I am very interested to see how many men have gone to a brick-and-mortar store to shop for lingerie for themselves?
We know from surveys that more men than you perhaps would expect, love to wear lingerie, especially that designed just for men, as from Xdress. However, Xdress Lingerie does not currently have any brick and mortar stores, so if you want to peruse and feel the quality of lingerie in a store you have to venture out.
Have you thought of going, and then talked yourself out of it? Have you ever gone to the lingerie store, looked around, and were too embarrassed to actually buy something for yourself? How about, making the purchase, then asking for a gift receipt, or asked for it to be wrapped making it look like it was a gift for someone else. If you have gone shopping for yourself, have you had a cautious eye to see if people are watching? Have you made a rushed decision so that you could get out of there faster without being “discovered”, only to find out that you bought the wrong size, or found out that the “fit” didn’t really fit, then felt disappointed with the purchase? Or the quick buy, when you discover that the fabric you thought looked so nice in the store, doesn’t feel so nice when adorned, and now you are at the office, which will make for a very long day. I wonder if there was a bead of sweat trickling from your forehead when you got to the cashier nervously making your purchase? Did you go to the store at Valentine’s or Christmas, because then, clearly that purchase wasn’t for you. What if someone at the office, or a neighbor saw you? What would you say then? Any of these situations sound familiar?
My girlfriend and I went out this summer to buy matching lingerie; matching satin lounge pants, nighties, and satin robe to go over top. Now, if you looked at the sizing, it was obvious who’s was who’s. The woman behind the counter said, oh, matching outfits, and gave me a look, when my girlfriend jumped in saying “yes, Brenda is going to love it”. I did wonder if I would have jumped in and said, yes, we are going to enjoy them very much. Secretly, I think she had figured it out. We went out shopping today, and I was wanting to get a longer flowy skirt (I love skirts), and a top to go with. If asked, I was going to tell the salesperson that we were having a themed dinner party, and that I needed to get clothes for the event. But no salesperson helped us, so, alas, I was not able to use my little trick. I’ll keep that one in my back pocket. Use it if you like. I must admit that when I have shopped for lingerie for myself, my girlfriend has been with me. Now, I got to take my time to pick out what I wanted. It wasn’t always that way, but at least I always had an out.
Here's the thing. I think that it would be fair to say that most men would feel nervous or scared purchasing lingerie for themselves in a brick-and-mortar store. And yet again, I wonder how many don’t go buy what they truly want. You know that you want it, you know it would be a bit of a thrill, yet you stop yourself from getting what you want.
Now, if you are reading this blog, you obviously found this site. I admit that finding the XDress website was a godsend. First, reading these blogs allowed me to not feel so alone in my journey, second I could purchase sexy lingerie from my couch, third, I found lingerie that actually fit properly (for obvious reasons), and forth, my lingerie arrived in plain packaging.
What is also great about the XDress site is also the selection of lingerie that is available, plus the consistent new items with varying colors and styles. I am personally very excited about the new satin line, having a matching satin bra and panty set, and then having a satin skirt to complete the outfit. That makes coming home and dress up something to really look forward to. Kudos to the XDress team for doing such a great job to give us men, and their significant others, the opportunity to fulfill our desires to wear pretty and luxurious lingerie. You give us the time to pick what we want, get the right size, experiment with things that you not have otherwise purchased, such as bras or garters, with zero stress.
What will you buy as an undercover lingerie buyer? As always, I appreciate your thoughts.
– WB
26 comments
XDresser, 3 years now. Late bloomer. I LOVE going to the stores and buying my own things. I had all those feelings at first. Walked out many times empty handed, rushed a bad purchase, looked around to see who was “looking”. I try to shop at stores where I’m not likely to be recognized but I’ve also just had bold moments where I would dare anyone to say something. Now, if I could just get the courage to try something ON at the store. Everything I’ve bought from XDress, btw is among my favs! Wonderful clothes. The wig I bought is my fav, too! I love to see more frilly robes in the inventory. TY for the blog. Great topic.
I’m a straight guy, now 41 who’s enjoyed wearing panties since being a teenager. I used to shoplift them from clothing stores I worked at. I also have a deep kink for BDSM and being dominated by women. I eventually got old enough and developed the courage and incorporated my kink into dominatrix sessions. To eventually work up the courage to buy panties and bras in Victoria’s Secret, I’d pay more money to have a girl with me as an escort. This developed into wearing bra and panty sets and then lingerie sets with garters. I’ve full blown cross dressed in a few sessions but I like wearing only lingerie or bra/panty sets more. It’s easier than ever these days to be able to discreetly buy this stuff online. Unfortunately I’m terrified of being kink shamed by girlfriends and so I’ve kept it a secret in personal relationships. I’ve even gone so far as to open a P.O. Box for my deliveries in case packaging wasn’t discreet. I wear boxers as well most of the time in public but enjoy wearing panties under my clothes going out on occasion. I love all kinds; Satin, lace, cotton, briefs, thongs, you name it. I prefer pink, black, white and red. In fact cotton white briefs were originally my go-to fetish and this has expanded into a full blown collection. But like I said, unfortunately most women do not seem to like this, which is frustrating.
I have gone to some of the stores and twice I just picked out what I wanted and it took me a half hour to finally pat for it and leave as I walked out the girl who the cashier came out and handed me A card and she told me to call her we got married six months later
Great blog!
I’m sure we’ve all been there at some point-I can certainly relate to just about point made!
The worst thing was actually biting the bullet, going in, buying, then discovering that the bra or panties which looked so inviting either didn’t fit or were so uncomfortable….
Not having an SO does put you on the spot, but since I discovered breast forms I’ve found it much easier-well easier anyway! I try to wear them as often as possible, and always if shopping for lingerie-somehow it seems easier to talk more openly to the sales teams about lingerie for yourself-especially bras, when it’s obvious you’re wearing forms. And there haven’t really been any awkward moments-everyone has been helpful, sympathetic, and it’s just so lovely to have an open conversation-that makes the whole visit worthwhile.
Best wishes to all
Georgina
I have felt all those same feelings when going to a brick and mortar store. I have been Xdresing for over 3 years now and at my age I’m (75) not concerned with what others think.
I love shopping on XDress and do love the satin items they have come out with.