I am a man who loves cross dressing and loves looking like a very beautiful full figure plus size woman and when I dress as a very beautiful full figure plus size woman I look and feel like a woman now I don't want to become a woman but I love dressing up as a very beautiful full figure plus size woman is this wrong?
Thank you so much for the question! No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with crossdressing.
Crossdressing itself brings joy. But it also can bring confusion, tension, anxiety, and guilt. We are conditioned to think that gender identity and gender presentation is binary and that everything, whether it is a color or a job or a hobby or a clothing item, is for a girl OR for a boy. Whenever we, for lack of a better term, stray out of our lane, we are reminded that we are not supposed to do that, and most of the time it is ourselves who are telling us that.
It is not immoral to wear what you want. It is not unethical to wear what you want.
So no, by dressing and presenting in a way that makes you happy, you are doing nothing wrong.
I feel I can relate to you. I love heels and makeup and dresses and my wig and I love presenting as feminine, but I have no desire to transition. I identify in a few different ways, but I suppose the best label (although I hate that word) for me is that I am bi-gender. Sometimes I present as HE and sometimes I am SHE. I feel no need to pick one gender to present as, or identify as, for the rest of my life.
Yesterday I wore jeans and a shirt and Doc Martens as I worked and ran errands. I was presenting as what many of us refer to as "boy mode (although I was wearing pink panties from XDress under all of that)". As I type this, I am wearing another very cute pair of panties from XDress, a t-shirt, and my favorite black leggings, two items that are usually thought of as "girl clothes". Tomorrow I have a makeover and then I will meet a friend for coffee and then see a play, all dressed up in stilettos and a cute black dress. I will be in "girl mode".
Three very different looks but I was always ME.
You do not need to make any permanent changes if you don't feel that it's the right decision. Transitioning is not right for me, but it is right for so many of us.
Love, Hannah
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Interesting blog and conversation. Anon’s point about a lack of places for straight men who don’t identity as trans to express ourselves is something I’ve felt too. I’d love to go out dressed but don’t feel that I’d fit in at the places available here in London, because they appear to be for the trans and/or gay communities.
I often ask myself ‘if it’s ok’ that I enjoy crossdressing. It would be helpful if I could find somewhere that wasn’t judgemental about a man wearing women’s clothes. Most places I’ve seen that are supportive are generally for people who are trans or gay, and I’m neither. I’m sure there are plenty of straight men who, like me, are happy with their gender, but just happen to enjoy crossdressing. So why aren’t there any places where we could happily express ourselves?
Good blog! Dress how you want. Personally, I don’t present well as a woman but do like to dress in womens clothes. I prefer leggings or leather pants with silk blouses. Always a panty underneath and occasionally a bra. Love to feel femme but don’t need a full outfit. Stay sexy!
I would like to find out what the most expensive silk or satin panties and bras for men are
I also love xdressing and have been at it probably 65+ years Some of those years were very limited others almost full time But never had the desire to transition that’s a big hard to reverse commitment I go out to pretty much wherever I want, department stores and their dressing rooms, restaurants, bars. although I stay out of biker type bars and I am always aware of my surroundings. I do dress for my surroundings, slacks or jeans for daytime wear or a very casual skirt or dress, usually with flats. Night time is different again surrounds and venue matter.
Get out have fun for the most part no one cares. A mustache and dress might turn heads but generally no one cares Have fun Sallee