We all love the XDress site and likely frequently shop here for our undies of choice but I often wonder how it began for you?
Of course when we were younger, our mom’s likely picked out our undies as part of our growing up. We did not have much of a say in that period of our lives as we were way to young to even know what options may be out there and likely did not care as we were being potty trained!
As we grew older, we had a bit more of a say in the underwear of choice and for me that was around 13 when I choose to move away from the tighty whiteys or Y-Fronts (as they were known) and into boxers. Not sure why boxers were the “in” thing back then but they were more comfortable than the tighty whiteys and seemed to be more popular. Anyway, I went with it and enjoyed it for many years. Of course, at this time, I was aware of women’s underwear and all the great designs and fabrics it came in but did not wear it but did try on.
Moving forward, living on my own and dating a very cool woman, I was wearing more daring undies but in men’s cuts. Sexier underwear than boxers or tighty whiteys but still in the male section of the department stores. Bikini cuts and thongs and boxer briefs in mostly cotton that felt sexier than boxers and certainly fit better and accentuated the male attributes better. These were fun and flirty but lacked the fabrics that women’s underwear offered.
Women’s underwear was always an intriguing option and I would wear my girlfriend’s panties from time to time and she was always so turned on by me wearing them that it made it a fun foreplay exercise. The way that satin feels on your privates is an exhilarating feeling! It was by chance that I grew the courage to finally wear panties under my street clothes and the first time was awesome! I remember it like yesterday. A green satin pair that she left behind before heading to work, I put them on and went to work myself and called her when I got there to tell her what I was doing. She was thrilled! I was excited all day from the feeling of satin and the thrill of wearing panties! The little bow on the front of panties is the defining piece of the undergarment!
Anyway, I would then begin to dip my toe into wearing panties more frequently but often kept wearing the traditional men’s underwear day to day. The panty days were “special” days. The women’s styles were great but lacked the support or space needed for the male genitalia which made them a bit uncomfortable. Still felt great and very sexy!
Then I found XDress. A very great offering of male panties in women’s styles and designed for males. Although I still wear men’s boxer briefs from time to time, my daily choice is typically from the XDress offering. The styles and fabrics are amazing and they are super sexy! They make you look great and they come in so many styles and varieties that you can find what you will like. For me, my go to is satin. Very sexy and flirty and flattering. Each pair has the bow that defines the femme style and I just love them!
So, that is my journey and I am interested in yours. When did you start wearing panties? When did you find XDress? Do you have any recommendations for new XDress styles and prints and cuts? I know I’d like to see a spandex or Lycra offering in a bikini or thong. Maybe a “kisses” print on white satin? The crew at XDress does a great job so I am sure they would be open to ideas!
Scott
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Ian, Thanks for sharing. I have been through the same situation as you. Being attracted to women’s lingerie, then being confused. Am I gay? Nope, but why do I feel this draw? Really wanting to, and holding back. No one knew, no one would ever understand. When my marriage ended, I made the decision not to hide anymore, and fighting the fight was exhausting. So, when I got into the relationship that I am in now, I just came out and fessed up to her. If she wanted to be with me, then away we go, if she thought is was weird, or odd, or whatever word that you want to use, then I couldn’t be myself, and away she would go. Thankfully, she said , let me see what this is all about, and it has been amazing. The best news is that I am free to be myself, she appreciates the fact that I do, and our relationship went to a whole new level. So, when you decide to get into another relationship, decide if you want to share your Xdress with her, you never know, she may one day shop for lingerie for you!! Be you!
For me it started at primary school circa 1990 when we were practicing a Christmas play. I was probably about 5 or 6, and I caught a glimpse of a girl’s knickers from behind. In my young mind it was of course nothing sexual, but the panties were white and smooth and looked almost like they were made of fur (I am sure they weren’t, but that was the texture I thought I saw). I loved the look and of course thought how nice they looked compared with the rather ugly and chunky boy pants I had to wear. That image stayed with me but I never got to buy my own panties until I left home and had my own dorm in college. I wore panties from time to time and although I did like the knowledge that I was wearing something forbidden under my jeans, they were not comfortable or containing enough in the crotch area for me to be a 100% panties wearer. Of course, when I discovered XDress a few years ago and found they made panties that fit me, I gradually reverted to wearing panties virtually all the time. My wife doesn’t mind and we often shop together on XD. I probably have a bigger panties collection than she does!
This blog and all of the posts made me ask myself where and how it began for me. Unlike most of the other comments, I don’t really have a memorable or significant moment of realization, instead my compulsion for wearing feminine underwear or lingerie was a gradual process, one of evolution and development. If I think about the underlying causes of my desire to wear lingerie, it started when, as a typical teenage boy, I would enjoy looking at pictures of naked and scantily clad glamour models. From the beginning I definitely found that I was most excited if the models were dressed in sexy lingerie, rather than merely naked. As this continued, I unintentionally began to imagine what it would feel like to be dressed in the same or similar lingerie to the girls in the pictures. This caused me great confusion at the time. I knew that I was attracted to girls but asked myself if my thoughts about wearing women’s underwear or lingerie was an indication that I was gay. This self doubt and uncertainty stayed with me for several years as I continued to balance my enjoyment of looking at pictures of beautiful girls alongside my desire to dress up in their lingerie. I consciously attempted to not have these fantasies but never seemed able to deny them for very long. As I got older and started having girlfriends it became clear to me that I wasn’t gay, but my fantasies about wearing lingerie were as strong as ever, which continued to cause me confusion, as well as a feeling of shame. In some of the relationships I had that became more serious, I asked my girlfriend at the time to try wearing sexy lingerie, and even bought them some as a gift on a few occasions. When they did I definitely found it thrilling, but at the same time kept fantasizing about them to asking me to try wearing the same things. Eventually I got married. I didn’t ever tell my wife about my long held fantasy about wearing women’s underwear because I was still confused and ashamed about it myself, and as I had never actually tried doing it I didn’t think it was deceitful not to tell her. When that marriage ended I had a period of self reflection. I came to a realization that I shouldn’t deny my compulsion to get dressed in lingerie any longer and should just try it for myself, with the justification that we should all try things at least once to see if we like it or not. This brings my story pretty much up to date. I definitely find it exciting to wear lingerie and doing so seems to satisfy my long held fantasies. When or if I get into another relationship, I’d like to be open about everything. I’m not sure that I will, but now that I wear lingerie on a regular basis know that I probably should. I’ve got quite a few xdress pieces and like them all, although anything in satin is best.
My story begins like many others around puberty through the pages of the shopping catalogues that fired the imagination. Putting on my sister’s swimming costume is still one of my favourite memories of those (more) innocent times. Then except for the odd Vicars and Tarts parties nothing. A new partner who senses something within me and challenges me to wear a pair of her panties and we’re off searching the internet for lingerie. Finally I found XDress and now 5 years later I’m approaching 50 pairs of panties of all colours in satin and lace, to say nothing for the bras, garters, stockings, nighties, camisoles and a corset that now share space in my wardrobe. There is nothing like putting on a new item of lingerie and showing it off (but not in public, yet). It’s been a lovely journey and long may it continue. Rikki xxx
It began for me when I tried on my older sister’s panties when I was about 13. By that age I’d already developed an unexplainable curiosity about what it would be like to wear feminine underwear and so one day just felt compelled to try it. I loved the feeling straight away and have not lost it in the 20 or so years since. I love sexy black lingerie mainly, whether it’s panties, garter belts, bodies, basques, stockings, etc., and would like to see more of that kind of thing on xdress, particularly in shimmering satin materials. Thanks for what you do xdress