By José Rosa
When did you first start wearing panties or lingerie and what motivated you to try it?
I started wearing lingerie during the pandemic. I wanted to give my Instagram feed a different vibe, and it began as a bit of a game, something playful and a little naughty. Once I bought a couple of pieces, I got hooked. I remember that what inspired me was the music video for “What’s Your Pleasure?” by Jessie Ware. Seeing that model wearing “feminine” clothing and lingerie struck me as incredibly sexy.
How has your lingerie journey changed over time and how often do you wear it now?
At first I only wore it for photography, as something occasional. Later I started using it as a bit of a fetish with some guys I was seeing… and since I began collaborating with brands like XDress. I’ve started wearing it daily, it’s so comfortable! I’ve normalized it so much that sometimes I even forget I’m wearing it, and when I change in the gym locker room I get some suggestive looks.
What are your favorite lingerie styles and fabrics and why do they feel right for you?
I love anything in pastel colors and fabrics like satin. Pink, purple… bows, silk, lace… I think it contrasts beautifully with my muscular build and body hair. It creates such an aesthetic look, I absolutely love it.
Do you wear lingerie every day or save it for certain moments and how do you decide?
As I mentioned, I’ve incorporated it into my daily life. That said, stockings or more special pieces with lace or satin (my favorites) are usually for special moments… there’s a bit of a thrill and fetish to it. I feel very sexy wearing them.
How open are you about wearing lingerie and who in your life knows about it?
Completely open. I post a lot of content with these kinds of pieces on Instagram and I love showing them off; I don’t hide it. Even my mom follows me on Instagram, hahaha. I think it’s time to normalize that men wear lingerie and that there’s lingerie made specifically for us…
How has wearing lingerie helped you connect with your feminine or softer side?
A lot — I actually feel very masculine wearing it. I think being a man or having a muscular, hairy body shouldn’t limit you to just briefs or the typical jockstrap (that was all we were “allowed” before). In my case… good lingerie, combined with a masculine attitude and a masculine body, feels like the sexiest thing in the world… we need to break stereotypes.
What made you move away from traditional mens underwear and try something different?
The idea of not having to wear what society dictates, of breaking the rules, motivated me. I love wearing traditional briefs, but I also love lingerie. I don’t think you should stick to just one thing — ideally, you can switch it up, play around… every day you wake up differently and want to look different. On my sexy days, I definitely don’t want to wear a classic white brief, hahaha.
What advice would you give to a guy who is curious about starting to wear panties or lingerie?
They should try it — they’ll end up hooked. And above all, they should start with brands like this one, Shop X Dress. It’s super important that the lingerie is made for us, designed for our genitals… they need to be bold. There are many brands that are really for women, and it’s not the same. But once you give it a go, it’s addictive… nothing else feels the same.
How has wearing lingerie impacted your confidence or self expression?
A lot. It has brought me the sexy side I was missing. I love taking on the dominant role and surprising people… usually, it’s thought that the bottom is the one who wears lingerie and the top wears briefs… I flip that idea, and I love breaking that stereotype and showing that a confident top can also rock lingerie and be 100% themselves.
What does XDress mean to you and how has it supported your lingerie journey?
A lot. I’m forever grateful because thanks to them I’ve discovered real men’s lingerie and many unique pieces for men — unique colors and really special designs. Plus, whenever I’ve worn their pieces in private, it’s always been a total hit and incredibly sexy.
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As a total gym guy who basically lives in compression shorts and tanks, I never expected to connect with a story like this, but confidence is confidence. Whether it comes from building your physique or wearing something that makes you feel amazing, it all comes down to owning who you are. Respect to Jose for sharing that. I started wearing panties daily this year. No going back. Love feeling fem while 90% of the time I am masc.
As a single dad raising two kids, I spent years putting everyone else first and ignoring parts of myself. Reading Jose’s journey really hit home because it reminded me that self expression matters too. Finding comfort and confidence in what we wear is such a personal thing, and it is nice to know others understand that journey. As a single dad, I have to be dad and mom at the same time. Lately I have been more mom than anything.
Loved reading this and it felt very relatable. I wear panties daily now and it has become one of those little things that makes a big difference in how I feel. It helps me embrace my feminine side in a way that feels natural and comfortable. Honestly it just makes me happy. I spent a long time feeling like I had to hide it, so reading stories like this is really encouraging. XDress has been one of the few places where I feel understood as a customer. The panties are amazing and I really appreciate the styles you offer. I just wish there were more of them and more bras too. I know I would definitely keep ordering
Very good blog! Love that you found XDress during COVID and stayed with it! I find XDress to be super sexy and try to wear it as often as possible. Like you, I also wear briefs when the occasion mandates it but enjoy “manties” much more! Especially satin! And the little bow is just so damn cute! I first tried my girlfriend’s green satin panties she left behind at my apartment one day and was immediately hooked! Satin felt amazing! I began exploring deeper since then and love the XDress lineup!