Gratitude makes you feel happier, more optimistic, more empathetic, even improves the health of your heart and the quality of your sleep – or so a quick google search tells me. It’s something that’s currently talked about a lot – you may have participated in some form of “gratitude journal” and noticed that, yes you do feel better as a result of noticing the things in your life that light you up, make you feel happy.
And what does this have to do with XDress and lacy panties? Well, the people who choose this underwear, and their partners are often immensely grateful for this lingerie even existing in the world, and some of that gratitude is expressed on the blog, or in private messages to Kristina and David the founders of this wonderful family business.
I love to read the comments on the XDress blog; they always bring a smile to my face, and make me feel inexplicably happier. That’s the gratitude! And it comes in many forms and for many different reasons.
Gratitude that this more feminine, beautiful, lacy, sensual lingerie exists in a form that actually is made for the male body. Gone are the days of forcing your “bits” into panties, thongs, bras that are uncomfortable for any length of time, and do not fit, that are not even designed for your body shape – the lingerie feels good because it really fits.
Gratitude for the beauty, the colors, the design, the sumptuous fabrics, the care that has been put into the design. All of this makes it just feel good to wear the underwear – it somehow contributes to the body feeling nurtured, looked after and cared for. And your partner can enjoy this too. Of course, he or she can enjoy the visuals, but can also enjoy the way this lingerie makes your body “sing” and come alive!
Men, particularly straight men, also feel really happy that they are not alone, not somehow wrong or weird for desiring to wear this kind of lingerie. It seems it is not at all unusual for straight men to love this underwear, to enjoy wearing it either out and about beneath their clothes, or in the privacy of their own homes with their significant other. Whilst everyone is different, and particularly in the area of sex and sexual expression, knowing there are many thousands of other men out there who share some of the same desires can be reassuring.
People tend to wonder if their desires are “normal”; and whilst my sense is that there is no such thing as “normal” (thank goodness!) when it comes to our sexuality and desire, the community that is developing around the XDress Lingerie can be hugely supportive. Even in the 2020s, this can still be a “fringe” topic if not presented in the right way. However, XDress with its top-quality photography and models presents men’s lingerie in a respectful and attractive manner, showing it’s not a pornographic or an extreme fetish subject that has to be censored or suppressed, but it is something that can be enjoyed by everyone without any sense of shame.
Men and their male and female partners are even saying that this underwear has been a massive contribution to their relationships, even saving their relationships. How can this be so? Well, pretending to be something we are not, in this case pretending to be a happy boxer short wearer or a conventional Y-fronts or tighty whities boy, when you and your body crave something completely different, can literally make you start to feel that you are dying inside.
We get so used to it – pretending to be something we are not to fit in, and this can be amplified in the area of sexuality. It’s the area with the greatest judgment, the most taboo, and can be where we feel the most guilt; having support to live out being who you actually are sexually can literally bring back people’s 'Joie de Vivre!'
Funnily enough, sitting here writing this, I feel happier and happier! It’s obviously true what the experts say about gratitude! I love that this different, bold, beautiful lingerie is available in the world, and also sense that the massive gratitude for it in the community already wearing it is actually starting to invite more people to experience the pleasure of this underwear.
Please join our community of like-minded individuals who offer support unconditionally, by adding your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. It can be totally anonymous; you do not need to give a real name or email address.
Thank you!
Fiona
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D , great story! I can relate! I ve been thinking, with so many of us doing this, is it really that unconventional? Or do we feel that because most people dont know that so many of us are doing it?
Food for thought!!!
I no longer feel the shame and guilt
I accept myself for who i am and what i like! My wife knows but doesn’t encourage! She will see me in xdress panties or bodyaware undies and say nothing
We gone gone for pedicures and she has picked the color
I keep my toes painted
Remember this , no one goes around telling people what kind of underwear they wear.
It’s intimate apparel for a reason
Get ur lingerie on
I did
Stevie
I ll take it!
I’m grateful to my wife. For as long as I can remember I’ve secretively dressed up in women’s underwear. I would wait for an opportunity when I had time alone and excitedly adorn myself in lingerie. There were times where the opportunity was scarce and, without any chance to get dressed up, I yearned to enjoy the feel and look of myself wearing panties, a garter belt and stockings, etc. I’ve also experienced periods where I tried to resist my need to dress up. These were times of denial and self reflection – why do I feel so good when I’m dressed up, am I a crossdresser, am I gay, etc., but I always returned to enjoying my secret habit without any answers other than a deep held feeling of embarrassment or shame. After I got married I felt the need, for the first time in my life, to share my secret. I wanted my wife to know, but how could I tell her? I wasn’t confident enough to have a big confession and so I started out by wearing more risqué men’s underwear occasionally and then very gradually ensured that these became more feminine in terms of the materials and cut. My wife was encouraging with my new underwear choices and so, one evening, I took the plunge and wore a pair of women’s panties without saying anything to her. She was a little shocked but thankfully she wasn’t dismissive. A conversation ensued where she wanted to know if I was gay? – no; did I want to wear other women’s clothing? – only lingerie really; did I think I was transgender – no; how long have I done this – it’s only just developed (I told a white lie here and don’t really know why!). I am grateful to my wife because she has accepted my habit of crossdressing in lingerie and now encourages me to get dressed up. I am grateful to her because I no longer feel embarrassed or ashamed nor the need for for self analysis about my unconventional choice of underwear and the thrill I get from wearing lingerie…
My spirit is leaping for joy as I read this blog and your comments! I’m full of gratitude and deeply desire to sustain it. Knowing and remembering that lots of other “amab” sentient souls love lingerie ( camis, bras and panties oh my!) which may be lacey, delicate, skimpy and beautiful fills me with gratitude. And helps me to embrace me. I’m not unnatural or weird. And xdress company, models, blogs and patrons help me to embrace me too….And for all that, I too am grateful Thank you! Thank you to each of you.💕🦄 PJ
Grateful that I can dress the way I want. My girlfriend picks out my bra and panty set every morning for me. She picks out my “ things” when I have to travel. I love the selection of styles and fabrics that x-dress has to offer. Would love to see the blossom collection in other colors. Also hope to see more satin and lace bra and panty sets. One can never have enough choices. Grateful to be me, and dress accordingly. My way!
Gratitude for everything in life. Health, happiness, friends and family! All very appreciative of all I have and especially happy to have XDress as part of my daily wear! Love the satin collection and cannot wait any longer for the French maid outfit! The fun and adventure this has brought to my life is no it easy to convey. A great site! Thankful for it!