I truly enjoy contributing to these blogs, appreciate the comments, and I hope that they create thought provoking changes in your mindset. I realize along my journey of reading and writing these blogs it has done many things for me. It has made me realize that I am not alone, there is nothing wrong with me, and that I can build my confidence to share my stories, and hopefully in turn, inspire others to do the same. All we can do is try.
Something recently that has come to mind is what would “she say”? There are many when I have read comments on the blog that they truly enjoy the feeling of wearing lingerie. The enjoyment of the feeling it gives them, it lets them experience the feminine side of themselves, but yet they hide it away from their significant other. Now, understandably so. With my former spouse of many years, if I would have expressed this aspect of myself to her, well, let’s just say that the divorce proceedings would have come a lot faster than they did. I’ll leave it as; I wasn’t allowed the freedom to be myself. Judgment proceedings would have been swift, and the stories around it would have followed. How people love to tell stories. This was the past.
Let’s move into the present, and how I got here. When I met my significant other that I am with now, I made a commitment to myself that I would only be with someone who accepted me, for me, panties and all. (no warts involved). I made a commitment to myself that I would not settle, not hide, and to be with someone who I could share all of me with. Why hide a part of me that found joy, sensuality, and freedom. My way of expressing it is mine, but it truly has no meaning until it’s shared. So, early on when dating, I decided to pull off the band-aid so to speak (place holy shit here), and over a face-time video as I was out of the country, I told her that I enjoyed wearing women’s panties. Then, I waited for the response. Time stalled at this point. To which she responded, well, I would like to see it and experience it for myself and then decide if this was something that I would enjoy and accept. Thus, it was not a no. (place whew here) At that point, I knew that I was dating someone who was opening minded enough to at least consider accepting all of me. So, the journey began. Truth be told, she went to XDress online shortly after and ordered me my first pair of blue Valentina panties. Which we now dub as “the originals”.
Fast forward, she has possibly bought more lingerie on XDress for me than I have. We have gone to brick and mortar stores and bought matching lingerie. Each and every morning when I am home, we pick out each other’s bra and panty sets in the morning and have them at the ready when we get out of the shower. Often, we get ready in the morning together in our bra and panty sets in the bathroom. We have matching nighty and panty sets for bed. The request has come on numerous occasions for me to do a cat walk for her. When the new satin skirts came out from XDress, she was like… so??????? I will say that our intimate times together have gone to a completely new level. If I decide to put on a skirt and clean the house, she decides that cleaning the house is no longer a good idea. You take it from there.
So, to my point. For you are out there, and you know who you are, and if you decided to open up, be vulnerable, and be completely honest with your significant other, what would she say? Do you think that you will be pleasantly surprised by her response? Do you think she would be aghast at the idea? Would you have to explain that you are not gay, you love her, but have a feminine side that needs to be expressed? Would she understand? What would it look like on the other side of one simple question? I know that I have read about the situations where it has worked brilliantly and taken their relationship to a new level. I don’t think that I have read the alternative on these blogs. Would love for you to share your stories. Communities support and learn from each other, why don’t we do that? So, what would she say???
WB
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I was so nervous to tell my wife that I wanted to wear women’s panties but I’m so glad I did. At first she was was hesitant to say she didn’t mind if I did and I knew she might think it was weird however now she loves it! At first it was just panties then I surprised her by wearing thigh high stockings with a garter belt . After a while I added a schoolgirl skirt with a crop top and heels she loved the heels! I asked her If I could buy other outfits to wear and she said I could buy anything I wanted so I purchased a complete sissy maid outfit. One afternoon she came home to a clean home, dinner on the tableI, and me dressed as her personal sissy maid, she absolutely loved it all! Know she’ll message me from work and tell me to have something pretty on when she gets home😍I love wearing panties with a matching bra, also love the sexy nighties.
P.S. All of my outfits are from XDress!
Ever since my sister dressed me up in her clothes when I was very little, I have had a fascination with lingerie and women’s clothes. There were times as I grew older I would go to the store and buy bras and panties for my. I did find some men’s clothing line’s resembling lingerie which my wife really liked me to wear. Finding and ordering from Xdress was an easy segue. The first time time I came out in panties AND a bra she was a little shocked but admitted it turned her on. She doesn’t want me to wear a garter belt and stockings and I can live with that. I enjoy posing for her while she takes pictures and I really enjoyed when I am fully dressed and she slowly takes my bra and panties off!
I am a gay man, and this conversation can be an interesting one when dating/meeting guys. While there is certainly more tolerance for femme things in the queer community, there is also a lot of toxic masculinity too. Men either really love it, or immediately shut you down. It’s also interesting to explain when there is so much openness. No, I’m not trans, I’m not gender-fluid, I’m not doing drag, etc. I’m just a gay man that likes to wear panties under his boy clothes.
It was an entirely different story for me. When we were engaged it was just panties that I was interested in, and I did tell her. We both had questions back then. We didn’t know if it meant I were gay or what. She was great and said it wasn’t her thing, but she could try. She set some ground rules, solid colors, no lace, etc. Over time we both changed. My interests grew, hers … didn’t. Now it’s a huge rough spot in our marriage and she hates my dresses and lingerie and makeup, but she sticks with me anyway, and we love each other. C’est la vie, right?
I don’t know what she would say. My wife is great. She’s loving, open minded and supportive, but I’m not sure how she would receive the news that her husband has been secretively wearing women’s underwear, trying out her dresses and occasionally going for full male to female makeovers. I love wearing lingerie (as often as possibly), I love wearing dresses (when I know I won’t be discovered) and love the experience of getting transformed into my female alter ego (including full makeup, wig, lingerie, heels and dresses). I guess it would be a step too far to suddenly introduce myself to her fully transformed, at least without any prior discussion or milder revelation. I’d love to do that but would be happy for her to just see me wearing some panties. But I don’t know what she would say…