Hannah, My question is how do you underdress and hide the lace from the bras? I am not passable but my wife and I enjoy when I underdress. However almost all of the bras I have from XDress are covered in lace and even with layers they still show through my shirts. Any secrets? My wife encourages me to wear them and says that if people notice then they are looking way too long. The same goes for panty lines. I wear a thong most of the time especially at the gym, but I have a lot of pretty panties and sometimes they leave extreme VPL.. My other question is what to do at the doctor? I don’t own any male underwear so the wife has purchased girl panties that could pass as men’s… I just don’t want to make anyone else uncomfortable. Thank you!
Unless you wear several layers, you have to understand and accept that someone will very likely see that you are wearing a bra. Perhaps they will see the underwire shaping the cups, the outline of the clasp on your back, the lacy details peeking through, or the indent of your bra strap across your shoulders. If any evidence of your bra is still showing, and you want to hide that, add another layer. If that layer isn't enough, add another. And so on until you look like Joey from that episode of 'Friends'.
Panties can also peek at the top of your waistband and a visible panty line is always a risk.
If you are going to underdress, you must make peace with the reality that someone will very probably notice. They likely won't say anything (I can't imagine many people walking up to someone else and asking if you are wearing a bra) but they will likely notice. The question you have to ask yourself is whether or not you CARE that they notice.
I could care less if some random person sees my pink thong peeking up or my t-shirt revealing a lacy black bra strap. If they notice, then so what? I am never going to see that random person ever again.
As for the doctor, I wear panties all the time and doctors have seen it all. I am not the first male presenting person that they will see that wears panties and I will certainly not be the last. Doctors and nurses are professionals. Besides, if I am at the doctor I am likely there for a more serious conversation that doesn't include panties.
If I get weird vibes or whatnot, I can just change doctors. I want to visit professionals that are professionals, not weirdos who care that I wear panties.
Love, Hannah
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Heres how i hide bras
Black tank top wife beater t shirt
Stripe or checkered shirt or thick sweater
Thank you for answering my questions… I really appreciate your input and everyone else’s. I sometimes feel like I live multiple lives. When I am away from home and on vacation I am much more free and don’t really care. At home where I am well known in the community I feel much more nervous. My wife has gotten rid of all my men’s underwear so it’s strictly panties for me. When I go to the Doctor she always comes with me and she has purchased a few plain black panties to wear. The last trip to the Dermatologist she had me wear a pair of her Calvin Klein panties with a thicker band that look much more masculine than anything I own and I felt much more comfortable in them.
I may not always add my two cents to your blogs but I always read them and appreciate your place in this safe space. 🎀
Very true but it’s not easy to do such a step at first. In my case it took time to accept people will see and have peace with it
Thanks Hannah. A great reply about underdressing and whether people even care. It took me a long while to break out from my wife’s opinion, but since then I’ve not looked back and don’t care about others. I hope you’re living your best life as I am. Stay well. x Summer
I totally agree Hannah, whatever underwear choice you have is your business and no one else’s. I myself is comfortable with my choice in wearing lingerie each and every day and if someone notices this then as you say will probably never see them again. For any of my family or friends, no one has yet to mention this to me even though I’m sure some will have seen bra stap lines through my t-shirt or felt them when hugging. Several times at the doctors or hospital I’ve had to remove or readjust bras or stockings but no one has ever commented or looked disapprovingly at me. Confidence is the key, own and be proud of yourself in your lifestyle.