By Musk
When did you first start wearing panties or lingerie and what motivated you to try it?
I think my first motivation was simply….why not. From there it was comfort and how turned on wearing it all made me, that feeling was an easy way to push deeper into lingerie. I followed what felt good for me.
How My Style Has Evolved
I think it was a natural progression, but I know I dip my toe into the idea of more feminine underwear early in my twenties, at the time I didn’t know of makers like XDress so I would just wear tiny g strings and the things I could find online. My first proper panties were a pair of women’s panties that came with a magazine I bought in France. That was 2016 and I was hooked. From there I found XDress, likely via Body Aware and knew I was ready for more panties. I think since I know so many of my guy friends from meeting on Twitter they’ve known all along that I enjoyed slutty underwear so they’ve only encouraged me going deeper and deeper into lingerie. I type this while wearing a tiny skirted sheet and lace thong a friend told me to buy.
What I Love Wearing (and Why)
These days I love a bra, I am wearing those more and more, and I’m getting more and more into crotchless things, especially for wearing with a cock cage! Lace is without question my favorite fabric, but sheer works too. I love the idea of coverage without being covered. I want to wear stockings and pantyhose more but I tend to forget about them or fear I’ll snag a run.
I live alone so I spend a lot of time alone so lingerie is how I start and end every day. I love the confidence and fun it provides oftentimes mundane of living alone in rural areas. I especially love working in my garden in the heat of summer in the smallest lingerie I can find.
Who Knows and How Open I Am
All of my guy friends know. Between in person, twitter, and Instagram they’ve all seen me in it. They know what I like and these days I know what they like and having that connection with my guys has been such a joy and reminder that we, as country bumpkin gays were never as alone as we feared we’d be.
Connecting With My Feminine Side
That’s a hard one to say, I love the juxtaposition of muscles and body hair with the feminine designs, especially with lace. I love the idea that you can be whoever you want. Especially if that means I can drive a tractor or work in my garden or on the farm while wearing lace. For me my love of lingerie and panties has come from writing my own rules about who I am rather than fitting the cookie cutter of the boxer wearing guy that lives on a farm in Kentucky. My farm life is farm more lace, mesh, and panty filled.
Why I Stepped Away From Traditional Men’s Underwear
Comfort is the biggest reason, I prefer as little coverage as possible but want support for the balls. Thongs have been my go to since high school. I used to love jocks but that has faded and thongs truly are my daily wear. I feel like the skinny jeans we were all wearing a decade ago was a big factor too, the less fabric the underwear had the less bunching you’d have in those skin tight jeans.
Advice for the Curious
Start where you’re comfortable and with what turns you on, for me that was smaller and smaller thongs and then into bodysuits, from there it has very much been a journey into a current love of bras and stockings. I’m dying for a corset next. I would also say start with cheaper pieces and work your way up. The great thing about panties is everyone wears underwear, why not make what you wear beneath your clothes fun, even if it’s your little secret.
Confidence, Expression, and Owning It
Oh I don’t give a hoot anymore, I used to have some level of shame connected to my love of underwear in general, but especially with lingerie, but now it is something most of my friends know about and encourage, and it has led to several of my friends opening up about how much they love lingerie too, which has been a fun new dynamic of our already very open friendships. I love that it is another bonding moment for me and my guys. We are continually sending each other links of what we each need next.
I love bodysuits and have for a long time, a leotard is typically what you’ll find me at home alone in. Cheeks out. I believe my first one came from XDress years ago.
What XDress Means to Me
For me XDress has been my favorite point for quality lingerie. I’m continually seeing what XDress is doing next and what is new. It is also the first place I send friends when they tell me they have interest in exploring lingerie and panties. When converting from women's to men’s sizing it is often hard or overwhelming to know what size to get, but XDress has standard sizing and that has made it all the easier. Body Aware is also my everyday go to underwear brand so it is nice having the two brands in the same family.
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16 comments
I have been wearing lingerie privately for years and this really resonates. It is not about attention or anything external. It is just a personal comfort that makes me feel balanced.
For me it started as curiosity, but it turned into something more meaningful. It is not even about how it looks, it is about how it feels mentally. Hard to explain unless you have experienced it.
I am straight and dating someone new, and I recently told her that I like wearing panties and occasionally a lace bra at home. I was terrified of her reaction, but she was surprisingly supportive. Your story gave me the reassurance that openness can lead to deeper connections instead of rejection. I hope xdress keeps making satin, I would love to get more pieces. – Kev
This was such a refreshing read. People always assume there is something complicated behind it, but sometimes it is just about comfort and self expression. A soft pair of panties under everyday clothes can completely change my mood.
I never thought I would relate to something like this, but honestly it put words to feelings I have had for years. Wearing lingerie is not about anything extreme for me, it is just a quiet way to feel more like myself.