I'm probably less experienced than most people here. I've only recently started wearing lingerie and it isn't something I've ever had the inclination to try before. My introduction to trying it started with a request from my girlfriend, who I've been with for about 6 months. She asked me if I would wear panties and a bra for her, which I initially thought was odd, but agreed to. The unexpected thing for me was that I actually really enjoyed doing it, and since then I have started to wear lingerie more and more often. Do you think it's addictive? Do you think that it was possibly laying dormant in me all along? And do you think it will develop beyond wearing lingerie and into something more? This is all relatively new to me. I know I like wearing lingerie but really haven't figured out why it feels so good or to what extent my new found interest might develop. Thank you, J
I kinda think that associating addiction with lingerie is a little... well, wrong. Typically addiction is a BAD thing, whether it's being addicted to a drug, nicotine, pornography, alcohol, gambling, or drinking.
I kinda think that associating addiction with lingerie is a little... well, wrong. Typically addiction is a BAD thing, whether it's being addicted to a drug, nicotine, pornography, alcohol, gambling, or drinking.
Lingerie is WONDERFUL. Choosing my panties each morning is always a highlight of my day and falling asleep in a nightgown is a dream. How can this be bad? There's nothing inherently wrong with "a man wearing lingerie", but problems can still manifest. When we embrace our love of pretty bras and panties we tend to want MORE pretty bras and panties. This adoration can lead to a wardrobe bursting with pretty bars and panties... but all of a sudden we've spent money on pretty bras and panties that we needed for rent. This is the Pink Fog. Being so in love with lingerie and dresses and high heels that we become reckless with our spending. The problem isn't lingerie itself, it's being irresponsible with your money. But this can happen with anything we are into whether it's spending your entire paycheck on lingerie or, um, baseball cards or whatever.
I feel you are overthinking all of this and you should enjoy the journey. Perhaps this was indeed lying dormant and these experiences awoke this side of you. Perhaps not. I don't think it matters, lol. It's impossible to know if this will manifest into something more. When it comes to crossdressing and wearing "girl clothes" we tend to start small (such as panties) and then gauge how we feel about wearing panties. If we like it (and of course we do) then we might be curious about wearing a bra. If we like THAT, then we may be drawn to other beautiful clothes. It's possible we get to the point where we are curious about a skirt or makeup... but we try a skirt or lipstick and it doesn't feel right. If it doesn't, then perhaps this side of you is indeed only about lingerie.
As for why you like this, does it matter? We like what we like. Again, it's common to overthink all of this, especially the WHY. There's really no WHY. There doesn't need to be.
Like all things in life, you won't know what you like until you try it for yourself.
Love, Hannah
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I always said i m a crossdresser until reflection made me say crossdressing is something i like i do amongst other things i like and do. Nothing wrong with wearing lingerie
You are lucky ur partnes is on board
Roll with it! Enjoy exploration and communicate about it with her
Get ur lingerie on
I did
Stevie
Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions Hannah. You’re probably right about me over thinking things, but I guess that I’m trying to come to terms with the idea that I might actually be a crossdresser. Thanks as well to those who have commented, this does seem to be supportive place to discuss the subject. I am going to take all the advice and try not to rationalise my new found interest in wearing women’s underwear. It definitely feels good, so I’m trying just to focus on that. It started from my girlfriend’s request for me to try on her panties and bra, and she thinks it’s all just a bit of fun that we can enjoy together. That’s probably a great position for me because it’s clear from these blogs that many men struggle to find an accepting partner, or to be able to tell the one they’ve got. Since asking my question I’ve bought some more things of my own, from xdress and elsewhere, and have tried different types of panties and other lingerie. It’s all new, it’s all quite exciting and it’s something I’m trying to embrace without thinking about where it might lead or what it all means. Thank you, J
Hannah is 100 % right. Lingerie IS wonderful and you should relax and enjoy the ride. It can be very enjoyable. The why isn’t really relevant.
Don’t be afraid to experiment, it can be very rewarding. My experience is similar to what Hannah outlines, starting with a love of panties, deciding to try a bra, loving it and progressing to stockings and other types of lingerie. I haven’t gone as far as skirts or makeup, but quite happy with the results so far.
It does, at times require a modicum of self-discipline when the dreaded “pink fog” sets in, but it does fill a need (or desire) that is very fulfilling. Enjoy it!
Happy you finally tried lingerie! Many on the site struggle to find an accepting partner for this fetish! I don’t think you have an addiction, more likely a crush, as you have discovered a new thing that makes you happy! Embrace it, wear lingerie when you want! Now that you have a supportive SO you can stay in the lane or try other things that you may find yourself want to try. It is all okay! Enjoy! And try satin! THE BEST!
I totally agree. What does it matter. It feels gret and is so comfy. zjust enjoy!!!!