"Whenever I wear panties I feel very feminine and become extremely bi curious. Is that normal?"
It's not unusual. I think it's common for us to look at our sexuality in a different light when we are less inhibited.
What I mean is that when we allow ourselves to BE who we are (often by wearing what we wish), we are more open to different possibilities. Wearing what we want, especially when it's considered crossdressing, tends to make us feel a little more vulnerable, and oftentimes a little more honest with ourselves. Maybe not everything, including our sexuality, is as black and white as we thought.
I also think that when we FEEL feminine (and that's pretty normal when we wear panties), we realize we LOVE feeling feminine. Annnnd feeling femme can be, well, intoxicating. We fall in love with the feeling. I don't want to say that it's addicting, but for many of us when we feel feminine, and when we love how we feel, we want to feel MORE feminine. For some, panties lead to bras, and then to stockings, and then to high heels and so on... constantly expanding our wardrobe to include new items that increase that feeling of femininity.
And for some of us, we want to, well, for lack of a better phrase, "be THE girl". This isn't necessarily about transitioning, but some of us have a fantasy of wearing beautiful lingerie during intimate moments, and that can include being with someone sexually who treats us as feminine. Our imagination can drift towards being with a man in these moments. We may daydream about being with a man because he may increase our own feeling of femininity. In some daydreams, it's not necessarily about being with a man, but rather being in a moment, being with someone, that increases how we want to feel.
Wearing panties or anything else does not change your sexuality, in my opinion. I don't think our sexual preferences shift when we wear panties compared to when we wear, well, anything else. I feel we are more open to other things when we are feeling vulnerable, happier, and less inhibited and lingerie can very easily do that.
Love, Hannah
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I left my wife and am now with a wonderful man since I started wearing panties! Now I’m his wife! Lol. Crazy the power of lingerie has. I was straight all my life till I started crossdressing.
I agree wearing panties can be a way to lower inhibitions and embrace vulnerability. Seeing oneself in a bra and panties can open the mind to exploring taboo aspects of identity, encouraging further experimentation. There’s nothing wrong with these feelings—it’s a natural way to connect with a suppressed part of yourself. Embrace it and enjoy the exploration.
I dont think i ve seen this explained any better! I mainly a typical dude . Conservative! Old school. But i love wearing girly clothes! And when i do I fantasize about being the girl! So bi fantasy does come into play
Stevie!
Hannah
I love how you make it so real. Indeed, sexuality shines in a different light when we are less inhibited and we are a little more honest with ourselves.
It’s funny how dressing is such a release, it’s as if we’re saying, yes… I like wearing woman’s clothing, there’s nothing wrong with it and I feel great knowing I have removed the veil on what I like.
Thanks again…
Dee Dee (aka Matt)
Very interesting blog! For me, I certainly do feel femme in panties and absolutely love it. It has also drawn out a bi-curious side as well and I have found an attraction to male’s. Love women but also finding a bi side, which I think has been in me since birth but just now exploring it. Unsure where it goes but it is fun and flirty to be cruising Grindr and seeing how many men actually like panties!