Exploring DRESSing UP!

Exploring DRESSing UP!

When I first started getting close with and learning about my SO, he was very upfront with me about liking lingerie. When we began dating, I made a purchase for him from XD and was pleasantly surprised at seeing him in it. The blue satin panties had enough room to fit everything perfectly and as a woman, I found they had a naughty sex appeal and his confidence and comfort in them, soared.

As a fan of RuPaul, men wearing women’s clothing was not a stretch for me and I actually found many of the gurls to be incredibly sexy, confident and beautiful.  I asked my SO if he would ever consider dressing up for me, either at home or for out on the town.  At first, he thought it might be fun to try once, so we went shopping and found a pretty, thigh length shift dress with a tiny black and white circle design on it.  That evening he allowed me to put makeup on him, he chose bold red under garments and put on his new dress.  His salt and pepper hair matched the color of the dress he wore, which added to the sex appeal.  Being the amazing chef he is, he spent the evening prepping the most delicious lamb chop meal paired with the perfect wine.  The rest of the evening was spent with wine, music and wonderful conversation followed by the admiration of a beautiful pink satin nighty he wore.

To my chagrin, that dress was returned the following week, and though my enjoyment of the evening was brought up on occasion, my SO pulled back from the idea of dressing up like this for me again.  I would bring it up on a bimonthly basis and was always met with a little bit of pushback.  I eventually took this to mean he was not interested in trying this again.  Months passed and I put the idea out of my mind, respecting his choice and enjoying the satin and lace undies he wore daily.

As October rolled around, we started discussing Halloween and possible costumes or outfits we could wear as a couple.  The idea of going out to supper dressed as ‘girlfriends’ came up.  This was the first time in a long while the subject had resurfaced, and I was interested to know if he was entertaining the idea for me or for himself.   Through discussion, I discovered it was for me and I truly did not want that – I wanted it to be for both of us if it were to happen.  Halloween came and went, and we decided to just enjoy an evening of conversation and connection.

The following week, we began texting (we live a couple of hours apart) and he asked me what I thought of the lavender French Maid outfit on the XD site.  Knowing he has a black and white one, I suggested he wear it for his house cleaning that morning.  He put on his hot pink cheeky satin and lace bra and panties from XD and his black and white French Maids outfit, along with some lipstick.  As I received some photos of how pretty he looked, I asked him what I would call him if he were female.  His response was not immediate, though it didn’t take long for him to tell me what it would be.  After our discussion, he spent the morning having coffee and cleaning the house with this pretty look.  He told me he has never felt so free!  

We had a long discussion about how difficult it has been for him to share these two special pieces of himself – wanting to wear women’s overwear and coming up with a female name.  I feel privileged and blessed to be the one he shared this with.  Though it has only been a few weeks since this occurred, it has definitely helped our relationship to grow stronger.  I’m looking forward to enjoying this together!

Is there something more you could be sharing with your significant other?  Feeling free is an amazing blessing you should afford for yourself!

Lots of Satiny Hugs!


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I love the French maid outfit very sexy! My wife knows that I wear panties and is very happy for me to do so – my collection is much larger than her’s plus it is much sexier too. As for a bra I try to be discrete but she probably can tell when I am wearing because of the slight projection of the cups which must be visible to her. I certainly find it very arousing to be dressed in my lingerie. With outer clothes I do have some (blouse, trousers, ballerina shoes), but I do not wear in front of her because that might be going too far. Sadly, because of lockdown I am unable to find the time to be alone and so dress fully.


Very well said Ally. I think you should do what you feel comfortable with. There is no right or wrong answer to this. If you want to keep it a secret, great. If you want to open it up to your SO, great. If you want to open it up the the world, great! No wrong answers. Do what makes you comfortable. We are here for support in any way you need. Satin hugs!


I think it’s wonderful that people can share their thoughts and ideas on this forum. People are so supportive and non-judgemental.

I’ve been dressing since I was a small child but it is something I have kept secret from those close to me. In truth, if they knew, they probably wouldn’t think any less of me. Or they might do secretly.

I’ve sometimes wondered that if in revealing my secret to others – particularly my SO – I am putting them in the position of having to keep a secret too. Should I impose that on them? And actually, is it more exciting to have some things that are our secrets; to be the holder and in control of those and not have others influence our enactment of them? There’s a control paradox in there somewhere.

I find dressing exciting and sexy. I love what Xdress offers and the support the community in this forum gives. I love presenting as feminine to a world that is strange to me as opposed to one that is close and familiar. That’s my little bit of excitement in the world.

That’s me.

It’s up to anybody else to do as they want.

Stay lovely.

Ally x


WB Thanks I’ll keep u posted


Stevie, Nice to see you muster up the courage to have that open and honest conversation. All progress begins with the truth. Maybe there could possibly be a compromise, weekends are yours as you wish, weekdays are more for what she wants. Who knows? I think the open conversation starts to open doors of possibility, trust, understanding, and love. Love to hear how it works out.


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