I am a man who loves cross dressing and loves looking like a very beautiful full figure plus size woman and when I dress as a very beautiful full figure plus size woman I look and feel like a woman now I don't want to become a woman but I love dressing up as a very beautiful full figure plus size woman is this wrong?
Thank you so much for the question! No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with crossdressing.
Crossdressing itself brings joy. But it also can bring confusion, tension, anxiety, and guilt. We are conditioned to think that gender identity and gender presentation is binary and that everything, whether it is a color or a job or a hobby or a clothing item, is for a girl OR for a boy. Whenever we, for lack of a better term, stray out of our lane, we are reminded that we are not supposed to do that, and most of the time it is ourselves who are telling us that.
It is not immoral to wear what you want. It is not unethical to wear what you want.
So no, by dressing and presenting in a way that makes you happy, you are doing nothing wrong.
I feel I can relate to you. I love heels and makeup and dresses and my wig and I love presenting as feminine, but I have no desire to transition. I identify in a few different ways, but I suppose the best label (although I hate that word) for me is that I am bi-gender. Sometimes I present as HE and sometimes I am SHE. I feel no need to pick one gender to present as, or identify as, for the rest of my life.
Yesterday I wore jeans and a shirt and Doc Martens as I worked and ran errands. I was presenting as what many of us refer to as "boy mode (although I was wearing pink panties from XDress under all of that)". As I type this, I am wearing another very cute pair of panties from XDress, a t-shirt, and my favorite black leggings, two items that are usually thought of as "girl clothes". Tomorrow I have a makeover and then I will meet a friend for coffee and then see a play, all dressed up in stilettos and a cute black dress. I will be in "girl mode".
Three very different looks but I was always ME.
You do not need to make any permanent changes if you don't feel that it's the right decision. Transitioning is not right for me, but it is right for so many of us.
Love, Hannah
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I’m a cross dresser not as beautiful as the picture, but I do like ladies clothes knickers bras, and other ladies clothes. I also wear coloured nails and lipstick.
You do whatever makes you feel feminine and beautiful. Others can’t understand us and that’s ok. If it makes you feel good/happy who is anyone to stop you! ❤️
I have been reading your blog from the first one. I know that all the questions you have responded to are questions I have asked myself, including today’s.
I am a 76 year old who loves to cross dress and love how it makes me feel. I have not strayed from my home as I have not ready for that but know it is going to happen at some point. Thank you for this blog it really helps answer my questions.
I don’t have a question, I have been a crossdresser for many years and love it a lot! I just wanted to say, Hanna, you have it going on whatever mode you choose to be in, and i think that is just great! Thanks for being you and for being here.
Perfect advice! I think early in my life when I was confused about why I liked dressing in clothes of the opposite sex I thought I have to transition???? I dont want to transition. I like wearing different styles! I ferl comfortable in a bra and panties, painting my nails, heels.
After much research and introspection I learned that wearing untraditional styles doesn’t mean I gay bi or need to transition.
So best advice BE YOU! But be appropriately dressed for various situations
Stevie