The Excitement of Dressing-Up!

In no way do I believe that the way I feel about cross-dressing is the way everyone who cross-dresses feels. And that includes people who are born male but identify as female or those that are on a male to female transition journey – we all have our own feelings. But I find a simple happiness in recognizing, and accepting, that I find it all just so exciting!

And what’s wrong with that?

I don’t ask anyone to accept my preferences for wearing lacy and satin underwear and stay-up stockings. I’m kind of OK that the majority of the world won’t accept my cross-dressing as ‘normal’. To an extent I would feel comfortable going about my daily business dressed ‘en-femme’. Heaven knows, it might even feel less exciting if I got to do it on the daily amongst others!

The excitement of wearing gorgeous lingerie, skirts, tops, heels and make-up (I can’t get used to wigs) began, for me, at an early age – like it did for many of you, I guess. It remains today. I’ve purged, I’ve tried to control my feelings – but it comes back just as strong. And why should I resist?

Our old friend Aristotle thought of a life of pleasure as enough for a good life or a life well-lived – alongside a life of honour, wealth, health, or eminence. Take your pick. Some psychologists suggest a good life is a mixture of pleasurable, meaningful and varied experiences. Others say that hedonic goal pursuits (e.g. having fun) may be just as important for our well-being as long-term goal pursuits (e.g. learning something new to get a better job).

On that basis, a little of what I fancy ought to do me good!

In truth, I wonder if I can even justify - as if I need to – my cross-dressing as something that puts me in touch with my feminine side. After all, what is either feminine or masculine about clothes?

Do I wear women’s clothes? No, I wear my clothes. It’s just that most people probably associate my clothes with those mainly worn by women – whereas Aristotle and his friends probably knew a thing or two about wearing a skirt, or ‘a chiton’ as it might have been called.

Do I feel feminine when I wear my lingerie and dresses? Well, how would I know what feeling feminine feels like? I’m not even sure what feeling masculine feels like. Do women spend their lives feeling feminine any more than I spend my life feeling masculine? Probably not. Although, there seems to be a lot of evidence to suggest that people have a male or female experience of the world, I think that’s probably a little different to feeling either masculine or feminine.

Maybe what I do in cross-dressing is construct my own feminine ideal and find that exciting to occupy for a little space of time. I find it hard to imagine that, in general, women feel as excited as I do when dressed in what they wear on a daily basis. However, I can also imagine that some women might do.

British artist Grayson Perry has said that people accept his cross dressing because he is an artist – he’s “allowed to be weird”. At the same time, he accepts that attitudes towards him might be different if he were a banker. Though in no way should this permit intimidation, aggression and exclusion towards people that harmlessly digress from societal norms.

In day-to-day life I’m probably more banker than artist. My dressing remains hidden, subtle, or in accepting company.

I don’t want to tell you what the reasons for cross-dressing are or should be. It’s good enough for me to be excited by the looks I can create. A creative act or even a delusional one at times – I’m no cat-walk model. Should it matter? Like any craft it takes time, practice, and experimentation to create a satisfying work.

Do you need to find reasons for what you do? Or is it enough discovering the fact that 'It’s All Just So Exciting!'

 

Justin

19 comments

Justin, thanks for the topic. Have always found sexy under gear exciting be it lace or nylon panties, bras, garter belts and nylons or leather. Appreciate Xdress products designed for the male anatomy…..makes the experience even more fulfilling. Again, thank you for the topic. Mike

Mike November 24, 2021

Justin we understand as some of us started this way too. As soon as you can get your own clothes! Undergarments are very private and personal! Using their stuff is like violating their privacy! If you cant buy here several box stores and online outlets have affordable lingerie
Get ur lingerie on I am
Stevie

Stevie November 24, 2021

Hello cella’s! I started wearing my mom’s and sis lingerie when I was young!! Although mom caught me in her lingerie many times , I just told her about me being in the closet !! She doesn’t understand, neither do I but I love love crossdressing !!!!! John

John November 23, 2021

Dear sean
Cudos to u and ur wife, for u to tell her and for her to accept
Search but do not beat ur self up
Glad ur here! Its great to dress it is taboo and it does feel great
Stevie

Stevie November 14, 2021

I am still searching for a reason why I dress. I have been dressing secretly for years. I have binged and purged more than I care to admit. Last year I finally told my wife I like wearing women’s underwear and did so frequently under my male clothes. I thought she would leave me for sure but to my surprise told me that, while she didn’t want to be involved, if it made me feel good keep doing it. She even told me to put my clothes in my dresser and closet instead of the backpack I kept in the trunk of my car! I tell that story because one thing she asked was why I did this. I didn’t, and still don’t have a good answer. The best I can come up with is that it feels good and the taboo is exciting. I’m going to keep searching for a reason because I’m very confused.

Sean November 13, 2021

Hi again everyone How great to hear how so many of you have so much fun dressing! As someone here said, I find it so exciting choosing, waiting for and then finally receiving my Xdress panties and other items. Yes, they become like old friends after a while. But you can have the best fun with old friends! Dressing up in our best secretarial or executive career girl outfit is such a quintessential cross-dressing fantasy. What is it with that? The neatness? The figure hugging skirt and seamed stockings? Or the tightly laced corset to nip in that waist? Or is the object of our fascination something untouchable? Whatever it is – a great look that can be achieved with relatively little outlay. If it excites you, then enjoy it while you can! Yes, wearing a thong while doing a little heavy landscaping could be a head turner if your jeans ride down a bit when you’re on all fours. I guess there’s a time and a place for all kinds of dressing whoever you are. If you’ve something lovely to wear, best aave it for when you can enjoy it the most I think. Have fun everyone Justin

Justin October 29, 2021

Great blog. Was attracted to lacey undies and nylon at an early age but also fought it for years. Now that I am much older I wear xdress panties and lingerie most of the time and feel very comfortable and don’t mind who knows. Wear what makes you feel good.

Seattle Bill October 28, 2021

Hi everybody
Great comments
I love the takes on crossdressing and wearing lingerie
We re fine as we are. Dress as u like
Its fun and sexy; i love it

Stevie October 25, 2021

Justin, a great blog. It is illogical that certain styles of dress and fabrics are designated as “female”, while others are “masculine”. Most things are not attached to a gender. Sports are possibly an exception where there tends to be a vague distinction, more often than not based on the physical strength involved, but both men and women are generally free to cross over. But with clothing society is not as forgiving. Women can wear adaptions of masculine styles without comment, but not so for men who are attracted to feminine styles of dress. Fortunately society has changed for the better in the last couple of years, with the advent of shows like Rue Paul’s Drag Race, and as Randy mentioned, its interesting that some of the bigger brands are coming out with gender neutral clothing. I don’t honestly see gender neutral working for all clothing as men and women do have different shapes, but I do embrace the idea.

Gerald October 25, 2021

Dressing up is just so much fun! I love to wear the XDress panties under my business attire when I have to but love to wear it especially when dressed in femme clothes. I think femme is just a name we tag it with as women’s clothes appear different than men’s clothing. Either way, I do feel a bit more femme wearing panties Thani do when wearing traditional men’s briefs and I don’t think I would wear a thong in the yard to landscape or do manual labor. Need the support of the men’s underwear for this task. But the minute I shower and get ready for bed the satin or lace or other panty combinations from XDress go on! As for dressing up? Now is the time of year to do it! Halloween could be used as a first step to getting your SO to accept your inner femme side.

Scott October 25, 2021

It is exciting when the mail drops with my XDress order, and I try the panties and other items on for the first time. But for me they become like old friends over time and just make me feel happy and calm when I dress up

John October 25, 2021

Great Blog with great posts. Yes it exciting to get dressed up. I usually confine my dressing to being around the house on days off. Usually sleep in lingerie—especially camisoles, teddies, long night gowns, etc. My day look is usually skirts and silk blouse with a blazer, high heels, and panty hose—the executive career women look when I am around the house. At least four days a week when at work , running errands around town, or working in the yard, I usually wear panties and a bra under my male clothes. As I work in retail I am noticing that there are more clothes being sold as unisex. I choose to “dress” because I want to and feel comfortable doing it. Fortunately, I had a mother who approved—actually taught me how to do make-up and have a boyfriend who approves also. Interested in hearing more thoughts on this great topic. Joanne.

Randy October 24, 2021

Hi everyone – I’m pleased to see my blog post resonated with some of you. To James – it’s just so important to be yourself when you’re older. Best not to leave the world wishing you’d enjoyed youself more! To AE – that’s great to hear. Yes, I think there is a younger generation more accepting of gender fluid dressing and we can see this trend in the outputs of some of the major fashion houses; and, of course, our very own and very special Xdress. I think when I was growing up there was a fluid trend in the New Romantic movement associated with pop culture – Boy George and others. However, that fluidity in younger people now, may have moved beyond the confines of the art or music world into a broader way of being. I love to see young people expressing their identities in fluud ways. Power to your child. To Stevie, Stephen and Sissy – you just do what you want to do for whatever reason you like! One of my few guiding principles in life is quite simply, ‘do no harm’. Have fun everyone Justin

Justin October 23, 2021

Hey Gurls,
Love the new blog too, love dressing in my panties every day. I have a drawer full of bras and some dresses, skirts, nylons, and a few pairs of hottie shoes. I love putting on matching bra and panties, slide in my “D” size inserts, and walk around the house. My wife is ok with some of it, she bought most of my panties for me. My fantasy is to be more regular with my comfortable enfemme style, I venture out in heels and my bra full of inserts. It’s a thrill and love to go into the dry cleaners, pharmacy, or get my haircut. I’m in love with this freedom to be me.

MICHAEL October 23, 2021

Hi Justin, I too have felt the same at a young age. I fought the urges but stopped fighting them at 73. I like the way it makes me feel wearing nice frilly clothes and it does excite me too. Enjoyed reading your blog hope to see more soon. Jim

James October 22, 2021

Hi Sissy, That’s my dream come true, I would love to have a partner pick out panties and lingerie for me and make me wear them. I think the desire to be “forced” to wear panties is deep down a way to absolve my guilt about going against the norm. The fact is I don’t like traditional male underwear, I think they are ugly and bulky (although I do like some of Bodyaware’s sheer briefs), and I honestly don’t see why women seem to prefer men wearing them versus something that is attractive, even pretty. My ultimate dream would be to be made to dress up in a full sissy maid’s uniform!

Stephen October 22, 2021

I feel sissy when wearing panties mistress picks out for me everyday. Bitchboy leather collar also.

Sissy October 22, 2021

Hi Justin!

I love this message and I am so happy you get so much joy out of wearing pretty things! My child, who is fourteen, is non-binary and bravely pushing the envelope of what is “acceptable” clothing to wear as a masculine-presenting person. I feel this new generation is very different from my own and it seems as if they have more relaxed ideas of what is ‘feminine’ and what is ‘masculine’ which is an absolute joy to see.

AE October 22, 2021

Dear Justin
Thank u for the new blog. So much in here it mAy take 1 or 2 responses to get it all in. Why do we crossdress? Why do I crossdress? Like you said for me it started early. It then became sexual. I never thought of it as tapping into my feminine side as I m happy being male and masculine in the traditional sense. After going down the rabbit hole of thinking something was wrong with me and several purges at 50 I said wait i gotta figure this out
Well I didn’t!
But I did come to accept this
I like wearing pretty lingerie and dresses skirts etc.
I like feeling sexy and the clothes do that
It’s nothing wrong with it
I can be male masculine and wear lace panties and bras and stockings and heels
What an awesome topic

Get ur lingerie on

Stevie

Stevie October 22, 2021

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