your significant other.

I definitely agree that a male celebrity proudly donning a bra and panties that is with a woman romantically would really be a great way to open up the eyes of the general public. Maybe a “Hey, maybe not every guy who wears panties is gay” lesson would be learned there. And of course, not everyone is going to accept that, but that leads me to my next point.

Women already laid the foundation for men to wear what they want. When women first started wearing pants, they were denied access to business and services, publically mocked by media, and overall just mistreated. Does any of these things happen to men? Not at all. At worst, we get an offensive comment or another male who needs to exert his disdain in a base and primal way, by hitting them. The latter is not a very common occurrence.

So do we really need to burn our boxers and tighty-wighties? I think it’s a little early for that, quite honestly. What society needs for change currently is to see men wearing skirts, dresses, pantyhose, and high heels not just in public, but in the workplace and in media more commonly. I don’t think there is enough men who hate wearing boxers right now for any sort of mass progress to be sparked by a boxer-burning event.

We are still in the genesis of men wearing “women’s” garments publically. In so doing, maybe more open minded men will see a man in a dress and high heels with a beautiful woman on his arm, and think that perhaps this man just does it because he wants to, and he obviously isn’t gay since he has a female partner. Then, that same open-minded man decides to wear a dress and high heels, and loves it like we do! Then it all spreads like wildfire from there. When more and more men do it publically, that is when a mass boxer-burning event would be impactful. As men everywhere would then liberate themselves from overly-masculine stereotypes, and be seen as normal human beings.

I truly do feel distressed for the men who were born in the 1980s or earlier, as they have had to deal with more societal rejection and isolation, than someone such as myself who was born in the mid 90s. However, it is not too late to inspire change for a man of any age who wants to wear pretty clothes. So get out there, and wear your panties, hosiery, skirts, dresses, heels, makeup and whatever else proudly. The world is changing, but only when we all are not ashamed of ourselves, will societal acceptance flourish.

Anyway, if you’d made it this far into my rant, I thank you for reading my thoughts, and hope you apply the same thinking in your lives. Do what makes YOU happy. Life is too short to not be yourself.

Have a wonderful day, and wear something beautiful.

Nathan

Stevie
Stevie

March 13, 2019

Gurls guys and all along the spectrum
It is the best IF the SO is involved. It creates intimacy like nothing else and its sooooo much fun! How cool is it to wear matching panties or have the wife lay out your panties or nylon clad legs rubbing together or going to a party with matching bra and panty sets!
When will there be national men wear lingerie day?
Oh to dream!

Pauley
Pauley

March 11, 2019

I too love it when my wife comments on my panties or lays them out for me in morning and says I picked out your panties for you wear today. Also I like it when she helps me on with sport bra before workout that usually sends me into panty tenting in seconds. It is so very special to have your love one enjoy you wearing lingerie as much as you do. It brings a dimension to a relationship that everyone should experience. As to a famous spokesperson for the brand, yes it would be fun to imagine a star or sports hero representing XD and its customers. Maybe this could be a future topic. Famous males who wear or have worn panties/fem lingerie and those we would like to see as brand rep. Anyway, I think I’ll slip into my nightie early and cuddle up to the wife. Take it easy and be proud .. being taboo in societal eyes is exciting.

Keri
Keri

March 11, 2019

Hi Stevie,

Place me on the GURL side of the ledger. And yes we do need a spokesperson. We should put our heads together and come up with a short list.

Ally, lingerie puts me in and keeps me in a feminine mood 24/7. Love the word panties as well. Always perks me up in all the right places. I love it when my wife makes a comment on my undies and calls them what they are — panties. My panty drawer is much prettier than her panty selection. More pink, more colors and lace. Hugs and Kisses Ally

Keri

Stevie
Stevie

March 11, 2019

Andrews Ally Keri and Angie
You guys (gurls if appropriate) are great
I wear my panties proudly even if some of them ate stealth AND saying my panties gets me going too!
For my wife who knows but does approve but accept i stay stealth most ofthe time BUT sometimes the desire is so strong that i must go all out with panties matching bra stockings and as you all know my toes polished in spretty color
Stevie

Ally
Ally

March 11, 2019

Hi Angie, Stevie, Keri, Pauley and all you other sweeties

To hell with it – I wear panties. Even just saying “panties” sends my heart racing and puts me in a feminine mood. Lovely to hear all your thoughts on this and to know that as I proudly walk out in mine there are others doing just the same.

Love you all x

Ally

Andrew
Andrew

March 11, 2019

OK, Stevie! Today I am going to dress up my nice bra, panties and tights! Have a nice day! Warm wishes!

Stevie
Stevie

March 11, 2019

Keri,
We need a spokesperson
Who can it be ?

Keri
Keri

March 10, 2019

Andrew and Stevie, Clearly we all agree here. We are liberated. How do we liberate even more? Burn those tightie whities and boxers.

Stevie
Stevie

March 09, 2019

Yes Andrew I think most if us think that BUT society doesn’t! There in lies our issue. While we want to wear what we want Society looks at us with a cocked eye and ridicules us! Thanks to sites like this and others we can fund men’s lingerie acceptable to our tastes
Stevie
Wear something pretty today!

Andrew
Andrew

March 08, 2019

Hi everyone! My name is Andrew! It seems to me that clothes have no gender! Everyone can wear everything he wants! For example I really like to wear nice lace lingerie and stockings! It is my choice! “I want it that way!”. I think it is OK.

Stevie
Stevie

March 05, 2019

Yes my friends its going to take a Famous person on a reality show or a series that in the show wears panties and under dresses and the SO is ok with it much like earrings came in to being accepted
Stevie

Angie
Angie

March 04, 2019

Stevie, Kyrstin, Dave, Keri, and Pauley, you all are so amazing! What coherent and thoughtful responses you have contributed! I couldn’t possibly agree more with all of you. I could go on a long time responding to each of your very well thought-out responses, but let me just cut to the chase by saying that I am in total agreement with every one of you. Thank goodness for such sites as Xdress and Body Aware that we have a forum to support each other and know that we are far from alone in our journey of finding who we truly are. I love your responses, and look forward to reading more.

Fond regards,
Angie

Keri
Keri

March 04, 2019

Yes Pauley. I have been laughed at or snickered at for wearing panties and or stockings by a few. I just take a deep breath and say to myself don’t laugh until you try them. You might like them. It is even possible some have seen my panties and never even said a word.

I agree if someone, including a big sports name should do this without trying to get a laugh. Remember when Joe Namath wore pantyhose? I wore pantyhose or stay up stockings when I skied. I loved wearing them for warmth and the fact they were feminine. Those were the days I used to fret that if I fell and was injured I would not only be outed for wearing panties but pantyhose.

You also remind me that mens undies have changed from the days gone by. All we need is just a little push before we can call them panties and they actually are. Those of us that feel this way love how they feel, look and just want to have something pretty and sexy on.

Hugs, Keri

Angie
Angie

March 04, 2019

Stevie, Kyrstin, Dave, Keri, and Pauley, you all are so amazing! What coherent and thoughtful responses you have contributed! I couldn’t possibly agree more with all of you. I could go on a long time responding to each of your very well thought-out responses, but let me just cut to the chase by saying that I am in total agreement with every one of you. Thank goodness for such sites as Xdress and Body Aware that we have a forum to support each other and know that we are far from alone in our journey of finding who we truly are. I love your responses, and look forward to reading more.

Fond regards,
Angie

Pauley
Pauley

March 04, 2019

I think you are onto something Keri. If there was a male character in the movies or on TV that wore panties and lingerie but was not doing so for laughs or sexual desires or transitioning, then yes I think it would start the acceptance of wearing male lingerie. I am sure all of us here have been caught and received the laughter or finger pointing just because our desire and selections of under garments are different from the so called male norm.

But getting it to be the norm or more acceptable outside our circle requires a shift in the male perspective and definition. Wearing panties does not make us any less a man than the boxer wearing man. I remember when bikini underwear became popular with sports figures like Jim Palmer advertising the new underwear for men in magazines and on TV. It was like overnight that boys and men started wearing the no fly bikini style of underwear. Maybe that is what we need today … a male sports+ hero or star advertising the Xdress panties. This could revolutionize the brand into being what the male norm should be for undergarments. Oh how I wish it would. But until then I will do my part and wear my panties with honor and pride everyday.

Keri
Keri

March 04, 2019

Hello Everyone,

Another great post by Angie,

Clearly we all would love to see the acceptance of guys like us wearing panties, bras and other lingerie without being judged. I posted many blogs previously that we are where women were back in the seventies. I was at a bra burning demonstration when women were tossing bras and girdles (very uncomfortable I always thought) into a fire. They were freeing themselves of the binding CORSETRY of the day.

The question is are we at that day where guys can toss their tightie whities and boxers into the a boxer burning demonstration? Maybe. Thanks to sites like XDress maybe we are. I do however feel we would have to gain the support of the LGBTQ Community as a group to have a bigger impact. This would be in addition to the straight community of men that would and do enjoy wearing panties. Speaking for myself I would love to see this happen.

I am older but not old enough to recall when a major Hollywood male star appeared in a film with no t shirt. I am told that scene began the trend of men not wearing t shirts. It might also be a big help if one or more major Hollywood male stars appeared in films wearing panties and bras. We are all used to seeing many gay actors, comedians and others on TV, the internet etc. Maybe one of these popular series shows where one of the leads wears panties and bras openly on a regular basis.

Oh well, we can hope.

Hugs, Keri

Dave
Dave

March 03, 2019

There is definitely a set of double standards that men and women place on each other – even boiling the argument down to “men” and “women” puts an unfair set of expectations and standards on people to conform to one or the other.

Women have “earned the right” to wear trousers, powersuits, whatever they want without judgement – in fact, they often get slut shamed for wearing highly “feminine” clothing. Men, on the other hand, typically must still be “Men”… or gay. It takes a strong person to buck the system (a woman who refuses to wear makeup or a man who does) and deal with the bullying, cultural shame, or social ostracism that often follows.

Should women be socially allowed to go dress themselves up however they please (makeup or not, “fem” or “masculine” clothes, etc.) ABSOLUTELY. Should men have the same cultural privilege? A resounding YES. And the only way it’s going to happen is if people start acting accordingly. Someone always has to burst the bubble of social norms – and they often become pariahs for it – but it is only those brave few that allow the rest of us to stand on their shoulders and make our own statement.

So keep up the good fight BA, XDress, and every customer that buys/wears with confidence. It is when large numbers change their consciousness that cultural change happens.

Kyrstin
Kyrstin

March 02, 2019

Hi sisters:
Angie and Stevie you both hit the nail on the head. Tighty whities were the male equivalent of girdles! Thankfully i recently found xdress which is a fantastic site. Love the blog, not to mention the panties. I haven’t tried the bras yet, mainly because my GF isn’t totally on board with the whole crossdressing thing yet but I think she might eventually come around. The other day she out of the blue suggested we get a pedicure together and I was so excited I couldn’t stand it. She was even cool with me getting nail polish! Angie, I decided to try your pink frost and loved it.

Anyway sorry for the stream of consciousness rambling. I do think a burning party is just the thing to break down old barriers and explore all the fabulous options now available to us.

All the best,
Kyrstin

Stevie
Stevie

March 01, 2019

Angie, hello my sister in xdress
Men s underwear is indeed not that exciting despite calvin klein and 2exist.
It’s unfortunate that lace and satin is not acceptable for men. Let alone bras!
But xdress and bodyawarebhave fixed all that! Thank you! I like womens panties and bras on me and them lol
I m glad now men have better fitting male options. There are so many of us !
A burning party may be just the thing to make people aware that we are here and we come in all sizes shapes and colors and genders and all along the gender spectrum!
Once again great job in topic selection Angie
Stevie

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