Empowering Heels!

Empowering Heels!
Greetings, wonderful readers! I hope you all had an incredible holiday season, and are ready for new and exciting experiences in 2020. As we step into this new year, I would like to discuss the expansive topic of High Heels.

For me personally, High Heels were one of the first feminine accessories that filled me with awe. Specifically, it was a pair of black leather knee-high boots with a 2" heel. At the time, I was used to shoes only serving their base function; utility. To see a shoe that had such an amazing visual appeal, filled me with a curiosity I didn't quite understand, and I was driven to try them on immediately.

Sliding my foot into the boot, and zipping it up to my knee filled me with such an intense euphoria. It was as if I was fulfilling my destiny, even though these desires had laid dormant in me for the first years of my life. All I knew was how much I enjoyed putting them on, wearing them, and seeing them on my feet/legs. The feeling of a heel underneath my foot was incredibly new at the time, but it filled me with confidence as I became taller, and my posture was straightened.

High Heels have been a symbol of femininity for so long, that the majority of the population doesn't realize that they were originally invented for men. At their genesis, they were invented for horseback riding, as the heel helped keep the riders foot secured in the stirrups. Not long after, they became an item worn by Nobles, as to convey their status. Women then took notice, appreciating their fashion appeal.

If you've read my blog on Hosiery, you'll notice a similar trend of such items being invented for men, women taking a liking to them, and men abandoning them for fear of being considered "less manly". One of my main goals in dressing femininely, as well as writing these blogs, is to break these stigmas. Sure, wearing makeup, heels and skirts make one appear feminine. However, both femininity and masculinity are not limited to clothing.

Bravery is a traditionally masculine trait, and what is braver than overcoming your own fears and wearing something that is so stigmatized? High heels are perhaps the boldest feminine accessory out there, and I wear them with confidence every day. I hope I can inspire you all to do the same, as the only way to break toxic stigmas is by normalizing things once considered taboo.

When I first began my journey, I purchased two pairs of heels. The first was a pair of satin thigh-highs with a 3" chunky heel. I've always adored the alluring sheen of satin, and I loved the look of such a material gracing my whole leg. The second pair were studded open-toed heels with two straps to hold them on. These had a very thin 4" heel, which was incredibly difficult to walk in. However, the difficulty is worth it to be able to wear such amazing shoes.

My feet are naturally arched, so I became accustomed to wearing heels relatively fast. At first, though, I would only wear them at home because I did not want to make a fool of myself publicly by stumbling around with horrible form. My mistake was going from wearing flat shoes for the first two decades of my life, to 4" heels. My advice: start slow. Get a 2" heel and upgrade when you feel comfortable in doing so. Walking in heels definitely takes practice and patience.

I have found that routinely exercising your legs is one of the best ways to make walking in heels easier, as it requires a decent amount of muscle in your calves to walk on the balls of your feet constantly. Walking in heels itself is an exercise, and if you are out of shape it will be much harder. I have been wearing heels daily for months, and I can confidently say it gets much easier with time. In fact, I find it more uncomfortable to wear flat shoes, and I often wear a 2" heeled leather bootie when I need to do a lot of walking.

Once you start wearing heels, so many more options will open up for your shoe collection, and you will never want to go back to the drab male options. XD has a decent amount of heels made specifically for men's naturally wider feet, my favorite being the "Silver Open Toe Pumps". In fact, XD is the best place you can buy heels as a male because they are suited to fit our feet perfectly. I've had to return plenty of shoes purchased online from other sites, as they were always too narrow for my feet. High Heels that don't fit correctly will make walking in them an absolute nightmare, so shop wisely.  

High Heels are my favorite feminine accessories, simply because they not only look and feel fabulous to wear but complete literally any outfit. And thus, my blog on High Heels comes to an end. What are your favorite types of heels? How high do you like the heel? What are your favorite styles? Let's get a great conversation going!


Like What You're Reading?

Share it with your friends!



Een hak hoort erbij. Althans zeker als je ook meer wilt dragen dan een slipje.
Prachtig om te zien :-D

A heel completes it. Certainly if you also want to wear more than a pair of panties.
Beautiful to see :-D


Hi Gurls – we all know that high heels have to be up there with the most iconic and desirable of feminine apparrel. Every gurl has had a pair in their dressing journey, which they have either mastered – or been turned into an uncomfortable, precariously wobbling jelly. For me, comfort in shoes is so important. If I can’t walk well in them, I don’t bother.

I’m lucky in that my feet fit the upper and wider end of women’s sizes and so I have a fantastic range to choose from. Whilst six inch highs with ankle straps are the stuff of fantasy, I find two to three inch heels in a more blocky style much more comfortable. My latest pair are actually one inch sling-back kitten heels in snakeskin. What’s not to love when paired with wetlook skinnies. Love the trend for leopard-skin prints right now too. There’s so much out there.

Stay pretty

X Ally.


Oooo I love me a pair of heels! 4 or 5-in classic pumps are my favorite part of any outfit. They just complete the look and I love how it feels to slip them on. Can never have too many!


Great topic. I have been wearing heels for years and it has to be my favorite accessory. Like the others on this topic, I started out wearing my mother’s with her approval and her help in choosing the right style and height. It does take practice. I started with 2 inch heels and gradually worked up to 4 inch heels. Today I am wearing a beige 4 inch pair around the house.


Ooohh high heels are soooo sexy on either men or women! Thanks for the blog Nathan, I can’t think of a better subject to start the weekend! I’ve been wearing heels off and on for several years now and it’s hard to accurately describe how wonderful they make me feel except to echo some of the above comments. There’s no other accessory I can think of that brings out my femme side like heels do. I started out “low and slow” with 2-3” heels and finally worked up to 4” heels, but it takes a lot of practice. My GF helped a lot, both with advice on walking and with shoe selection. Once I got used to it I became more confident when wearing them and now it’s almost second nature.
Unfortunately, I haven’t worn them yet to work (though I ldo wear light makeup and have never heard an unkind word) but someday I’ll soon I hope we can all go to work in our heels and no one will consider it unusual. For now, it’s weekends out and evenings around the apartment. It’s hard to put into words how fabulous they make me feel. I’m more confident now that I’ve had some experience with them and my GF and I love wearing them when we go out together, either alone or with others.

So get your femme on gurlz and strut your stuff this weekend!!



Leave a comment

Please note, comments need to be approved before they are published.