Greetings, my dear readers. I hope this blog finds you well and in some nice lingerie. I got to thinking about the advantages and challenges involved in the different modes of shopping in which we can engage. There are basically three ways to shop; online, brick and mortar and hard copy catalogues.
Hard copy catalogues are pretty much going the way of the dial telephone, but I have found a nice Capri set and a pretty nightgown in one of the catalogues we get. I found the experience pretty flat, and overall the lingerie was pretty boring. I think it is designed for an older set of ladies, with a lot of granny panties and bras that would probably deflect a speeding bullet.
The internet is ideal for those of us who are shy about our inner femme. There is such an array of nice lingerie out there. We are fortunate to have XDress and Body Aware, who specifically cater to us of the femme persuasion. Thank goodness for XD and BA! There are also some nice ladies sites out there. When looking at the customer reviews on a pair of ladies panties, you’d be surprised how many of the reviews are done by males. We number more than you might think. The upside of the internet is you can shop in complete privacy with no risk of unintentionally outing yourself. One of the risks is the issue of fit. You can’t try it on. To further complicate the matter, what one store considers a size large can differ greatly from another store. You just have to learn by experience.
One thing I really like about the internet is in the shoe department. I have large feet – size 13. For those of you that don’t know, in order to find the right size of women’s shoe, add two sizes to your men’s size. If you are a size 9, you would be a size 11 in women’s shoes. Doing the math, you can see that I am a size 15 in women’s shoes. You don’t just go to the local shoe store to find a women’s size 15. You won’t find them. I can, however, find size 15 online, and I have several pair, from boots, to sandals, to loafers, and of course Mary Janes. Also shopping for shoes online spares you the exposure involved in shopping at a brick and mortar.
Speaking of brick and mortar shopping, there are advantages and challenges there as well. First the challenges. The obvious challenge is outing yourself without intending to. There are ways to deal with that. If you are married to a gg who is supportive of your cross dressing, she is your cover for shopping. My wife and I love to go shopping and we have the closets and drawers to prove it! We’ve gotten to the point that a new skirt means you have to donate one to the charity shop. A new pair of panties? Find an old pair to throw out. Such a nice problem to have! One of the up sides to me personally is just the thrill of being in the store with other women around while I’m shopping. Also, you can feel the texture of things and some things, like women’s jeans, you can try on, eliminating the problem of proper fit.
If you are either not out to your gg or single with no relationship, you can use a trick that I used before I was out to my wife. As with most of us, I started by secretly underdressing. When there was a pair of panties I just had to have, I would also pick up a birthday or anniversary card for my wife. Ah, I’m shopping for her, not me. One time I was doing our grocery shopping by myself at Wal Mart and threw a nice pink lacy pair of panties in, thinking they would be lost among all the groceries. Wrong! The clerk scanned them and said, “I’ll bet you’ll look cute in these.” I just smiled, thinking anything I said would just dig the hole deeper.
The pre-Christmas shopping season is a pretty safe time to do both under and outer wear shopping, as everybody is buying things for others. Pretty safe time to get that skirt and blouse you’ve been wanting.
One of the things my wife and I love to do is hit the thrift shops. You’d be surprised at the quality outer wear you can find if you just look. Men’s shopping is pretty straight forward – shirts in one area, slacks in another. With women’s shopping, it’s more like a hunting expedition. Everything is everywhere. You have to take your time. I have skirts and blouses from higher end labels that I got for cheap. One thing that I don’t get is that some of the thrift shops sell used panties. Really? That is so gross. Would you wear panties previously owned by a total stranger? Not this gurl!
So, I’ve rambled on long enough. How about you – what are your experiences and preferences in the wonderful world of shopping? Please share your thoughts with me, as I always love to read your postings. Until then, let’s get out there and go shopping!
Fond regards,
Angie
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Hi gurls
Jewelry is an area we don’t hear much about.
I’ve recently been experimenting with some and have been surprised a the results. For instance, I recently bought some quite cheap, but girly, boho style jewelry online and teamed it with male casual wear and some women’s metallic platform sandals. I was surprised at the accent the jewelry gave. The necklace added decoration but also seemed to lengthen my neck a little, the bracelet glittered and drew attention to my hands. If I’d have had longer nails on and had them painted the effect would have been superb. The jewelry items I’d chosen were silvery and so matched my metallic silver sandals. I felt proper fem! And so pleased with myself I just had to put on a little lipsticck and mascara too! And, of course, I had a lovely pair of xdress lace panties and a bra under my casual wear. So comfortable for every day.
To Kristina and David, many thanks to you for acknowledging the existence of men who wear panties, and for taking a bold and daring step to start a business that caters to our needs and providing us a place where we who dare to be different re are welcomed and celebrated. Thanks to the employees of BodyAware/XDress for challenging the idea that lingerie is strictly for females only. I am a male and proud wearer and lover of panties and the idea that you can and should wear what makes you happy and it’s nobody else’s business. I love everything about panties. I love the way panties feel against my skin and look on my body. I love the way panties make me feel about myself. I love how panties accentuate both my butt and my … well, you know. I converted to wearing panties full-time 24/7 in my second year of college (age 20). I am 47 now and I still enjoy shopping for panties at other places (online and in-store). However, having access to panties made for men will certainly alter my buying habits. I love seeing and looking at guys’ hot bodies wearing nothing more than sexy panties, hoping the panties will look as good on me. Your website indulges me with not only the panties which I crave, but also the eye candy which is a pleasing visual treat. In closing, maybe wearing panties isn’t for all men, and maybe men wearing panties isn’t for all women. But it is my continued hope that the notion of men wearing panties will become more mainstream and gain more acceptance by all.
Shopping for panties/lingerie is so much fun whether online or in brick mortar stores. The shopping experience between these two venues are different and exciting in their own ways. At the brick mortar stores it is more risqué and daring because when you are shopping you have sales clerks, cashiers, and other customer encounters that can determine or surmise the lingerie is for you. This has always brought the added dimension of excitement to me when shopping in stores. Additionally, if you have that special someone in your life and she is a female than shopping together in the stores adds a unique and fun experience to shopping. It can be fun matching, displaying, and purchasing the items as you shop, especially if you are different sizes, and you don’t mind answering any questions together if asked. It is also fun to see the reaction of a nearby customer when the wife hold up a panty and asks if these will fit you. Online shopping is a bit different as you don’t have that public interaction but can go more risqué with the items you find and buy. It is fun to look at the models and wonder how that item might fit on you. Online shopping also allows me shop at work and text my wife back and forth getting her opinions on certain items before purchasing them for me and/or us. XD is our favorite site and their lingerie is quality so we do visit weekly. Anyway, however you shop, just enjoy experience and have fun with it. Enjoy this side of us and share it with others … it is the only way we can make male lingerie wearing even more mainstream.
As to topics;
What is your favorite material to wear in lingerie?
Giving male panties as a gift
What would you like to see XD add to their merchandise?
When traveling has anyone discovered your lingerie in your bags
Caught in panties or lingerie because of an emergency situation and how did you handle that.
Wearing fem swimwear at the pool or beach.
Topic:
Leg Wear as I’m crazy obsessed with it.
K
Hi there gurls – hope you’re all being lovely
Online is easiest for me but it is a limited and hit and miss experience because of not being able to try things on. A good thing about online is being able to collect in store or at a parcel collection point. Items are wrapped so that no one can see them – and if you’re worried about comments; you’re collecting for your wife/daughter.
I think these days you should be able to ask an assistant if the changing caters for trans people. I’ve not tried that yet but imagine it would provoke a friendly and helpful response.
Incidentally, in Europe, women’s shoe sizes are the same as men’s. I’m quite lucky in feet as I fit within the women’s sizes. Just so long as I watch out for width – nothing too narrow and wide is a safe bet.
Happy dressing everyone.
There must be a suitable acronym for us all. Something derived from something like, the ‘Society of Men the Dress with a Feminine Persuasion’. That doesn’t do it, but you know what I mean. Something to rival the African ‘Sapeur’ movement.
Luv x