Does Your Significant Other Know That You Crossdress?

Many of us look for that special someone to accept us for all that we are and that in itself is a journey. Some people have heard of crossdressing and others have no clue about it. As a site that caters to crossdressing, we like getting to know you as our customer. We like hearing what you have to say about our lingerie, any opinions on the styles and colors we offer, or even getting to know more about the various aspects of crossdressing. What ever it is, we want to hear from you!


Since we have been creating lingerie for men for a little over 20 years and now that we have had our 'His n' Her' Lingerie for almost a year, we would like to hear your opinions on our matching sets. To help you do so, we created a mini survey with a few simple questions, but feel free to tell us more in the comments section below! This may even be fun to get your significant other in on the survey as well! If you haven't told her that you crossdress yet, it's okay. Have a look at one of our previous blogs: 'How To Tell Your Significant Other You Crossdress' if you have been considering letting her know. 

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I took a while to find an SO so accepting. Many did not “get” the panties and bra fetish. Sometimes, I would repress these urges until later in the relationship only to find out they were not approving. Other times, I would wear panties and a bra in the early stages only to be met with the same disapproval. However, being yourself is something very important. Sharing yourself is something that makes us feel very vulnerable. When you find that special someone who accepts you openly, you feel great and the relationship will be better for it. So suit up in your XDress and be confident in yourself! If they don’t understand, its more on them than you.

Scott October 27, 2020

I started CD in secret about 5 years ago. First my wife’s panties then things I bought. I met a nice guy who encouraged me to get a lovely wig. It made me feel so free and happy. When my wife found out she was horrified and has refused to accept it. So I can only dress up when she is a way. I’m very envious of guys whose partners encourage it. They are so open minded. I’m very unhappy ☹️

Josi November 28, 2019

My wife wasn’t aware that I liked to wear panties/lingerie items until relatively recently. She found two pairs of xdress panties and the back of my underwear drawer. and that led to a discussion. She turned out to be fine with it after we spoke. I think she was initially afraid that I was transexual and considering becoming a woman and leaving her!

Once I reassured her that I was happy being a masculine man and that I just enjoyed the look and feel of lingerie on me, she was happy. In fact, perhaps too happy. I really only cross dress when I’m in the mood, and she was encouraging me to wear the panties even when I wasn’t in the mood to do so.

I’ve also been fortunate enough to have some close female friends that are amused (in a good way) and interested in me wearing lingerie. They’ve actually purchased items for me as gifts on the condition that I model it for them.

SR August 09, 2017

Up until a few weeks ago I was strictly a mans cotton boxer man. Then my wife took a short vacation and for some I tried on some of her thong panties. What I found that the feeling on my body of wearing something so feminine and frilly and comfortable was truly exciting. Upon returning I told her that i was wearing her panties and she told me she wanted to see. She was excited to see me in them. When talked about finding some lacy, frilly panties for me so I set out to find them online. I looked online and after some searching found a few places I ordered some lacy thongs with a mans pouch. What I found was that the places that sold them thought an extra large was for a extra large small person. I was not going to give up because my wife and I decided it was something we truly found fun, sexy and exciting. Then I can across There were so many styles and so many really sexy frilly panties that it was hard to choose. I placed my ordered and waited for them to arrive. As I opened the box and put them on my wife came into the room. They were a thong and pink lace, we both loved them and I have since purchased more from Only her and I know that when we are in public my panties are as cute and sexy as hers….well maybe not, but its a whole new world to explore and I doubt that we will go back. Thanks to for being there to fulfill new adventures.

Roland Reed May 11, 2017

This is the deepest secret as males we may have its not easy to share when most might think we’re odd or even weird . But for some of us it’s become apart of our every day of life ! Even if it’s just wearing a pair of panties ! It’s a great feeling wearing and being open to your partner .
It’s the hardest thing to over come that fear and rejection ! How ever understanding and trust from your partner dose work if done over time don’t rush or push your love of wearing on your partner you can push them away !

Iwearpanties April 09, 2017

I have given up trying to find a girl that would accept crossdressing. I would rather find a nice like minded guy who I can enjoy xdress products and more together. I might be different than other customers, but wearing panties and lingerie for a while has led me to understand that I want to DO something feminine rather than just wear a few feminine things. So I find myself more interested in other CD’s because they would better understand that I like to feel feminine and wish to occupy that role with someone else who gets it, better than any girl could.

Secret CD April 03, 2017

Well, my significant other sort of knows. She seems ok with me wearing panties but I’m afraid that if I start wearing bras and slips she may feel differently. It’s the issue we all face. How much do your reveal vs. risking pushing her away. It took me years and years to experience self-acceptance as a cross dresser, not sure she will feel the same way in the course of one evening.

Bra and Panty Wearer March 30, 2017

Yes my wife knows and buys me many of my panties and garters. We lounge around the house many times wearing the same outfits. Sometimes we get kinky but other times we just fall asleep in each other arms. She never met a man who wears panties until she met me .. she found this lifestyle incredible, warming, and sensual. She could not imagine me wearing anything else. Infact, I do own one pair of boxers for Dr Visits and she hates those days and make me change as soon as I walk through the door … like she has to twist my arm.

OpenPantyWearer March 29, 2017

Yes my sig other knows. Actually all my former relationships knew and supported. Granted only 6 total. Last single streach almost 5 years. I always was honest about Michelle.
Most people i talked too couldn’t deal with.
One time met one of the ones turned me down while i was Michelle at a local bar. We talked for hours. Then she asked if i wanted to go somewhere elese. I showed her a pic of Michael. She was like oh im sry ect…. I said have a great night.
Story of my life.
But have a great woman by my side now.

Michelle/Michael March 26, 2017

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