New Year, New You!

New Year, New You!

I don’t know about you, but this last year has been interesting to say the least.  I have seen it as a year that has forced us to pivot, discover our inner strength, show our resiliency, and find a way to stay positive.  I think that it was also a year to reflect and spend time on the things that really matter.  Looking back, it seemed that being busy was a badge of honor, and as long as you were getting things done, it was considered success.  What I discovered in this last year, was that people were trying to do things that really mattered and trying to find meaning and purpose as this was how they were trying to find success. The great resignation was a big problem, and a big issue this past year as companies were struggling to retain their people, and the people were struggling to find alignment and purpose in their lives.  

Where I am going with this, is that with the stress and strain that this pandemic has placed on each and every one of us, it has forced us to stop long enough to reflect on what is important.  Since you are the most important person you know, have you stopped to reflect, and put the energy into just being yourself?  In the last blog by Jill, it was interesting to read how she would buy some things for herself, then feel the guilt or shame and throw them away. Only to do it all over again, and again.  Feeling guilt or shame about something that you desire, is not giving yourself the freedom to be yourself.  Not giving yourself the luxury of that freedom based upon the expectations of “societal norms”. 

My SO and I play crib, and there is always a wager on the game.  So, the loser gets to buy the winner some lingerie, so there is really no loser.  We often go shopping together and share in the experience.   The look on the clerks face when she say’s these are for him is always fun.  When I have to put on men’s underwear because I am going to play hockey, I get “the look”.  You are wearing those?  Right, you have to play hockey.  She picks out my bra and panty set in the morning and has it laid out on the bed for when I get out of the shower. 

Now that we are hopefully coming out of this pandemic, and you took the time to reflect on what is important to you and the decisions that make you happy and fulfilled, what will you do for you?  Will you put on your glistening satin and lace bra and panty set and head off to work?  Will you dress up and sip wine and read a good book?  Will you not feel shame when dressing up because damn it feels good?  As we head off into 2022, I would love to hear what decisions that you will make for you to be you? XDress is a great place to satisfy those needs, share your thoughts with others who feel the same, and a great place for my SO to shop when she loses a crib game.  Here’s to another New Year, for a New You.  It would be great to hear your stories. 

Take Care,


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Well, it is possible. My SO picks out my panties and bra set every morning, and it is on the bed when I get out of the shower. She doesn’t like shopping on her own, so makes me go with her when we shop. I have to admit that it is a lot of fun, and exciting. Have you ever thought of hinting at the idea with your SO? You just never know. They are out there, just like others have mentioned on this site.


Bonjour, cela faisais longtemps que je fantasmais en voyant les femme porter des bas de nylon Que jais fini par m’en acheté sur internet et jais adoré d’en porté et maintenant je met des petite culote et soutien gorge et robe avec une robe ( XDRESS ) et bas de nylon que J’adore porté . ce serais bien que vous ajouteriez sur votre site des Bas de nylon a taille Haute des des chemise de nuit Longue

Hello, I’ve been fantasizing for a long time seeing women wearing nylon stockings that I ended up buying some on the internet and I loved wearing them and now I wear panties and bras with a dress ( XDRESS) and nylon stockings that I love to wear. it would be nice if you would add on your site high waist nylon stockings or long nightgowns.


I think Jenni makes an interesting point about wanting to surrender control. Maybe if we are encouraged or better yet told what to wear by our SO, it’s a way for us who like wearing lingerie to not feel guilty and to get out of the cycle of buying and purging. I can relate to that, and I suspect it’s a desire many men would have. I would love my SO to buy me lingerie or even go shopping together, but I doubt that will ever happen.


Jenni-You are not alone. So do not feel that like you are on an island. Embrace it and know there are many of us out there that share in your feelings that femme is good, positive and should be embraced! Love to see you put yourself out there, even if it is on this blog, as it can build courage to push the envelope a bit in your life. Be comfortable with yourself and embrace it. Be vulnerable with your SO and I am sure they will help you get there!


Hello friends. I haven’t told her yet… honestly don’t know how to say… help me with advice if you can.. I’ll be glad to get help.


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