Hello Hannah, I'm currently going through a Wedding gown fantasy, I've loads of Wedding gown social pages followed and watch all their videos of the gowns they have. I comment on most of their videos with which gowns I'd love wear. I once visited a wedding gown shop (which ended being a disaster(!!)) but not en femme (which was the main problem) but would love to have a make over (via an agency) and then visit a wedding gown boutique and spend a few hours trying on wonderful gowns. Is this a usual desire (for want a proper word) for a cross dresser? Haven't been to a dressing agency for a long while (life commitments etc have stopped me being able to too) has this maybe lack of being able indulge in my fem side got anything to this Wedding fantasy stage in my life? Thank you Nikki
YES. Well, at least it is for me, lol. It's actually my favorite thing to daydream about.
I would absolutely love to have a makeover and spend a few hours trying on wedding gowns with a few friends. The thought of being in a small boutique with hundreds of amazing gowns just makes my heart swoon. Having someone there to offer options that would make me feel like a princess sounds amazing. Of course, it wouldn't end there. After I find my perfect gown, a girl has to have perfect heels. So it's off to shop for stilettos.
Oh, and white opera length gloves.
And a bride needs bridal lingerie, right? I am thinking that I need a beautiful white corset and beige stockings.
It's likely the dress will need alterations but that doesn't bother me at all. Going to a seamstress and making adjustments for my dream gown to fit me *just right* would be a lovely way to spend an afternoon.
But why should I have all the fun? A bride needs bridesmaids, right? How fun would it be to go to brunch with your besties before helping them try on and choose bridesmaid dresses?
My daydream drifts into a bridal photoshoot at the perfect location. Annnnd of course I also need a photoshoot for my bridal lingerie, right?
And then what? Well, obviously the ceremony, right? The doors open and all eyes on me and my beautiful gown as I strut up the aisle.
Of course, I need no groom, lol. This daydream is all about ME, right?? lol
Just typing all of this out gives me goosebumps and I would love to make this happen. I would love you to make this happen.
I think a giant part of this daydream is so many people helping me look as amazing and as beautiful as I have always wanted. To have all eyes on me sounds egotistical but in a way it's a show of support. Like, I know I am not a cisgender girl, but for people to see me as the gorgeous girl in my daydreams sounds so affirming, so loving, so supportive.
Love, Hannah
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I am sure most crossdressers have this kind of day dream/ fantasy. I would view this as the pinnacle of femininity. The long white flowing satin/taffeta dress, shoe and lingerie. The application of make up full attention you get. I know I have, and I have and acted on it. I am lucky as I do have a wife who supports and accepts my fem side. One of her only boundaries as I could not use her wedding dress. Which is more than fair, I do own a few wedding dresses, mostly picked up online and not greatly expensive. It was a few hours to make everything work, and photo shoot. Your heart skips a beat looking at yourself in the mirror. The glamorous woman standing looking back at you. Sara
Wow thank you so much for post my question Hannah…. you’ve made my weekend publishing it!! Believe your Bridal fantasy sounds exactly like how I’d imagine my own day dreams and would love to one fulfill this dream of mine!! Thank you again Nikki
Yes. 100% yes.
I’ve definitely imagined the whole experience—makeover, boutique visit, slipping into gowns that actually fit and flatter. The idea of having someone help zip me up, adjust the veil, pose me for a full-on bridal photoshoot? Ugh, total dream.
And honestly, it’s not even about a wedding. It’s about the chance to feel beautiful. Feminine. Wanted. Like I’m finally being seen the way I’ve always pictured myself.
You’re not weird for wanting that. If anything, I think a lot of us reach for fantasies like this when we haven’t had space to explore our femme side in a while. It builds up—and it spills over into something tender and extravagant.
You’re definitely not alone.
What a spectacular daydream! For those of us who love the clothes, the lingerie, the gowns, the hose, the shoes. Preparing for the actual event requires detailed rehearsal and alterations to achieve those moments of perfection which get photographed by a person who knows how t use the camera to capture those special seconds when you finally look just perfect lol Pippin.
Great topic and certainly appropriate for our community. I have been cross dressing for years—mainly around the house on days off—my look being the executive career women and evening dresses. I have long had a fantasy to put on a wedding gown but have not been able to find a boutique that caters to people like us! I did have a boyfriend at one time that had a head piece and veil and we both tried it on with just a white dress. Ironically, I love weddings and have actually subscribed to bridal magazines in the past. In the future when my boyfriend and I decide to take the “plunge” we might wear wedding gowns instead of boring tuxes!! Interested in hearing more thoughts on this topic!