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Are there Rules to Being a Crossdresser?

Posted on 10 February 2017


We’ve tackled a lot of different topics on this blog when it comes to what it means to be a crossdresser, as well as the many different ways you can crossdress. We’ve gone from talking about how your facial hair should look, what outfits you can wear, and even gone into some societal topics regarding crossdressing. With all these different trends in crossdressing, contrasted with how it has always been, we’ve been wondering: is there only one way to crossdress? Or is it more flexible than that?


We’re coming up in an age where fashion is becoming more and more innovative, and where “breaking the rules” is encouraged when it comes to putting together an outfit. Though crossdressing is just as much a lifestyle as it is a fashion statement, there are definitely elements of it where you can “break the rules”. You can mix up lingerie sets, wear some wigs, and change up what kinds of shoes you wear with your outfits and it could be considered “fashion,” but are you still “crossdressing” if you break these sorts of rules?


I’ve noticed that crossdressing is definitely more specific than any other way of dressing, but in the way I understand it, it’s simply wearing articles of clothing that are traditionally worn by members of the other sex. However, I can also see that “cross dressing” and “being a crossdresser” can be two very different things. Someone who would regularly crossdress might have a set of rules to follow, like staying shaved to appear feminine, and wearing specific outfits that align with the identity of “crossdresser.” On the other hand, someone who is simply crossdressing as a one-time thing, or someone who just enjoys wearing feminine articles of clothing from time to time, might not want the identity of “crossdresser,” as it’s not a hobby that they actively follow. In conjunction with that, someone who is an avid crossdresser could find offense to someone crossdressing as a one-time thing (especially if they think that they’re doing something incorrectly), since being more active crossdresser has a defined culture and lifestyle that comes with it.


Because your opinions are valuable to us, let’s have some discussion in the comments. Is there only one way to be a “crossdresser?” Do you have to stick to a certain set of rules to become one, and if so, what are those rules? Can someone still consider themselves as a “crossdresser” if they break those rules? Give us your opinions! We’d love to hear them!

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  • SR: February 20, 2017

    Since society’s “rules” make crossdressing such a secretive and potentially shameful act for many of us, it would be nice if crossdressing itself could be a rules free zone. :-)

    I do like that you acknowledged the full spectrum of men that like to crossdress. Personally, I’m a masculine man that just likes to wear lingerie from time to time. Although I’ll concede that some of my xdress panties are far more comfortable than any mens underwear I own, I typically only wear them if I’m going out with my girlfriend. Essentially like many women do, I’m wearing my nicest panties when I think I might be getting lucky that night. haha

    I don’t really identify with those that are fully into crossdressing as a lifestyle, or those that create a female “persona” for themselves. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not judging those people. Nor should they judge me. We should all be nothing but tolerant of each other. Some standard fashion guidelines might still apply though. Such as try to wear items that are flattering to your body type. Haha

  • Addan: February 17, 2017

    I considere a cross dresser just in some cases when I want to feel sexy and being watched for men. I dress up just in the nights and I go out walkin down the streets showing my lingerie but in the mornings I do my normal life wearing men clothes. I have a short time doing this but everyday I want to wear new women clothes.


  • Carlos Yszunza: February 15, 2017

    Of course there is no one way to be crossdresser, maybe there are as many as us.
    Me for example I use lingerie every single day since more than 30 years ago and I use my “normal” men cloths and under my bra, slip, even suspender and socks.
    Sometimes in a special circumstances I crossdress me totally not just my underwear and then I use a dress a wig and make up.
    By the way, I’m married with a woman and both of us enjoy this.
    Don’t make public my name or email.

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