"Whenever I wear panties I feel very feminine and become extremely bi curious. Is that normal?"
It's not unusual. I think it's common for us to look at our sexuality in a different light when we are less inhibited.
What I mean is that when we allow ourselves to BE who we are (often by wearing what we wish), we are more open to different possibilities. Wearing what we want, especially when it's considered crossdressing, tends to make us feel a little more vulnerable, and oftentimes a little more honest with ourselves. Maybe not everything, including our sexuality, is as black and white as we thought.
I also think that when we FEEL feminine (and that's pretty normal when we wear panties), we realize we LOVE feeling feminine. Annnnd feeling femme can be, well, intoxicating. We fall in love with the feeling. I don't want to say that it's addicting, but for many of us when we feel feminine, and when we love how we feel, we want to feel MORE feminine. For some, panties lead to bras, and then to stockings, and then to high heels and so on... constantly expanding our wardrobe to include new items that increase that feeling of femininity.
And for some of us, we want to, well, for lack of a better phrase, "be THE girl". This isn't necessarily about transitioning, but some of us have a fantasy of wearing beautiful lingerie during intimate moments, and that can include being with someone sexually who treats us as feminine. Our imagination can drift towards being with a man in these moments. We may daydream about being with a man because he may increase our own feeling of femininity. In some daydreams, it's not necessarily about being with a man, but rather being in a moment, being with someone, that increases how we want to feel.
Wearing panties or anything else does not change your sexuality, in my opinion. I don't think our sexual preferences shift when we wear panties compared to when we wear, well, anything else. I feel we are more open to other things when we are feeling vulnerable, happier, and less inhibited and lingerie can very easily do that.
Love, Hannah
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Great comments! Its important to realize that feeling feminine and exploring femininity can be hott! It doesn’t change your sex or orientation! You can do both! If you have a bicurious side that is revealed so what?? Go for it! Explore, reassess! LIVE!!!!!
As usual I think Hannah is absolutely correct in her answer. I am heterosexual and happily married to someone who accepts my need to dress in feminine clothing every now and then. I started by wearing panties which evolved to then wearing bras and nighties and then on to dresses, skirts, stocking’s and heels along with wigs and make up. I love the feeling of confidence and happiness that wearing pretty lingerie and feminine clothing gives me and come alive as Debbie. Sharing intimate moments with the one I love, dressed as a girl is such a beautiful and gentle experience, and I truly believe that allowing my femininity to blossom has made me much more sensitive and caring. I have on two occasions been chatted up by men when we have been out and I have been dressed as my alter ego. I was quick to put the record straight on both occasions as I don’t want to lead anyone on, and as I said I’m happily married anyway. However I must admit those experiences were such a boost to my confidence and made me feel even sexier than I usually do when dressed en femme and if I’m honest made me feel more like a woman, and increased my feelings of femininity which in turn did lead me to wonder what it would be like to be intimate with a man and what it would feel like, but that was as far as it went. I am much happier sharing my femininity with my wife who is happy to allow me to dress in my sexy black satin and lace lingerie, heels and stockings as for me the understanding, sensitivity and gentleness of a woman during intimate moments is what I need as a woman. So for me no, I don’t believe how we choose to dress does change our sexual preferences but just enhances and brings greater happiness into our lives whatever our orientation.
Very well written
I have been wearing lingerie for 25 years as an adult but started trying things on with a friend in my teens. Curiously, he’s gay and I’ve been seeing Mistresses for over 20 years, hence the aka as Lucy. More recently I have been fantasising about Shemales, which goes in love with what you say about the feminity.
A very interesting article Hannah. I must confess, when i choose my XD panties a degree of feminism is always present. Choosing the colour, material, thong or string brings a wave of happiness as my panties slide into place.