Greetings, my dear readers. First I want to express my appreciation for your responses to my blog postings. It is so rewarding to know that there are so many of you that share this common experience with me that we call, loosely, “crossdressing”. Perhaps a better term is “gender fluid.” That pretty much works for me, as we all have a sense of who we are that is much broader than the confining role of the traditional binary male. I can’t imagine going back to being the macho male I once pretended to be (I say “pretended” because that was never who I really was) and wearing those heavy, scratchy underwear. Thinking about this fascinating journey of embracing the inner femme that we know ourselves to be, I started wondering about what got us all started on this journey.
I’ve read a lot of posts on various sites, regarding crossdressing folks like us, and have found there are many starting points. Some have sisters, and got started by exploring their sister’s panty drawer, or closet in search of the perfect skirt or dress. Others went foraging in their mom’s closet and dresser. Others didn’t have a sense of their femme self until later in life and lived, or do live, in fear of discovery by their wives. Others, the most fortunate of all, have a spouse that is totally okay with the feminine side of her husband or significant other, and lives happily in the gender fluid world with him.
So, I have a question for you: what got you started, and at what age? When did you first slip on that luscious pair of panties and know you were hooked – that this was a part of who you are? When did you first try on that first bra, or blouse, or skirt, and know that this was something you just had to do? We all had some starting point that led to where we are now, and I would love to hear your stories. By reading the blogs here at Xdress, surely by now you know you are far from alone in this fascinating world of the gender fluid; you are part of a virtual community here at Xdress. Tell me your story – I would love to hear it!
Fondest regards,
Angie
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I started in early pubescently not knowing anything about sex except I liked girls, they have a calming effect on me. I started trying by trying a bra on in our home laundry. It was electrifying for me from head to toe. I felt warm and relaxed, all my problems went away. Still, to this day, I know something is causing me anxiety or distrust with my wife, out comes the bra. fake boobs a skirt and sweater. It’s become a form of anxiety treatment, feeling warm and secure in a bra and my private sanctuary.
Yaniv great story
As lve said before some women are into it and if they are its bliss on both sides
My lust for lingerie started at the age of 12. The trigger was stockings that blew my mind. The first time I wore my mother’s panties, stockings, robe and heels. Since adolescence I have been feeling less manly than the other boys/men around me… for years I was fighting against my inner feelings and lusts and felt shamed and even avoid intimacy with women.
In 2006 I met my beloved wife and few months after we started going out, she ordered herself a sexy corset that came with a black sheer thong… I wore it after few years of “abstinence”… i felt so sexy and knew that I must tell her… few hours later I asked to wear this thong.. she was shocked but after I wore it she was so turned on and everything is history… we’re together 13 years, got married and have 2 kids. During the last year I started to crossdress more and more and my wife supports me more and more. She love me as a man and also as her sissy… I hope to be less shy and to crossdress more and especially outside
Chrissy
I m no expert but trying to hide it is probably a bad idea. See if you can wearsome male lingerie thats not too obvious to get a feel for what she’d say!
But best is to be upfront and honest with her about your desires
The clothes here are fantastic
I dont look at wearing these items as crossdressing because they are mens garments with some femme styling. Women do it all the time wearing boyfriend style jeans and other male styled things
I recently discovered your blog. Have read most all of it. I enjoy your openess and breath of knowledge.
Some months ago I discovered my wife’s razor in the shower, started to shave my legs and everything else! My wife challenges me about my shaving but, so far she has accepted my excuses.
I wear some very brief and sheer bikinis to bed. My wife has not connected the bikinis with my shaving. Hope not! I want to get some cross dress items, but my wife wants me to stay masculine!
I was surprised when she told me, “See those women? They are gay!” Why? Because they are wearing the same rings! I would never notice this detail!! So, what is going on? Is my wife gay or does she just have sensitive gaydar?
Any thoughts?