Hello dear readers! I truly wish you all well and hope that you and your families remain safe and healthy. Today I would like to discuss a rather interesting topic; the benefits crossdressing has on us as individuals, and how it affects our personalities.
For most of us, I'm sure that we all experience a complete mood shift simply by the act of crossdressing. Regardless of why you dress, it's a wonderful feeling that is hard to let go in any situation. Just think: would you be happier at an event you were dragged to if you were crossdressed? I would say yes, and I'm sure you all can agree. For me personally, I am happier while dressed because I am completely content. How I dress is a part of me, and being able to express it without shame is vital to my well-being.
How many of you can remember a specific time you took that risk, and fully dressed up to go out? For those who haven't, a feeling of complete and unrestricted euphoria awaits you. Now, none of this is to say that the act of underdressing isn't just as euphoric. There will always be situations where we must fulfill masculine roles, in which underdressing becomes the only option. It's during these times, that we truly realize and appreciate that simply wearing a bra and panties can elevate our happiness to a peak as nothing else can.
Aside from simply making us happier, I sincerely believe that cross-dressing has the ability to make us all better people. The inherent delicate nature that comes along with femininity is echoed in our personalities. How many of you noticed that you became more empathic, patient, and caring since you started crossdressing? These virtues are nothing to be ashamed of, rather, they should be embraced and incorporated into our daily lives. When we do this, our relationships with not just lovers, but friends and family improve as well.
Women often are referred to as the gentler sex, and this isn't just in regards to physicality. This also refers to their naturally caring and nurturing personalities, which makes them typically more polite and kind. Of course, there are extremes to everything, and of course, men possess these qualities as well. However, I have encountered countless men who are rather curt when discussing their emotions or problems. I believe this is due to the fact that most men are conditioned from a young age to just "deal with it" and act the tough guy when it comes to their problems and social interactions. An obvious example of this conditioning is that women greet each other with a hug while men shake hands.
For true inner peace to be achieved, we must all have balance in our lives. Embracing the benefits crossdressing has on our personalities ironically makes us better men, by enabling us to become better communicators, listeners, and companions. I have noticed a wonderful change in my relationship since I began crossdressing daily, as my girlfriend and I are able to connect and communicate on a much deeper level.
Of course, it is also lovely being able to discuss clothes, shoes, and makeup with our other feminine companions. The world of fashion offers limitless possibilities for expression, and it should not be limited by sex. Simply by crossdressing, we also become more accustomed to the standards of fashion and beauty, and can further empathize with the struggles that women have. The amount of effort it takes to have that hourglass figure, or flawless skin, is something most men do not understand.
As you can see, the benefits of crossdressing expand far beyond just feelings of happiness or euphoria. For some, crossdressing can be hard to understand. When people began to realize how it changes us for the better, it becomes far easier to accept.
So that concludes this blog! I think this is a very important topic, as most people just associate crossdressing with the clothing itself and not the emotional benefits that come along with it. What are your thoughts? Has your personality changed for the better since you began crossdressing? Have your relationships improved as a result? I'm very excited to get this discussion going!
-Nathan
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For a long time I repressed the urge to cross dress and kept it hidden from my SO. The urges to dress up still existed and I would find my moments to get dolled up. Of course, I was younger then and not sure how to handle these urges. With time, confidence grew and I learned that I was not alone in this and spoke to some good people on how to introduce this side to my SO’s. The first talks were a little uncomfortable but my SO was very understanding and I find that some are more understanding than others. However, stay true to yourself and grow into it. I do think cross dressing has made me more compassionate and understanding and tolerant. Again, behavior that is learned over time with maturity and understanding coming into play.
Nathan, this is an excellent blog, and very well timed. If I may expand on your topic a bit, we are currently living in very troubled times, with open violence on the streets of some of our cities. I totally agree with you that crossdressing is more than clothes – it is a matter of personality, and embracing the gentler side of who we are. Like you, my friendships and my marriage have increased in quality since I embraced the feminine side of who I am. In these troubled times, I can see only good coming from us living as the gentler people we have become. Truly, our society needs the gentler people we have become. Do we need justice? Of course. At the same time, as the song says, “What the world needs now is love, sweet love.”
Fond regards, Angie
Hi Nathan!
Good topic
Well my relationship hasn’t improved, my wife confessed that she DOESNT approve of my crossdressing. Went to the “you’re gay” stuff( no problem if i were but im not ) but i have improved
I m less nervous less tense happier
Less nervous cause i m not trying to find private time to dress. Now i just underdress and what i call neutral dress (wear unisex looking clothes than are women’s)
But i press on, i m really happy with my dressing
I m cool with my toes polished underdressing and women’s jeans sweaters thigh highs light make up
I have changed. I am at a point in my life where I am comfortable with expressing myself as I wish. My wife is on the fence about me and CD, but she has taken me dress shopping a few times, has bought me panties, and says she likes to see me in panties. She gets coffee in bed each morning with me wearing only a pair of bikini’s. I can wait to come home and put on a fresh pair of panties, a bra, and a dress. In my professional life, I’m masculine, I am a karate master and ride a Harley. I relate now with the feminine side that has emerged as of late. I appreciate xdress for the constant encouragement for us gurls and all the wonderful products that you offer. I am putting my birthday list together for my wife to buy me some of your pretty things-she just now promised me a spa day-her and I. My wife is a hottie and she makes me crazy, I love to return the favors. I love to dress for her. My ultimate fantasy is to have make up done and buy a wig, go out and be free in public. Soon I hope. Thanks Xdress.
Hello Nathan
I have been walking away from the blog, for no particular reason. That is why I have not published or issued an opinion on the topics of previous blogs.
Today after reading your blog, I found the topic very interesting. I grew up and live in a traditional family and I have a very conservative profession which I am not allowed to do.
Since I was a teenager, I woke up to wearing women’s clothing. Since then, whenever I could, I used panties. A little later, with a friend I discovered that in fact my femme side was much more exacerbated than my male side. With the passing of time I have internalized this and today I am unable in my day to day not to wear lingerie under the suit or more sporty clothes. As you say it has a wonderful effect on my ego, I feel good, beautiful and increases my self-confidence. I feel like a sweeter person, kind to others and to myself. I feel myself in all my splendor.
Thanks again for the excellent blog.
Best Regards. Francisca