How do I know if I look good in an outfit, I know I feel good but I just don’t know if I look good. I would love your opinion?
I think FEELING good is the most important aspect of an outfit.
How we feel about an outfit is typically based on what that outfit emphasizes and what it minimizes. I have lonnnnnnnnnnng legs, so a mini skirt or a long skirt with a slit allows me to show them off and I feel good about myself if I am showing off what I feel is one of my best physical features. Shallow, but who cares. I also feel good when an outfit minimizes a part of my body I am not super happy about, such as my tummy. Peplum tops and dresses are helpful with that, so I feel better about myself when I wear them.
Looking good is arbitrary and subjective. If YOU think you look good, then that's really all that matters. We dress for ourselves, we wear what makes us happy. I don't give much thought if other people think I look good.
Getting used to seeing yourself when you present in a new way takes time. If you've lived all your life wearing "boy clothes" but are adding "girl clothes" to your wardrobe, it will take time to become comfortable seeing your reflection. As you try new styles and pieces, you will learn through trial and error whether an outfit works for you or not. BUT you also need to be able to be honest with yourself if something just isn't right for you AND also know if you are being kind to yourself.
What I mean is that sometimes I get dressed and I look in the mirror and all I see are flaws and I want to change into something else. When I feel that, I have to figure out if I am just being crabby about something else and the outfit looks better on me than I think it does or if I really do need to change.
I will often look for inspiration from others with the same body type as myself. I look at what other tall girls are wearing, for example. If it works for them, perhaps it will work for me.
The more I think about this question, the more difficult it is to really answer it. I mean, how does one really KNOW if an outfit looks good? I think FEELING an outfit looks good is one thing, I think LOVING an outfit is another, and really that's all that matters. We don't need someone else's approval of an outfit, we can't rely on someone else's validation of who we are or what we wear. Looking good and feeling good are very much entwined, but how you feel is more important. If you FEEL good in an outfit, then your confidence is likely through the roof. That confidence can make almost any outfit work.
Love, Hannah
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Normally for me, if an outfit feels good then it looks good too. If I need confirmation or another opinion I ask my girlfriend. She always gives me an honest opinion as well as advice about what to buy in the first place. I’ve only been getting fully dressed up for the last 2 or 3 years. Before that I liked to wear panties and lingerie but didn’t take things further, despite my curiosity to do so. After I’d been with my girlfriend for a few months I told her that I like wearing panties and showed her how they looked on me. Her reaction was great and, after a while had passed, where I began wearing panties and other lingerie regularly, she asked if I wanted to try other clothes too. This resulted in her buying a dress and heels for me to try. She told me that she found it great fun to dress me up and things have evolved from there. She enjoys putting make-up on me and encouraged me to get a wig too. We often spend an evening where she transforms me into my feminine alter ego and we enjoy spending time together as two ‘girls’. She’s since explained that she’s got lesbian fantasies and having me dressed up fulfills those desires. It seems to work well for her and I really love it too.
Lets wear whats appropriate
Hi Hannah
Great outfits in the pics by the way.
I d love to wear a dressand heels in public. But ….
So I therefore wear womens jeans sweaters and bra panties and polish my toes
Sometimes light makeup
I m the cd er with the beard
No desire to look totally femme w a wig. I do want to get a total makeover just to see what I d look like.
I think to key is to dress appropriately!
Stevie
Got any suggestions on how to walk in heels
Although I am not comfortable presenting in womens clothes in public, I do like dressing up in my house! Just feel so good when presenting as a woman! Just wish I had the confidence to do it outside of the home!