Nothing makes me happier when I have the chance to underdress in my favorite or newest set. But it comes less often now, and it takes a toll on my soul. Unsure as to how to even broach the subject as time has gone on. How do I explain that I wear vintage(and exquisite) La Perla from nearly 30 years ago along with my massive collection of XDress, VS and others.- Underdressed for the occasion
I don't think it's possible and even important to explain this side of us. It's who we are. No one ever explains why they are right-handed or why they have red hair or blue eyes or why they are tall. Our physical features and what we wear are just who we are. We were, well, born this way.
And who are you wanting to explain this to? I know a lot of people and I interact with a lot of people each day, but no one needs to know and no one (other than my wife) does know about what I am wearing under my shirt and pants. People do not need to know, or want to know, about the underwear someone is wearing. Whether you are wearing cute pink panties or ugly boxer shorts, this is your business. This is personal and private and intimate. Yes, someone else might find it a little odd that if I told them I am wearing a sexy matching cami and thong under my suit, but they also would find it odd if I shared with them any information about the underwear, no matter what kind of underwear, I put on that day.
Lingerie is often referred to as intimate clothing. Which is perfect. Intimacy is private, personal, and not something that needs to be, or should be, shared with everyone. What you do in your bedroom (or anywhere) is between you and your partner. It is, and should remain intimate. Your lingerie or anything you wear that is not meant to be seen by the majority of people, should also remain intimate.
Clearly wearing lingerie makes you happy. I can relate! If it makes you happy, lean into it. It sounds like you have accepted this side of you, you've acknowledged that this part of you makes you happy... I think you should embrace it. I love wearing lingerie, I love that it makes me happy. I love getting a new order of panties from Xdress. I can't explain why it makes me happy but I don't care, lol. I don't need to dissect why anything, whether it's lingerie or a favorite book , makes me happy.
Love,
Hannah
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8 comments
I agree!
I so agree with you about what we wear under our every day. It isn’t any bodies business but my own or significant other. I appreciate your blog for standing up to this side of many who wear lingerie on a daily basis.
I understand one hundred percent. There have been a number of times in life that it became apparent to someone that I was wearing panties, stockings or something else intimate. One or two of those interactions didn’t have pleasant results but the others weren’t terribly negative. wearing panties 7 days a week it’s bound to happen, my choice of panties are satin full back panties that have a little stretch to them so on occasion I have had panty peak from the rear bending or squatting. Most people would never say a thing, they may snicker or point it out to their partner but it goes without me even knowing about it. A dozen times at least over the years I have had women discreetly say to me “Very cute panties.” The first couple times I was shocked and looked around to see who else was listening or if anyone else noticed, putting me on high alert now days though I just smile and say thank you. The first time I went to the doctor’s office for a med check without expecting to get undressed I also had a very nice bra on as well. When the doctor (female) told me she was going to step out so I could get undressed and put the gown on because she wanted to also do a. skin check for melanoma (I’ve had past issues) I freaked for a second but then just said screw it. I took the bra off and hid it in my pocket but left my panties on; I was wearing hot pink satin Princess Juliet style panties with black lace on the front so they were more than obvious. The doctor came back in and I said I needed to explain something to her before she started that I hadn’t planned on getting undressed this morning and this was a little embarrassing but I didn’t have a clean underwear so I just through on a pair of my wife’s panties and that I was really sorry about this. She shrugged and said I would be amazed at how many men wear women’s underwear all the time just because they fit better and dissipate sweat faster. I said “Oh, I didn’t realize that”. She proceeded with the exam and when she got saw the front of the panties she commented that these were some very nice panties though and that “My wife” had very nice choice in intimates. From that point forward I never worried about wearing panties to the doctors, I haven’t gone down the rabbit hole of wearing a bra yet with the doctor. As I have aged though I have learned to care less about who knows what I am wearing under my clothing. When I wear stockings it can sometimes be noticed if my pants creep up the back of my shoe though or if my pants ride up too much when I sit down, I no longer care though.