Good day, dear readers, and thank you for your following of my blogs! You are the best! I got to thinking about the whole issue of fetish, and decided to look it up. It is defined as, “a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.” Beyond that, there are fetishes that are ascribed magical powers.
Frankly, that is a beyond me. Getting back to the original definition (I’m not going into the voodoo definition) did you start crossdressing because of sexual arousal? Did you find wearing panties a bit thrilling? Do you still find it so, or has wearing panties become just the usual thing for you? How about bras? I find both panties and bras so thrilling to wear. Honestly, matching bras and panties from Xdress, along with their matching camisoles are just about the best in the world!
Anyway, getting back to the topic, do you find dressing in beautiful lingerie an arousing experience, or is it just a normal part of your day? Xdress has a number of things that may appeal to a fetish dresser, such as dresses, petticoats & tutus (I love the Dance the Polka Petticoat by the way), and skirts (check out the ballet skirt – way too cute!) The dresses especially suggest some form of role playing, and are definitely suited to fetish fun. Of course, there are some folks that go beyond this level to a frontier way beyond – the adult baby fetish. These are the folks that enjoy dressing as a baby, complete with diaper, bonnet, and teething ring or baby rattle, and wet their diapers. What do you think about that?
Getting back to the title of this blog, “Where do you draw the line?”, are you into fetish, or is dressing in lovely lingerie just a normal part of your life? What type of fetish goes from a “Hell, Yass!” to a “Hell, No!” for you? I’d love to hear your comments.
Angie (Guest Blogger)
I’m new to XDress but really enjoying the blogs. This one got me thinking and asking myself if its a fetish or something more? I think if its something you do occasionally then its a fetish. I wear lingerie daily in the privacy of my home and its normal for me to do that. I still get a rush out of slipping into lingerie at the end of the day.
I have been in public (sort of) while wearing a few things. I’ve gone to a steam-bath and walked about in a pretty lace panty with garter and thigh-highs. I have to say it was exhilarating knowing I had the attention of other males. Its a major turn-on.
I have a fantasy where my wife gives me a box for my birthday and I open it and inside is a baby girl dress in satin with little puff sleeves, and ruched top half with little flowers embroidered on it. It comes with big satin baby panties with rows of ruffles on front and back. The skirt of the dress is very short and flowy and covers only the top half of the panties. It includes little white booties and mittens, The mittens are joined by a white ribbon that attaches to a white satin neck choker, so my hands are held up towards my chest so I cannot touch myself. In my fantasy, sometimes the dress is girly pink, but sometimes light boy blue, and I am being punished as a boy and made to wear the dress. My previous fantasy was about moving to a small island of the coast of Scotland that only had an all girls school, the boys school having closed for lack of pupils. The few remaining boys were allowed to join the girl’s school, but had to wear the school uniform of a plaid skirt and white blouse, white panties, white knee high socks and Mary Janes. The boys pleated skirts were much shorter than the girls to identify them. Of course they had to wear gym slips for games and leotards for ballet. Does anyone else have fantasies like this they can share, or am I just weird?
I am sitting here reading all of your comments. I feel underdressed. I am only wearing a white bra, bikini panties, black pantyhose, bodyshaper,and a black blouse. All the best girls. Kate. Xxxx
Just wearing a pair of panties, preferably in satin, starts a rush of adrenaline. I put the XDress Satin/Lace Panties on in the morning and feel a bit aroused all day. When I put them on in the morning, my SO knows that I want to play later that night. A subtle hint at the start of the day that says get ready for “Some Good Luvin’” as Lou Rawls used to say. The day is full of little reminders: Flirty texts, a few selfies, a few pics from the bathroom stall in my panties or her in hers. Getting home first is the key so you can set the mood. Light a few candles, get out of your clothes an into more lingerie. A few glasses of wine placed near the bed and the lights dimmed while I lay on the bed waiting for my SO to get home. She does the same thing if she beats me home. And we let the playtime begin……
I FORGOT TO MENTION THAT I AM SINGLE AND I AM BI BUT PREFER WOMEN. I ONCE WENT TO A LESBIAN BAR WITH ONE OF MY SISTERS AND I DRESSED LIKE A LADY IN FRILLY WOMEN’S CLOTHES. MY SISTER ORDERED 2 PINK LADIES. WE TALKED AND SAID JOKES HAD A GOOD TIME.
I LOVE DRESSING LIKE A WOMAN. I LOVE ALMOST SHEER TOPS AND MINI SKIRTS AND TUTUS. SOME TIMES I DO WEAR DRESSES THAT ARE NOT A MINI BUT NOT OFTEN. I WEAR DRESSES ALMOST EVERYDAY EVEN WHEN I GO TO PLACES LIKE WALMART OR THE MALL. SOMETIMES I WEAR HIGH HEELS TOO. THEY WERE A BIT HARD TO WALK AT FIRST BUT OK ONCE YOU FIGURE HOW. I SELDOM WEAR MEN’S CLOTHES. I AM LUCKY I DON’T HAVE SHAVE MY LEGS CAUSE THEY ARE HAIRLESS. IF THERE WAS HAIR ON THEM THEN I WOULD SHAVE THEM, I OFTEN WEAR PINK OR MAUVE AND
I WEAR A WAIST CINCHER TOO. I WILL NEVER GO OUT NAKED.
I love cross dressing mostly in panties and gowns. My wife barely accepts this so I can get away with it sometimes. Lucky those who are really fully accepted.
Lots of questions that you asked. :-D
" … did you start crossdressing because of sexual arousal?" Yes.
“Did you find wearing panties a bit thrilling?” Yes!
“Do you still find it so, or has wearing panties become just the usual thing for you?” Yes, I do. It has become usual, but I do find it thrilling.
“How about bras?” I love wearing bras, too.
“Anyway, getting back to the topic, do you find dressing in beautiful lingerie an arousing experience, or is it just a normal part of your day?” I wish it were a normal part of my day, and even when it has been more normal, it’s still very exciting.
“… folks that enjoy dressing as a baby, complete with diaper, bonnet, and teething ring or baby rattle, and wet their diapers. What do you think about that?” If I’m completely honest, I let a girl online talk me into wearing a diaper many years ago, and sometimes I really do love it. I’m not a complete AB (more of a DL), but I have had some cute diaper covers, and still have one, and even a few pacifiers and bottles. :-D
“Where do you draw the line?” I’m not quite sure yet, but I think I’m close to it. I’ve surprised myself though and let cute girls talk me into things I wouldn’t have thought I would have done (like go to Victoria’s Secret to try things on .. and show it to the sales girl. Or even come out of my dressing room into common areas, in just my lingerie.) :-o
" … are you into fetish, or is dressing in lovely lingerie just a normal part of your life?" Both, sort of. That is, I wish it were everyday.
“What type of fetish goes from a ‘Hell, Yass!’ to a ‘Hell, No!’ for you?” I know I won’t go as far as a feces or golden showers, or lots of other things, but I do enjoy a few fetishes. ;-)
Anna, Dave, and Stevie,
Thanks so much for your replies. Dave, you are so fortunate to have a lady such as yours. Don’t forget to celebrate her femininity as well! Anna (by the way I love your femme name). I feel your pain! Given that I wear a size 15 in women’s shoes, there isn’t a shoe store in the world that has my size. I have to go online to find shoes (love those Mary Jane’s !) and even then it is a throw of the dice as to whether or not they will fit. Stevie, thanks for being one of my constant readers. I’m working on another topic. Stay tuned!
love all the comments wish I could try on women’s shoes in public without all the disapproving looks. love the feel of nylons panties bra and beautiful heels
My wife approves and even purchases lingerie for me
I forgot to say
Cant wait for the next topic
There are some older blogs that should be reposted i think they d make great conversation
Thank you Angie
And the other bloggers
It refreshing and freeing to be yourself!
Stevie and Phoenix, Thank so much for your posts. Phoenix, you are so blessed with a wife that fully engages with you and your love of nice lingerie. I’ve heard some horror stories on line of guys like us who don’t have supportive wives, and suffer greatly because of it. We are who we are, and to have a spouse that supports that is an incredible gift. Be sure to love up on that lady of yours, and don’t forget jewelry!
Stevie, I am so glad you feel that you have found a home at XD and now understand that you are far from alone in embracing your feminine self. Once you have discovered and accepted your inner woman, there is no way you can go back to the binary male. Sweetie, welcome to the sorority, and enjoy!
This is a great place to get support and realize there is nothing wrong with you that there are other people like you
That there are women who accept men wearing lingerie
some people like hats some boxers briefs goatees tight jeans boot cuts straight t shirts only etc
We like lingerie panties bras stockings
They make us feel something
For some it’s feminine
For some its electricity
Some its naughty
For some the material just feels better
In any event i love this blog the lingerie and the interaction we have voicing our support and our opinions
I have found that it a mix of fetish and norm in my life. I am so greatful to have a supporting/adventurous wife. I absolutely love wearing panties, bras, and other lingerie. I am slowly working up to other clothing. We look at panties and lingerie almost everywhere. What started as a my desire for better quality fabric has quickly turned into a way of life. I happen to stumble on XD one night in a very random search of the internet and have been a so impressed with the options and styles. For a long time I kept these thoughts to myself. It wasn’t until I was telling my wife how bored I was with men boxer/boxer briefs and her telling me to buy a pair of panties to try on. From then the flood gates have been opened and I am happy beyond words. I read these blog post and I am comforted by the post and the comments. Thank you all for being exactly who/what I needed.
Stevie, Dave, and Aaron,
Thank you so much for your replies. Aaron, I so hear you about the rush that it is to wear panties under your power suit at work. Add a bra from Xdress, and it will make your day! So glad to hear that your wife is onboard with you. My wife being onboard has so enriched my life and our marriage. I can’t imagine a day without panties and matching bra! Stevie, you know what I’m talking about, as you are on the same page and Aaron and me. So cool to be in a meeting and think, “If you only knew.” Do you find it calming to dress en femme under all the macho stuff you have to deal with? I sure have.
Dave, I am so glad you have found an accepting community here at Xdress. I have met truly wonderful people here, as I know you will as well. We are all sisters under the skin, and it is so freeing to express who we are without societal condemnation. Dear sister, we are who we are, and you are so welcome to this sorority! (That and the beautiful lingerie.)
Angie, Stevie, thank you for your appreciation. I type from the heart and am honored to be a part of such a wonderfully embracing community – even if only thru comments and anonymously shared interests/behaviors. Looking forward to another wonderful blog post so I can stretch my mental boundaries. Fetishes, the concept of “gender”, expected social behaviors… Who would have thought I could find wonderful clothes, kind people, and mentally enlightening conversation all in the same place.
I too love the feeling of knowing i m wearing something sexy under my clothes
It makes my day go better
Xdress also helped me expand my sexy undie wardrobe
The bra pantie sets are my fave
Its so cool your wife is on board
I too love knowing i have on my thingz and no one inthe office knows
We can be sexy too
Love your blog and all the people sharing their fetishes!
I came across Body Aware and Xdress about 10 years ago and never looked back. I was hunting for some sexier underwear than what the department stores sell and hit the jackpot! Thongs, satin, lace, bras, so much to choose from. So hard to pick a favourite. It feels badass walking the office all day wearing a pink satin thong or black lacey panties under my clothes!
My wife is on board too and every Christmas and birthday comes with more items from BA or XD. Even trips to the mall are sexy now. When we walk by Victoria Secret she suggests I pick out something for her and she will find something for me.
Recently I opened up to her about my fetishes of being dominated and she embraced it. I wish I would have brought it up to her years ago! She puts on her tall black boots and a black corset and dresses me appropriately, stockings, bra, panties, and of course a collar with handcuffs. There is nothing more erotic than being being spanked, dragged around the living room and called names, among other things that are probably not appropriate to post here haha!
Thank you all for your wonderful replies on this blog. What a diverse group we are! If anything, I think your posts confirm to all of us that we are not alone with our love of beautiful lingerie. Dave, I especially appreciated your very thoughtful post, and especially your statement, “For me there’s both the thrill of the taboo as well as the sensation of tension and fabrics that serve to contrast my own masculinity and awaken my inner gender dialogue.” Your comment about the “inner gender dialogue” so well captures what the whole crossdressing experience is about for me. Thank you for your insightful comments.
I simply live wearing panties. I wear them 3 or 4 days a week, however, my wife is not very supportive. I kind of have to do it on the sly. So I guess it is a fetish however if I could wear them every day I would. I would also wear dresses, skirts, lingerie, jerks, and oh how I love wearing as cute one piece swimsuit
I wear panties every day! The feel of them is so much more comfortable than male underwear. It’s like the secret women keep from men, and sissies like me when it comes to getting pedicures…you have to wear panties and get a pedi to know life’s best!
I have worn panties for years when I get home from work or out on weekends. My wife in the past few years has become accepting and helps me shop for women’s clothing or on the Xdress website. I have quite a few pairs of heels, flats, and Lularoe dresses, leggings and shirts. I wouldn’t classify it as a fetish for me but more of a relaxation from everyday stresses. I love pretty things! Oh and she has also let me experiment with make up as well!! 😍